Post # 1
Hi bees! I’m just wondering if anyone is worried that they won’t be their groom’s ideal looking bride on the big day. My groom has been a groomsman in probably 20 weddings. So he’s worn a tux for 20 gorgeous brides. I’m so worried that when it’s my turn to meet him at the end of the isle he’ll be extremely disappointed.
I mean I’m average looking – maybe a 6 on a good hair/make up day and if I’m uber tan (which I WILL be that day) and skinny. He, on the other hand, is incredibly good looking and could have any woman in the world. In addition to being hot he has a GREAT paying job, house, lots of friends, and an amazing sense of humor. How a girl like me landed a guy like him I’ll never know (I’m assuming it’s my cooking skills that brought him in).
What do I do to get over this?
Post # 3
He chose you, not any other girl. You chose him, not any other guy. How could he be dissapointed when he’s marrying the woman he loves? Just try and remember that he picked you.
ETA: Think about all the women in the world. Think about all the women that he has met, seen, talked to. He didn’t fall in love with them. Makes you feel pretty special if you think about it that way. At least it makes me feel special.
Post # 4
He loves you and wants to marry you – that makes you his ideal bride. You have nothing to worry about!
Post # 5
First of all, stop it. You need to be kinder to yourself, because right now you are treating YOU very unfairly. Clearly he sees your worth, because he is MARRYING you. Nobody else can compare in his eyes. Just remind yourself of that, and try to learn to see yourself in a similar light.
Plus, there is something about being a bride that brings an extra glow – so no worries!
Post # 6
@coolbride125: First of all, your FH is marrying you because he loves YOU. He thinks you are the most beautiful,perfect woman in the world for him. He won’t be looking at anyone else that day. I peeked at the picture of you in your dress from the first time you tried it on and your dress is BEAUTIFUL! It looks amazing on you in that picture, so I can only imagine how PERFECT it will be on your big day. I’m sorry you are struggling with this. I had similar thoughts throughout my planning process. By no means do I consider myself beautiful, but on my wedding day I felt incredible. I really do think and hope that you will feel the same way.
Post # 7
I thought this way. I would see him tell me at weddings how he really liked so and so’s dress when it was totally not what I was going for. And I kept thinking that he’s gonna hate my dress and everything, but he didnt.
Don’t beat yourself up over it really. No matter how many weddings he has been to, men are still men and oblivious to that nonsense. He’s gonna love however you look because its you!
Post # 8
between this and some of your other posts, I think you should try and speak with a therapist about some of your body image and self-esteem issues.
Post # 9
@coolbride125: Just have to say that planning for a wedding can take away the main point here…you are getting married…not just participating in one day. As the other posters said, he chose you to be his wife…that’s more than just being his bride on the wedding day.
Post # 10
It sounds like you have significant self-esteem issues.
Post # 11
There is nothing you should do except accept that you already are his ideal bride.
Simple as that.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@MrsWBS: +1. Think about getting some counseling, girl! You obviously have some serious issues with your self-perception. :/ As for your wedding day, the guy asked YOU to marry him for a reason. He will be blown away by you because you are the love of his life.
Post # 13
@coolbride125: He picked you to marry. You will be his ideal bride even if you’re in a potato sack. Seriously!
Guys don’t nitpick either. He’ll just notice the entire glowing package that is walking towards him 🙂
Post # 14
Girl, there is no way that you groom will be anything but THRILLED when he sees you on your wedding day. When a guy is a groomsman, he’s not there to marvel over his friend’s new wife. He’s there to hang with the guys and support his friend.
But on your wedding day, YOU will be the only thing on his mind, and I guarantee you that your beauty is going to blow him away, and he is going to consider himself the lucky one. 🙂 xoxo!
Post # 15
I agree that some counseling might help with your self esteem. When you find yourself thinking this way, maybe you’d benefit from reminding yourself that plenty of women might look at your man and think “Huh, he’s perfectly reasonable looking, but nothing special.” NOT to tear down your FI, but to put it in perspective – he is beautiful to you because you love him, but that doesn’t mean every woman in the world would find him ideal. He finds YOU beautiful because he loves you so much that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. Remember THAT.
Post # 16
I am so happy that you posted this because I am feeling the exact same way. I am commenting to follow along with other responses. Thank you for posting OP