Does anyone have an SO/FI/DH/DW that is involved in the charting process?

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Just have to say I read your title and thought “um, duh, it takes two!”

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

That is so dear! I love that your husband is so involved. Smile

My husband is excited about the idea of TTC generally, but has little-to-no idea about the details. I think he has finally caught on to the fact that we need to BD in the vicinity of ovulation to get pregnant, but that is about all he knows.

The poor man is very book smart, but has a 3rd grader’s understanding of female anatomy. When we were engaged he actually asked me if women peed out of their butt. Hahaha!

If we don’t concieve this cycle, I’m going to encourage him to read TCOYF and get more involved. Thank you for sharing this sweet story.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mrstea83:  your husband gets A+ for being super supportive during this time. I’ve explained to my husband about charting, OPK, ovulation, TCOYF, but he’s not involved in day-to-day activities. Sometimes I get stressed and anxious, and I rather not transfer that to my husband. And let’s be honest, if it’s not related to sports, my husband will not wake up at 5:30am (that’s when I temp). But when it comes down to BDing, he’s 100% committed and prepared. Every day, even if I tell him every other day.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

Sure, my DH is involved in this process emotionally and physically.  But as far as doing research?  No, not really.  He’s definitely supportive and will listen to me when I want/need to talk about what’s going on with my body/chart/etc.  He’s always a lot more positive than I am, so that helps me stress less.  But as soon as I bring up anything gross (like CM), he makes a face and I can tell he really doesn’t want to know that much about it.

Honestly, I think my DH is happy not knowing every scientific detail about TTC because he loves the magic in it.  Birth is a miracle, and I think he prefers concentrating on the magical, miracle side of birth than the less glamorous, nitty-gritty, sometimes gross details.  And I’m ok with that.  🙂  He helps balance me out and keeps TTC from becoming an overwhelming, all-consuming task.  There’s no pressure or awkwardness (except that very first unprotected BD session, LOL!).  It doesn’t feel like we have a TTC schedule.  It’s still very relaxed and all about us and our love for each other.  I’m a very happy wife.  😉

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mrstea83:  awwww! that is awesome that he is so involved. My DH isn’t too much involved in the charting and whatnot, and I purposely don’t try to get him more into it. I didn’t want him to have any performance anxiety around ovulation! 🙂

 

@rusticgirl:  HAHahahahaha! Peeing out of your butt! That’s so adorably clueless. I love it!

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Even though something effect the both of us, there are somethings that I mostly handle, such as my body as it pertains to TTC and things that he mostly takes care of, like taxes.  I have long cycles, so when I tell him we need to BD, he’ll ask me something like ‘have I laid an egg yet’ and ‘what does my pee stick’ say, but that’s about it.

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

My husband isn’t involved per say, but he has asked questions and I have shown him my chart and he knows how to read it. We’re not TTC yet but I hope he’ll get more into it when we are. I promised not to tell him when we HAD to BD, just because I don’t want to scare him! I’m thinking if it takes us a while, he might want to know more. It’s so great to hear about a guy so involved!!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

we’re not trying for a baby right now, but we took our nfp class together so he knows how it all works and he’ll ask me questions about what phase of my cycle i’m in and such.

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