Does anyone keep the gender of the baby a surprise anymore?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Daizy914:  We only JUST found out I’m pregnant, and last I knew (before we were even TTC) we were at odds, but I don’t want to find out… So we probably won’t this time (my concession would be for any future kids we could find out).  Its kind of a tradition in my family to not find out (at least for the first one) and I would like to keep it going. 🙂

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Daizy914:  Yup team green right here!  I have found that most people do find out the sex and I’ve had more than a few comments on how they could never do it, but good for us.  It’s really really tough trying to shop for clothes for baby, but picking out gender neutral gear has been great and we know we will easily be able to re-use everything for another baby.  

We are now almost 36 weeks and cannot wait to find out what’s been beating me up.  The idea of finding out at delivery is incredible and we absolutely cannot wait.  Talk about a good motivator during push time too.  🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

when FI and i have kids, we won’t be finding out the gender. i see it as one of the only true surprises in life.

Post # 6
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Newbee

We didn’t find out and it was the best, most exciting thing when we heard “we have a boy”!! Plus we didn’t get all pink or blue stuff for our shower. Also we got very little clothes which was great because we got the bigger stuff that we really needed!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We’re not finding out! But now that I’m getting close to the time where I could know (I’m in my 17th week), I totally see the appeal of finding out in advance. It’s not as much a preparation and color scheme thing for me as it is a bonding thing – I think it would be a lot easier to bond with the baby if I could assign a gender and finally stop fumbling over what to call the baby – he/she, the baby, a nickname, it?!? 

That said, I’m really excited to keep it a surprise for the birth! It’s going to be my little reward for getting through labor haha. Although for the record, I think it’s still a “surprise” either way – you’re either surprised at the gender scan or surprised a few months later. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My husband and I had decided long before we got pregnant that we didn’t want to know the gender of the baby until birth.  I’ve gotten a lot of comments about how difficult it must be, but honestly it’s one of the true suprises in life, and we can’t wait to meet our little one, regardless of boy or girl.

My dad is convinced that we know and just won’t tell, but when this baby shows up in about a month, we’ll know along with everyone else.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

When SO and I have kids we’ve agreed to not find out. As long as I have a healthy baby girl or boy, I will be happy. My mom was team green with me, so if she can do it, so can I.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I actually know several people that didn’t find out gender and I don’t plan to find out either!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

My FI and I have decided to not find out when the time comes. All of the reasons people give for finding out are totally valid, but don’t really apply to my thoughts on it. I like the idea of gender neutral items because they can be used for your second, third, etc. babies. I have found that people tend to gift things other than clothes when the sex of the baby isn’t known. I wanted to spend some time with the baby before I named him/her anyways, so I don’t mind not being able to pick out a name before. And honestly, I just can’t wait for that “IT’S A [INSERT SEX OF THE BABY]!” in the delivery room. I know that having the sex of the baby known doesn’t diminish the excitement, but I just think for me, I’ve ruined enough surprises in my life. I want this to be the ultimate surprise. Then for the second or third we can find out if it’s really that bad. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

We didn’t find out the gender and I loved it! I loved all of the discussion we got to have with everyone about “maybe it’s a boy and….” or “maybe it’s a girl and….”. It made the whole pregnancy so much more exciting because of the mystery. I still felt just as bonded with my little one while I was pregnant, it was just one added layer of “I wonder what he/she will be like…” And the moment when we got to share the news that he was finally here and he was a boy and what his name was just too overwhelming for words. It was one of the most joyous moments of my life and I’m so glad we did it that way!

We bought all gender neutral stuff which we can re-use for any future children. I did a gender neutral nursery which I personally thinks looks so much more modern than a lot of the gender-specific nurseries out there.

I bought a few gender neutral onesies to get us through the first few days and then we got LOTS of clothes as gifts once people knew the sex, so I barely had to actually buy any boys clothes once he was born.

I find that even since we had our son, I still gravitate towards gender neutral things (high chair, bouncy seat…etc) because they just are so much more practical for the future.

The only thing that kinda sucked is that everyone had their “guess” on the gender, and EVERYONE said boy, so when he was born and the Dr. announced “it’s a boy,” i kinda was like “oh yeah, everyone was right.” But it was still pretty damn cool!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i have never wanted to know and still feel that way.  i can’t imagine it changing once i am pregnant.  i’ve always wanted to be surprised. 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

We’re planning on finding out with the first one and maybe being team green for our second? I think it would be fun to experience both. I want to do neutral colours anyways for lots of stuff so that it can be reused easily for our second. The main reason to find out is because I really hate the unknown and I think being pregnant and giving birth for the first time will be enough to handle. I think it would be nice to have a bit more control while I’m getting used to everything. I also want to do a cute cake to reveal the gender to my parents (: I think it would be really exciting not to know though, which is why we’re thinking that the second pregnancy would be the best time (for us) to be team green.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

 

kate02121:  We aren’t finding out either and we actually did choose to nickname our baby, it’s name is currently “Button”, it really does help with the whole connection thing. I didn’t want to call it “It” something about that seems really off.

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