Post # 1
I saw a brief clip this past Friday on 20/20 about groomzillas and I thought it might be interesting to see how many bees have a groomzilla on their hands.
My FH has shocked me a little with how much he wants to have a say. When we first got engaged I figured I was going to be doing all the planning. Heck, I am the one that sat on pinterest the year prior to, dreaming about the day he would propose.
Anywho, shortly after I started planning our wedding day he let me know that he had veto rights. His first veto…my rustic barn idea. I let him win that fight and I’m thankful I did. He also had input on my dress color. He wants his bride in white/ivory. Unfortunately, my family and I fell in love with Ruthie by Mori Lee (in Rosa). So, he gave in.
I don’t have a groomzilla on my hands, but there is a lot more compromising going on with our wedding planning then I thought. I am glad he cares. After all it is OUR DAY!
So, do you have a groomzilla on your hands? What kind of input has your SO surprised you with?
Post # 3
Well I am glad no one has a groomzilla on their hands. 🙂
Post # 4
Totally dealing with the same thing. I’m like ummm I’ve been planning this since I first watched Cinderella… lol back up!
Post # 5
@mrschmura: Not a groomzilla but my FI has strong ideas (flowers, my veil length, bridesmaids dresses)
Post # 6
DH wasn’t so much a groomzilla but he did play an active role in the wedding planning. For example, he designed and made our wedding invitations, wedding programs, and menus; he nixed my sweetheart table idea in favor of a head table; he was pretty vocal in the flavors of the wedding cake; he picked out his GMs’ tuxes; organized the play list for the DJ; found and booked the limo; and help me find the videographer. Sometimes I wanted to rip my hair out with his suggestions, but overall, he was a lot of help.
Post # 7
I don’t think I’ll have a groomzilla, but he surprises me sometimes with what he has opinions on! We’ll see! If all else fails, I’ll point out he got his 6 months of scheming and plotting during ring shopping and planning a surprise proposal. And then distract him with his Xbox. 😛
Post # 8
My FI is in Afghainstan and still he is making decisions. He said wait until he comes home but he is emailing venues, photographers, etc. when he has the time. Of course, he tells them to contact me if they have any questions. Well, believe it or not I dont get to talk to him very often so I am getting email from people who I have no idea what the hell is going on.
We have hired a wedding planner because he doesnt want me stressed but he will email the wedding planner and wants details to the point where the wedding planner is asking me I thought he was waiting until he gets home.
I told the wedding planner to hang in there he is just looking for a distraction right now because he cant control his coming home so he is keeping himself busy when he is not working.
Post # 9
Ha, certain aspects of the wedding deeeeefinitely bring out the groomzilla in my FH! We’ve had little bickering moments about some details he cares a lot about, nothing huge, but I’ve discovered there are things he REALLY wants a certain way and cares more than I do!
Post # 10
haha I sort of have a groomzilla situation going on. My fiances friends have been emailing me about what awesome gift for them to all go in on for him (apparently they do this everytime one of the guys gets married) well, obviously my guy doesn’t know they’ve been emailing me so the other day he goes on and on about how his friends don’t care about him and how they aren’t even gonna do the big gift they do for everyone. I asked him how he could possibly know this and he said they havent even asked me what i want!!! It was kinda funny, kinda sad. I totally refuse to let him know they have it all planned out but yea… totally a groomzilla moment for him… i kinda love it lol makes me feel less crazy
Post # 11
No groomzilla here. He keeps telling me, “this is your day, all i care about is that you’re there, and at the end of the day, we’re married”. He’s so sweet.
When he has expressed interest, I let him have his way, [He wanted one of our wedding colors to be black, and he really likes the look of calla lillies. He also wants to get a potted birds of paradise for his mom].
Post # 12
I wouldn’t say that I have a groomzilla, as we have similar tastes, but if we differed… I think I would. haha. He’d veto things as well, like barns, girly colors, all kinds of music, certain flowers… etc. He likes purple, but only DARK purples… he doesn’t want medium/light purples, and no pinks (I don’t like pink so it’s fine, and I also don’t want it to look too “girly” … even though I hate that term). He just doesn’t want it to look like a girl’s event. haha.
He has his opinions, but doesn’t really understand that they have to be done so far ahead of time, and that there are so many options/ways of doing things that need to be taken into consideration and that things take research and work. I like that he wants to have say, I just wish he would put in the effort of figuring things out. I end up having to figure/finding things out, and then he gets puts in what he likes and what he doesn’t after I come up with some stuff. PLUS… he has SUCH a hard time imagining/picturing things that ideas are VERY hard to get passed him. He’s like “Umm… maybe. I’m not sure. I’d have to see it.” And I’m all… I can’t… give you a picture, exactly. lol Oh well.
Post # 13
I kinda wish mine would have an opinion on something. Anything. Just once. Colors? Doesn’t care. Food? Whatever I want. Indoor or outdoor? Should we or should we not have dancing? No opinion. And guess who planned/booked the honeymoon? Yep. Me. Once I finally harangued him into deciding between a cruise or Disneyland. (Cruise)
I think he’s taking the “it’s the brides day” concept a bit far. Too much pressure for just one me!!
Before people ask if he doesn’t actually want to get married, he tells me often how much he’s looking forward to being married to me (awwwww!)
Dude’s just lazy.
Post # 14
@MrsChamp: I completely understand what you are saying. There are times when I want an opinion and he just doesn’t have one. Which in turn stresses me out because I then feel like I am making this BIG decision for the both of us.
Post # 15
i’ve had to push a bit, but FI has gotten the idea that I would like his input. He did have a slight freak out moment last week. My mom has been meeting with the venue on our behalf because we can’t get down to visit it. She had a meeting with the caterer about a custom menu, and aparently the guy LOVES bacon. Like loves it to the point that the venue manager kept interjecting ‘you know some people like to eat vegetarian’. Some people would be me and FI. FI does not care for bacon, and when I told him about my conversation with my mother he freaked out that there was going to be bacon in everything. Once I reminded him that it’s a custom menu and that we get to approve it first he calmed down and reminded me “I’m going to have input on the food, that’s something I care about” So he’s not a groomzilla, but there are a few things that he is very particular about.
Post # 16
My FI is very hands on with this wedding. IDK if i’d call him a groomzilla but he’s very close to it. He sometimes won’t ask me if I want this or that he just sayd making a hideous face “You’re not getting THAt are you?” and then he makes comments about just about EVERYTHING and it’s pretty annoying since its starting to make me worry about EVERYTHING I have in mind vs what HE wants.
I am happy he is helpful but at the same time I wish he’d be less opinionated in such a way where it doesn’t give me any option to get what i like out of fear of him hating it.