(Closed) Does anyone NOT want kids?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I love kids, but I can’t have them for health reasons.  Even if I could, I don’t have the patience that I used to have, and I’m too selfish now.  I want to enjoy my old age and retirement with DH, I don’t want to be putting a child through high school and college at that time. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yeah I’m with you in that I have no inclination to have children and can get annoyed when people assume that you are going to have them or are somehow less of a family if you don’t.  However, I also try to remind myself that a LOT of the children I’m around that get on my nerves have traits that are directly related to how they are parented.  So while I still do not feel like having children is in my future, it comforts me to know that if it does happen, my children will be more in line with my personality than than my friends’ children (not to say that all children aren’t challenging in their own unique way)

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i love other peoples children because i can give them back and when we first married honestly, everyone had an opinion on my uterus to the point i made up a fertility issue, so then i started getting doctors business cards so be warned

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

@Ms Spitfire: ive gotten “you could be dead for weeks and none will know, at least children check up on you”. hubbys answer is if we are dead what does it matter if we arent found plus we own property, there are nephews and a niece that will check in occassionally because they are in the will  🙂

 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I have no patience with kids.Where I work little kids come and eat on the patio with their parents and cry amd scream.I mean they will let them scream and run around with cars driving through the drivethru.Another instance just this week, my friend graduated so we all went out to eat.A lady was there with a newbown and it started crying and screming.Mind you its a small restraunt and they wouldn’t even pick the kid up.They just let it cry and scream for about 10 minuetes until they were done eating while everyone was staring at them.If it does ever happen (doubt it will) i would definitly take care of it and actuallty be a parent. I had my heart set as a little kid not to be a parent.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Ms Spitfire: Exactly . . . I’ll be smiling when I come home from work and can spend uninterrupted time with my hubby. I’m sure parenting has it’s own rewards, but so does remaining child free and not being dependent on anyone and not having anyone dependent on me. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I want kids but I am terrified to have them. Not because of patience or anything like that but because mental disporders run through my family (my grandmother, father and brother all have bipolar disorder and my brother also has autism) and I don’t think I would have the patience for that. I also wouldn’t want to put a child through living with that. My FI wants kids badly, but I am just too scared to risk having a child and putting it through years of ridicule for being “different” or having a mental disability and having it know it can never be what it wants (like my brother with austism wants nothing more than to be in the military, wont ever happen and he cries when people bring it up anymore). I can’t do that to someone.

Wow I have never vocalized that fear..

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We are fully prepared to become DINKS!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Even after being diagnosed with endometriosis, I’m still getting the whole “Mothers bond with their babies in the womb, so you should have one instead of adopting” shtick. If anything, we’ll foster or adopt an OLDER child when we’re older (at least early to mid-thirties). I don’t like babies. The thought of having one makes my skin crawl. Besides, DH doesn’t think it’s worth the risk to my health/well-being just to have a biological child. For now, our cats are our babies. We’re enjoying being young!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@lynnchee: haha, I love that.  I am sometimes tempted to tell people that’s what I want to be when I grow up.  Except for the fact that I’m almost 30 and not that many people ask. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

btw my friend says she was a better parent before she actually had children – she also said her children were better behaved before she actually had them as well 🙂

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have 3 kids.  sometimes I think that is 3 kids too many.  However…

now that they have grown older 24, 23, and 15… its different, they are out of the needy stage and 2 of them are on their own.   Only the 15 year old is home.  Holidays are more joyful.  I love birthdays, easter, all holidays have more meaning.

But other peoples kids.  OMG! drive me nuts, especially my nephews…  they are crying, screaming, whiny brats!  but i think that has to do with their mom!  My SIL gives into their every whim.  My youngest would beat his head on the ground… i would just get him a pillow so he didn’t get a concussion! LOL… thats my parenting style. 

now that they are older, I am quite thankful:) 

Ronney

 

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