(Closed) does anyone getting married with a groomzilla???

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh my!!! Why is he taking everything so SERIOUSLY? What is he scared of? Is he the type who really cares about what family thinks and wants to please everybody? Did this start from the start or just recently? Maybe he’ stressed about work, or finances for the wedding? Observe him and his surroundings for a while… see what’s different or what could be the trigger. Then sit down and have a talk with him. Don’t take ‘no’ for an answer! Yell

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I can smile at this, only because my FI and I have passed this stage πŸ™‚ but we were there too! I was so jealous of bees who posted that their grooms were uninvolved in the planning process. That sounded like bliss to me! Our arguments were minor, but seemed huge at the time because we had never argued over anything before. Not one bloody thing until we had to plan a wedding together.

We decided to divide up the jobs. We agreed to just trust each other to make a good decision for us both. He had his areas of responsibility and I had mine. Everything has come together nicely now, with a minimum of fuss and bother. Perhaps this strategy might work for you too.

For better or worse, in good times and bad… he was lucky at times that there was no mention in that passage about an axe to the head πŸ™‚

 

 

Post # 8
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190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Weddings are so very stressful…do you think it’s getting to him? Have you thought about taking a week or so off from the wedding planning or maybe giving him something that he can take the lead on? My FI and I have definitely had our moments so don’t feel like you’re alone! However, I would be remiss if I didn’t say that if his anger is getting our of control or is borderline abusive, you might want to consider addressing that issue outside of the wedding planning stuff because trying to tackle both would be an impossible feat.

Also, I second blossom_bee’s advice. Dividing up the jobs is totally the way to go!!!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I have suspicions that my bf will transform into a groomzilla eventually- he wants to be very involved in the planning process (even down the the dress!) and has always been opinionated. Its kinda funny because I think alot of women complain about the opposite, but I can totally understand how overwhelming it can be! I guess talking to him about it and telling him that shouting and yelling doesnt make the situation better might be a good idea? I also think that disengaging from the outbursts helps as well; your grounded right? you have a clear head? Then whatever he says, react in a way that is calmed and rational, and hopefully he will realize what the stress is doing to him, and to you as well. I think also that taking some time off would be wise! Nothing like recharging both your batteries πŸ™‚

I hope you feel better πŸ™‚

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