Post # 1
I feel very fortunate to have a spouse that is really involved in the process of TTC and charting. He is currently reading TCOYF with me, he wakes me up and tells me to take my temperature, and he’ll ask to see my chart.
I love it! I didn’t expect for him to be so supportive of me in this, and so understanding, but he is very knowledgeable about this and wants to go on this ‘journey’ with me, so to speak.
Yesterday (as we were preparing to BD, lol) he asked me “Are you ovulating today?” It was adorable! I love that we’re experiencing this together, instead of me doing it and him not understanding how the process works- I truly feel like equal partners in TTC. I told him that sperm can live for up to 5 days and since my estimated O day is the 17th, we could actually have BD tonight and still get pregnant. His response was, “But we need to have sex every day so we have fresh sperm so the first round hits your egg.” I almost died right there.
He asks questions all the time, such as “How can you tell which CM is a sign of ovulation?” or “What does a positive OPK look like?”
Let me tell you, it is GREAT! I love sharing this experience with him, and I feel like he will really know what’s going on with my body.
I will admit, it was weird initially that he wanted to know so much- about CM, ovulation, etc. but I love it now! It makes me feel like I’m not doing this alone. He actually went to my consult with my gyno when we discussed TTC, and he was asking all sorts of questions- it was impressive!
Does anyone else have a significant other that is just as involved in the TTC process as you are? From what I read on here, most other halves don’t really ‘get’ TTC, so I wanted to know if there were others whose SO is actually involved/likes the process!
Post # 3
Just have to say I read your title and thought “um, duh, it takes two!”
Post # 4
@almostmrsj: Title edited to clear up any possible confusion there.
Post # 5
That is so dear! I love that your husband is so involved.
My husband is excited about the idea of TTC generally, but has little-to-no idea about the details. I think he has finally caught on to the fact that we need to BD in the vicinity of ovulation to get pregnant, but that is about all he knows.
The poor man is very book smart, but has a 3rd grader’s understanding of female anatomy. When we were engaged he actually asked me if women peed out of their butt. Hahaha!
If we don’t concieve this cycle, I’m going to encourage him to read TCOYF and get more involved. Thank you for sharing this sweet story.
Post # 6
@rusticgirl: Before reading TCOYF, DH didn’t know much about anything. Now, he almost knows more than me! That book is so, so helpful and explained in a way that most people can understand. FX for you!!
Post # 7
@mrstea83: your husband gets A+ for being super supportive during this time. I’ve explained to my husband about charting, OPK, ovulation, TCOYF, but he’s not involved in day-to-day activities. Sometimes I get stressed and anxious, and I rather not transfer that to my husband. And let’s be honest, if it’s not related to sports, my husband will not wake up at 5:30am (that’s when I temp). But when it comes down to BDing, he’s 100% committed and prepared. Every day, even if I tell him every other day.
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Sure, my DH is involved in this process emotionally and physically. But as far as doing research? No, not really. He’s definitely supportive and will listen to me when I want/need to talk about what’s going on with my body/chart/etc. He’s always a lot more positive than I am, so that helps me stress less. But as soon as I bring up anything gross (like CM), he makes a face and I can tell he really doesn’t want to know that much about it.
Honestly, I think my DH is happy not knowing every scientific detail about TTC because he loves the magic in it. Birth is a miracle, and I think he prefers concentrating on the magical, miracle side of birth than the less glamorous, nitty-gritty, sometimes gross details. And I’m ok with that. 🙂 He helps balance me out and keeps TTC from becoming an overwhelming, all-consuming task. There’s no pressure or awkwardness (except that very first unprotected BD session, LOL!). It doesn’t feel like we have a TTC schedule. It’s still very relaxed and all about us and our love for each other. I’m a very happy wife. 😉
Post # 9
@mrstea83: awwww! that is awesome that he is so involved. My DH isn’t too much involved in the charting and whatnot, and I purposely don’t try to get him more into it. I didn’t want him to have any performance anxiety around ovulation! 🙂
@rusticgirl: HAHahahahaha! Peeing out of your butt! That’s so adorably clueless. I love it!
Post # 10
Even though something effect the both of us, there are somethings that I mostly handle, such as my body as it pertains to TTC and things that he mostly takes care of, like taxes. I have long cycles, so when I tell him we need to BD, he’ll ask me something like ‘have I laid an egg yet’ and ‘what does my pee stick’ say, but that’s about it.
Post # 11
My husband isn’t involved per say, but he has asked questions and I have shown him my chart and he knows how to read it. We’re not TTC yet but I hope he’ll get more into it when we are. I promised not to tell him when we HAD to BD, just because I don’t want to scare him! I’m thinking if it takes us a while, he might want to know more. It’s so great to hear about a guy so involved!!
Post # 12
we’re not trying for a baby right now, but we took our nfp class together so he knows how it all works and he’ll ask me questions about what phase of my cycle i’m in and such.