Post # 1
I’m struggling a bit right now with something, and it’s kind of hard to describe.
To put it bluntly, my colleagues tend to inadvertently make me feel embarrassed or childlike whenever I express excitement or any type of ‘happiness’. It’s like they’re too “cool” to be positive, or they’re all cynics or something.
Take today for instance: We’ve had some trouble with our building/office lately, and today when I was trying to get in touch with one of the landlords for an answer to a slightly urgent matter, he texted me back and said something along the lines of, “Can you get someone else to sign? Am at the hospital. Just became a grandfather”.
I, for one, was delighted for him and congratulated him. When I told my colleagues about his message, they were either neutral or acted irritated because we needed an answer from him.
Like, is it so hard to be happy for others? I know it put a very minor wrench in our works, but life happens!
My boss has also rolled her eyes at me in similar situations. And it reallllly bothers me.
What I’m trying to get at, is that I always feel like an immature child around these people, because I guess I tend to look at the world through ‘rose coloured glasses.’
Don’t get me wrong – I’m not some eternally bubbly person who would say something like, “Looks like somebody’s got a case of the Mondays!” or something. I’m just an optimist, I guess. And most people are not.
Does anyone else feel this way?
Post # 3
I’m lucky to work with positive people right now. It’s awesome! But I definitely have been around people like that and it blows. Don’t let them affect you too much! It’s so much better to live life enjoying things!!!
Post # 4
I am not in this type of situation currently, but I know how you feel. You’re not at all immature, or child-like. Optimism is a good trait to have, so dont let them get you down!
If it helps, I used to get yelled at for saying “thank you” too often. “Thank you for dinner” “Thank you for buying me ____.” I was raised right.. soooorrrry! 😛
Just keep being fabulous! At least you dont have to be moody like them! 😀
Post # 5
Don’t let them get you down! I am the same way.
What awful, grey lives they must leave where they are “too cool” to be happy for someone else.
Just keep being you, even though I know it’s hard, because you don’t want them to bring you down. And you never know, you might one day have one of them join you in your happiness.
Haters gonna Hate.
Post # 6
@MsGolightly: You honestly sound like you would be awesome to work with! I can’t stand people who are always negative and act like its the “cool” thing to do. Lighten up already!
@Excited To Bee: My SOs cousin is like this! I hate going out anywhere with him because he’s always giving me such a hard time about saying please and thank you to people. Ugh.
Post # 7
@floridagirlblue: I’m so jealous you work with great people! You’re right though – life is much better when you look on the bright side 🙂 My FI says it’s one of his favourite things about me, so I guess I wouldn’t change it, but I still have those moments during the day where I feel reduced to about 7 years old again…
Like, *pat pat* “Isn’t she cute…”
@Excited To Bee: That’s a good description – they are moody! I can’t believe anyone would take issue with you saying Thank You too often… bizarre! The world needs more of your type 🙂
Post # 8
“Be optimistic, Don’t you be a grumpy, When the road gets bumpy.. Just smile, smile, smile and be happy!…”
Thats all I know. I think its a very good thing to have a positive attitude! Yes, life can be hard, but whats the point of being negative? You rock those rose colored glasses!
Post # 9
Thanks guys. It really is nice to know that other people have had similar experiences.
@Everdeen: “Haters gonna hate” – never a truer word was spoken, lol.
@DeadlyNightshade: Yes, it gets tiresome to be around these downers. I guess it’s part of the reason why I’m not really enjoying life in this city. If you can’t be happy with the people you’re spending 9 hours a day with, then you’re screwed, in my book.
@ohulani: I totally agree… life is too short to be grumpy and negative. And it’s boring too! 🙂
Post # 10
Some people are just programmed to see the negative. I try to see the best in every situation and it can be exhausting and demoralizing when you’re not around that. Try to let it roll off your back. They can think what they would like, but optimism leads to a much happier life than cynicism.
Post # 11
Yep, I get this all the time at work. Doesn’t bother me personally, but sucks working in a place like that. It’s worse than working alone, there are people but they don’t act people (if that makes sense lol). If anything I think it’s sad they can’t find joy from simple things or others’ happiness!
Sometimes my boss just looks at me when I say something like she’s humoring a child, or like she’s irritated occasionally. Which I think is exactly what you’re describing. Once she said “You get happy at the little things, I lost that somewhere, so please don’t stop. I enjoy watching it.”.
The only people at work NOT like her are contracted… like me (temp) for a project or a company that comes to do X job. They have a lot of these people because they don’t have to pay benefits or ruin the company image lol.
I’ve worked there 2 years and had a few people ask if I wanted to work for the company. I’ve said “The company positions don’t really suit my personality or what I feel I am best at, so I don’t think it would be a good long term fit.”. Which is true but want to say “Not if I have to lose my personality and do things I’m not really suited for even if I am capable.”. I mean I can clean a toilet but it doesn’t mean I want to. And I respect the people who clean toilets more! All the cleaners I’ve know have well rounded personalities. I leave them “Thank You!” and smilies on sticky notes sometimes in my office :). Made my day the first time I did and the next day it was on my keyboard with “You’re welcome!”. Because I know they’re invisible to the people at work.
Sorry for the long post… this exact thing is what I loathe about my job!
Post # 12
In the words of Margaret Atwood (her favorite phrase): Nolite te bastardes carborundum. Don’t let the bastards get you down.
Post # 13
You should come work with me. Serious negativity sometimes. Dh and I work together and he volunteers with big brothers and was saying how his little brother made the school soccer team and one of our coworkers was like “thats such a waste of time. I don’t understand how you get all excited about a kid that’s not even yours”. And we were just like…. Did you seriously just get called out for volunteering with big brothers!?