Does anyone here wish they had hyphenated their name?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I never regret not hyphenating.  That is my least favorite option.  I changed to his name and made my maiden name my middle name, but the only 2 options for me were not to change or to take his name and make my maiden name my middle name.  I think hyphenating is too much trouble!

Post # 4
187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: mountain venue

i am definitely hyphenating my name and couldnt imagine it any other way!!

Post # 5
585 posts
Busy bee

I wish it were standard to hyphenate, just because you are marrying into his family and becoming his wife does not mean you are leaving yours! You are two families now (and should have the two names to proove it!)

BUT at the same time, it is the culture and the standard to do drop the maiden name and usually put it as your middle.

Like OP, I am planning on having mine as First Middle Maiden His, but I have heard that you can’t just change your middle name at the DPS (like changing your last), you have to go to the court house to submit for an official change of name. AND on most forms you can only put one middle name, so most times it’s pointless to have two, so one becomes primary. I don’t know…  


Post # 6
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I don’t need a 6 syllable last name, so, no, not hypehnating

Post # 9
2248 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

I took his last name & while I don’t regret it, I do wish I would have dropped my current middle name & replaced it with my maiden name!

Post # 10
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Cadillac mountain

I can’t imagine not hyphenating. He is hyphenating as well so our future kids will have the same last name as both of us. Our last name will be 21 characters including the hyphen but I’m not too worried about it. You could refer to yourself as Sue A Smith Jones which would work instead of hyphenating

Post # 11
1649 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I won’t hyphenate my name as it’s already long. Our kids are going to end up having four middle names anyways (3 different cultures), and if I had a hyphenated name I would also want them to have one too. But then they would have six names, which isn’t ideal. 

I also have no middle name so I plan on making my maiden name my middle name, or creating a new middle name entirely. 

Post # 12
6789 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

Our names sound really weird hyphenated together, so I just went with his.

Post # 13
20 posts
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m actually not taking my FI’s last name because I don’t want to deal with the paper work of changing my last name. My FI’s last name is already hyphenated as well and he has told me how troublesome it is sometimes when it comes to filling out paperwork.

Post # 14
2428 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If I hyphenated, my name would be Tara Abcdefghijk-Lmnopqrstuv. My maiden name is 11 letters long and a big challenge for people to pronounce. I was very ready to change. My new one is 10 letters, but phonetic.

Post # 15
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

I am taking FIs last name. I’m one of those traditional old bats who thinks it’s ‘proper’ albeit not for everyone. But I like being ‘his’

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