Post # 1
Darling Husband was diagnosed with gallbladder disease today. He’s been experiencing crippling abdominal pains so we went to urgent care this morning. We have a follow up tomorrow with his new primary but we’re thinking this is probably going to result in him having to have his gallbladder removed. Aside from just surgery, he needs to change his entire diet which means that I need to change my entire diet. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing since we really should be eating better but the list of things that he can’t eat is overwhelming and pretty much EVERYTHING that we’re used to. It also doesn’t help that everything I read online is totally contradicting. This whole process is super frustrating.
I feel so bad for him because he’s in so much pain. He’s seriously one of the toughest guys I know and to see him in such a state of agony is heartbreaking. It doesn’t help that tomorrow is my birthday and he feels like he’s ruining it. I’m not gonna lie, I’m a little sad since I was looking forward to it but I know that he can’t help it. To make matters worse, we planned to go to Montreal this weekend to see one of DH’s favorite bands (I got him tix for his bday a few weeks ago) and now we don’t know if we can go anymore. We were planning on celebrating my birthday whlie there but it looks like this weekend will consist of fat free chicken noodle soup and hydocodone (sp?) instead of a juicy steak and live music. We seriously have the worst timing ever!
Anyway, does anyone have experience with gallbladder disease or gall stones (which I assume are one in the same but I don’t really know)? I’m trying to prepare myself for what’s in store.
Post # 3
Aw, I’m sorry you’re going through this! I’ve had a small gallstone before and the pain just from a small one is absolutely horrible – stabbing, cramping pain that can make it hard to breathe. Your poor Darling Husband… 🙁
I haven’t had anything since my one gallstone, but my doctor said it’s very common for them to reoccur once you’ve had one, so we’ll see. Surgery really could be his best option. It will fix the problem, and there are very few risks of not having a gallbladder.
I’m really sorry you’re going through this! Along with the difficult time with him being sick, it sounds like the diet changes are really overwhelming. Take it one day at a time and concentrate on the positives of getting to try new things. I think it’s great you’re willing to do this along with him. A lot of people would have just said, “well, sucks for you that you can’t eat that anymore!” I’m sure it means a lot to him to have you supporting him through this in every way you can.
Post # 4
My mom had it, and a friend of mine had it. Both of them ended up getting their gallbladders removed. IDK about your husband, but my mom tried the diet for a while but it’s SUPER restrictive. She couldn’t eat any fat whatsoevr or she’d be in a lot of pain.
Post # 5
The diet does suck. My mom had gall stones and since getting her gallbladder removed, she’s back to eating pretty much whatever she wants.
Post # 6
@subbywife11: He didn’t expect me to do it with him but I couldn’t imagine eating something that he so desperately wants infront of him. I probably won’t go to such extremes as he has to (like, he can’t have ANY dairy and I require atleast a glass of milk a day) but I’m going to do everything that I can to support him. He really appreciates it and I know he’d do the same for me.
I’ve read a lot about the surgery and it seems minimally invasive. A bunch of first hand reports said that they were back to normal after only 2-3 days. I hope that’s how it pans out for Darling Husband because he won’t cope well if he’s out of commission much longer. Most stories I’ve read have said that they wished they would have gotten the surgery sooner. So many people suffer with debilitating gall stones for years when a simple surgery and a few days recovery would do the trick. He’s concerned about never being able to eat fats or sugars again since he won’t have a gallbladder but I don’t think that’s the case. The poor guy is picturing a world without cookies and Reece’s. Thats a world he doesn’t want to live in! lol
@Future MrsB: Yea, the diet is insane. Petty much fruits, veggies, fish (which neither of us like) and lean poulty is all he can eat. No saturated fats. No spicy food. Nothing greasy. He’s so sad that he won’t be able to have a burrito for a while. Depressed about it, even.
Post # 7
@iheartnerds: Good to know! How long ago did she have it removed?
Post # 8
I had gall-stones when I was a kid (1st grade). All I can remember is either staying home from school or not playing at recess because my stomach hurt too much. I ended up having my gallbladder removed later that year. Thankfully, I haven’t really experienced any ill effects in the many years that have passed since. I just have a really kickass scar and far fewer stomach aches. Also, the only restrictions to my diet are more self-imposed since I’m just a picky eater.
Post # 9
@UpstateCait: Do you know if he has cholelithiasis or cholecystitis? They usually go together, but the forer is gallstones, and the latter is inflammation of the gallbladder.
Usually treatment is a cholecystectomy (removal of gallbladder) — it’s the most commonly done procedure. There are oral meds that can be taken to dissolve the stones too, but they aren’t used as often.
As for the diet, after he gets it out (if that happens!) he just has to ease back into his regular diet because he won’t have a gallbladder to filter the bile, and his body has to get used to it.
Good luck and I hope everything turns out ok! 🙂
Post # 10
I had mine removed. The pain before was terrible. I mean, just the worst. I still have alot of digestion problems. It’s frustrating, I won’t lie. There is a lot I can’t eat. If you have any questions, feel free to ask! Good luck!
Eta: I have had mine removed for 8 years now. I didn’t fit the gallstones prototype very well so it took them several months to diagnose. They never gave me any dietary restrictions, but some foods make me feel worse than others and I have just come to figure it out over time through trial and error. I havent cut out ANYTHING from my diet all together, but just try to eat really clean for awhile if I intend to eat something that I know can upset my stomach, and limit how much of it I plan on eating.
Post # 11
Fiance had his gallbladder removed and he was given no dietary restrictions. He left the hospital the same day and was up and around within two days, though “around” was a bit slow at first. Good luck to your DH!
Post # 12
He should totally just go right to the surgery. It’s really not a bad procedure and then he can go back to life as normal. To me, it’s would be way too difficult to stick with that diet, and then if he caved or ate something bad accidentally, he’d be in a lot of pain again. Much better to be out of commission for 3 days and then back to normal.
Post # 13
My grandfather did. It eventually got so bad that his liver had gangrene (sorry!) in it so they removed it. He never had any dietary restrictions after surgery and he was fine.
Post # 14
One of my friends is a gallbladder surgeon and he says that gallbladder removals are different now than they used to be. There is absolutely no scar and less pain and the gallbladder comes out through the belly button.
I’d much rather have the surgery than be in pain/ not be able to eat normally. (Although I regularly eat a strict diet like the one your husband was given).
Post # 15
I had my gallbladder removed about 4 years ago. It was very minimally invasive – I only stayed overnight at the hospital because my surgery wasn’t until 7pm.
I had never had a problem before my first attack – but that one was bad enough – I couldn’t imagine it happening more than once! When they did a sonogram of my gallbladder I had several large(ish) gallstones. That is what prompted them to go ahead and remove my gallbladder.
The worst part of the surgery is the gas that they use to “inflate” your abdomen. It is a little painful after surgery while the gas is trying to expell.
Post # 16
I had it. I had pains everytime I ate something fatty or greasy. But ut took forever to find out what it was! I thought I was constipated or thought it was indegestion. Never thought I had gallstones!!!
I went to get an ultrasound and when the lady was watching the screen, I knew I had gallstones. I saw the screen.
Well I went to talk to a surgeon. She said I had two choices. Get rid of the gallstones or get rid of the gallbladder. Obviously I told her that I want to get rid of the gallbladder. New gallstones can form.
Had the surgery about 3 years ago. And sooo worth it. No more pains, no more new gallstones forming or limits on what I can eat.
Anyway, I would recommend him getting it done. But be warned. First couple of days feels like your stomach is open,feels like that couse they do a few cuts to get the gallbladder out. I used a folded bedsheet to hold against my stomach. It felt better when I did and when I was trying to get out of bed.
FYI, if he does get it done, please tell him to talk to the surgeon or whoever is in charge of pain medication when he wakes up. I did not have enough pain medication when I woke up from the surgery. I woke up crying. My stomach hurt so bad!! And I freaked out a student nurse. I remember her asking the other nurse,”if its always like this”? She asked this when I was crying and me telling them that I have tons of pain. But they eventually gave me morphine or whatever it was and the pain went away. So yeah you tell him to make sure that he gets enough when he wakes up so he dosnet have to go through what I did.
Anyway, tell him good luck. It will get better. 🙂