- 4 years ago
… was more about your SO than you?!?! Hear me out (and please note, I’m not trying to bitch, just share my experience and gauge yours).
Throughout the process I’ve gravitated toward less “traditional” ideas for my ring. Three ideas I fell in love with off the bat: a lower color (not fancy) diamond offset by whiter diamonds; a gemstone as a main stone; a five-stone band as the engagement ring. He immediately vetoed all of these ideas! (Insert pouty face.)
The frustrating part is that he continues to tell me he “just wants to make me happy.” Yeah, so those ideas you just shot down — those would make me happy! I’m starting to feel like the ring is more of a point of pride for him. He doesn’t want people to see something that’s not a bright, white diamond and assume he’s “cheap.” (That’s his word not mine.)
I think part of the problem is that, early on, I made the mistake of saying I didn’t want him to spend a ton on a ring, and I was trying to “sell” him on my ideas by throwing in the lower price points. (Insert picture of him puffing out his chest, “I have the money!” Yes I know; I’d just prefer we not spend it on this.) So he thinks I’ve chosen these because of the slightly lower price points, when really I’ve chosen them because I love them — and the lower price is just a bonus!
So I’ve folded. Am letting him choose what he wants because clearly he has some very specific idea in his head. The frustrating thing is hearing him continue to say he just wants to “make me happy.” I’m not sure where he’s getting this idea that a big, round, white diamond is what’s going to do that (the jewelry industry, perhaps), but it appears that’s the direction we’re heading, ladies.
I know, I know. … Hardly the thing to complain about. He has such sweet and good intentions. Plus, he could surprise me in the end. So I should just shut up and be happy. (And I will be, of course, no matter what he picks!)
Anyway, vote and let me know what you thought of your ring shopping experience. The descriptors in parenthesis are to note if you’d consider your ring a “traditional” engagement ring or not.