Does anyone have a hard time verbalizing why you love your fiance?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Can you explain why you think your fiance is the ONE?
    Of course, the words flow out of my mouth as if I were a $8 Hallmark Greetings Card. : (8 votes)
    16 %
    Not at all, it comes out sounding like I had to make up a reason altogether. : (33 votes)
    65 %
    Ehh, I have no idea how I sound nor do I care. : (10 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 2
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    1136 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    Sort of yea! I can certainly think of a tonne of wonderful things to say about him but I think the reason I know he’s ‘the one’ is a feeling that can’t really be put in to words.. I thought i’d been in love before but nothing like what I have with my FI.. and yes it is hard to explain! It’s just a constant state of being at ease and happy and feeling like things just ‘fit’.

    I sometimes feel like when I describe it, it feels lame and generic too but maybe that’s because there aren’t words that really express how wonderful it is, so nothing really sounds right?

    I actually feel like NOT feeling the need to shout our love from the rooftops and promote it all over facebook etc shows its the real deal because you don’t need to prove it to yourself or anyone else. You just know!

    Post # 3
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    1988 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Oh yes, I have that problem too! I mean, of course it’s so easy to say that he’s smart, funny, good looking, sweet, caring, dropped everything and took me home and to the doctor when I had an eye infection while we were on holiday and never complained about it for a second, puts up with me when I’m stressed out (no easy task! lol) etc. etc. but I could also say most of those things about family members or really good friends. 

    I just explain to people that it’s that certain “je-ne-sais-pas-quoi” feeling that you either have or don’t have. I knew he was “the one” after one week of dating him. 

    I have noticed though that as we turn older, people don’t ask that question quite as much anymore as they did 10 years ago (I’m turning 30 this year). I guess that’s because more people already have that “when you know, you know” experience under their belt. 

    Post # 4
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    1107 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    Yes! I find it so difficult to talk about my relationship with FI to other people. I feel so cheesey/lame explaining it and I always get all flustered and weird. Sometimes I think they’ll feel like I don’t like him at all but I don’t care, I know what I feel.

    Post # 5
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    109 posts
    Blushing bee

    I always used to end up saying “He makes me laugh” which sounds so cliche.  I’ve now taken to telling people that our friends compare us to Cory and Topanga from Boy Meets World.  We’ve made them believe that love is real.  That’s always been a wonderful compliment to us, and I think it tells the story better than trying to explain it with reasons.

    Post # 6
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    525 posts
    Busy bee

    I find it difficult to verbalize because it is personal to me. I don’t like sharing the intimate details of why I love him because I like to keep it between us. Probably weird, but eh. 

    Post # 7
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    2455 posts
    Buzzing bee

    MrsHistory-Bee:  I always have a hard time explaining it when I’m caught off guard. When we got engaged (after 8 years together) his father asked me “Why do you want to marry my son?”. Not in a judgemental way, but more of a I-want-to-hear-how-much-my-son-is-cared-for way.

    My answer to this was my best one to date. It went something like:

    “I’m happy when I’m with him regardless of where we are or what we’re doing, I find myself wanting to put his happiness before my own, and I feel like he brings out the best version of me.” and then a lot of stuff about how we basically grew up and changed together and how I’m a better person with him.

    My worst answers usually end up sounding just really cliche. Like “I can’t see myself with anyone else” BUT IT’S TRUE! lol

    Post # 8
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    643 posts
    Busy bee

    busybee3791:  I feel the same way. I don’t think anyone has ever asked me that question before and I would find it strange if they did. I had an easy time writing my vows and I always verbalize my love to my partner. I don’t feel the need to verbalize it to anyone else. 

    Post # 9
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    1779 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    MrsHistory-Bee:  I can totally relate to this. I always end up saying ‘you just know’ which sounds really stupid. But for me, that was true. We started off during a very difficult time in our lives (separate things for both of us) and everyone told us it wasn’t worth it to pursue but we just KNEW we had to. It’s probably different for everyone and love is very complex.

    Post # 10
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    3097 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    Yes! Though I’ve always had trouble verbally expressing myself, but questions like that put me on the spot & I never know where to start. 

    Post # 13
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    128 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I think it just comes down to the way I feel when I am with him, he makes me feel so good, so secure, I can name a million great qualities that he has, but ultimately it just that feeling, I never had anything like that before, everyone else pales in comparison.

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