Post # 1
Now, I love fashion. Read Vogue/W every month since I was 13. And I don’t think I’m a shabby dresser. But FI…..is exhausting me. The man spends $500+ on leather shoes all the time, which is ~fine~. Don’t care. Separate accounts. My problem is that he CONSTANTLY sends me links to expensive shoes for me to look at and I just can’t muster up the energy to care. I’m exhausted pretending to care about his shoes and now MY footwear? Everytime we walk into a dept. store and I pick up a shoe, he tells me what’s wrong with the leather and why it’s shabbily made and poor quality. And here I thought I was looking at a strappy pair of cute club heels.
I HATE online shopping. I go to a store, know what I want, I’m in and I’m out. I swear to god my FI runs the men’s style section on Reddit.
Post # 3
@princesslettuce14: I am not fashionable at all. I wean jeans and a t-shirt all the time, and I don’t know how to match things very well, haha. I also don’t wear much makeup. I just didn’t get the girl gene.
SO, on the other hand, takes a BIG pride in how he looks. He refuses to leave the house looking ‘frumpy’ (but his frumpy looks like he’s dressed up to me haha). He’s not a stuck up selfish guy though, he is the sweetest, he just takes pride in looking nice. I’m SO glad he doesn’t care that I suck at being a girl and fashionable!
Post # 4
I don’t know which of us cares more, but it’s definitely worthwhile to take him shopping. He’s saved me more than once from a bad purchase.
We both have a slightly different eye for what works and what doesn’t. We can both get it wrong sometimes, but rarely do we both get the SAME THING wrong. So when we work together, it looks pretty awesome 🙂
He is definitely a stylish guy, which I love! But yes, it does mean he cares about what he wears and will certainly not be seen in just anything. His wardrobe is not inexpensive, or easy to replace! He needs new shoes soon, this is no easy task…no easier than me finding new shoes! Plus… yeah, he totally notices and opines about what I wear, which has its upsides, but also its hassles. As I mentioned, our tastes don’t always overlap! I still wear some things I KNOW he doesn’t really care for, but, eh, I’m just surprised sometimes at how VOCAL he is about things like wraps. (they’re hideous to him, I love them). None of my exes ever even noticed whether I was wearing a wrap or not. But overall, I like that he’s a stylish guy 🙂
Post # 5
We’re both jeans and t-shirt type people. In the house we’re scantily clad. Haha. Neither of us give much attention to fashion, though I am definitely better than him.
Post # 6
He doesn’t have any interest in fashion – he would probably still be wearing holey t-shirts he got in highschool if I didn’t throw them out and buy him new ones. I wish he would put a little more effort in sometimes, but I’m also glad he doesn’t focus too much on his appearance. I would find it a bit of a turnoff if he was super into fashion.
Post # 7
@princesslettuce14: r/malefashionadvice? Yup, I feel your pain.
On the plus side, my FH and I get a lot of compliments on our looks from total strangers, simply because we always look put together. He usually dressed much better than I do, but also has a job that requires him to look fashionable.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I voted that I care more than him, but only because I actually look in a mirror before I walk out the door every day. I’m the jeans ‘n tshirt type (not “fashionable jeans and cute t-shirt, but like, “fat-jeans and a shirt.woot or free shirt from college”) and so is he, but he makes me laugh sometimes because he’ll grab plaid shorts when he’s already wearing a plaid shirt and I have to be like “um, honey?” and he looks down, “*grunt* *changes pants*”
I hope to eventually convince him to stop shopping at Aeropostale. The man is 26, and is easily a decade older than everyone else in the store but does not care. If he was putting together nice outfits I wouldn’t care where he bought things, but literally all of their shirts say AERO!!!! on them.
Post # 9
@letigre: Yes! I seriously get photos of shoes all day at work off of Reddit threads because of him! This is fine except sometimes when he sends me photos of how girls are dressed, I worry that he’s passively trying to get me to dress a different way.
Post # 10
@princesslettuce14: My husband seems to cares more. He has at least 5 suits & tonsss of ties & vests. I, on the other hand, have not went shopping in 4yrs & all of my clothes look very casual & not at all dressy.
I care about fashion too, but he uses the whole clothing budget lol.
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
Hmm were both more casual dressers though occasionally i like to dress nice so I guess I care a tiny bit more ? Lol .
Post # 12
I certainly care more. I wish my DH would step it up a bit in the style department!
Post # 14
I care more, and it’s perfect like that. My SO is good-looking and he dresses nice, but not in a ”fashion” style. He is more conservative (suit and tie when we go out), which is my absolute favorite look for men.
Post # 15
@princesslettuce14: YES! My SO is a slave to fashion – especially high end and fine bespoke clothing! He does pick our some really nice things for me that I normally wouldn’t wear, so it works to my benefit too. And we get to go to London quite often when he needs new shirts/suits made. I’m the exact opposite, I live in either lycra or jeans/sweatshirt.
Post # 16
I definitely care more and having influenced DH’s style. But he’s been good for me – I buy way less and I’m more thoughtful about it.
I once dated a guy who was way more into fashion than me, which was weird, because like you I’d been into fashion for a long time (started reading Vogue when I was 11.)
He was GORGEOUS and successful. But I noticed that everything he wore had a logo. I mean, everything. Our last date was when he had been to another city that was an hour flight away for work and he showed up whining about the quality of his Fendi travel wallet. Who uses a travel wallet for a day trip in the same country?!
He was also wearing a Louis Vuitton belt. The kind of belt that had the buckle as a big, pointy, gold, blingy ‘LV’. And this belt was the reason we stopped dating. We were making out a bit later and he jumped up and said “I better take this off before it hurts one of us.” He then proceeded to slowly slide off his belt and carefully ROLL IT UP and place it on my coffee table.
Needless to say that stopped our makeout session cold. He’s the only man ever that’s ever prioritised his clothing over potentially having sex or making out. I never saw him again and refer to him as the ‘belt roller.’
The hilarious thing is he was messaging a girlfriend on an online dating site. We were having dinner one night and she mentioned it. I looked as his profile pic, confirmed it was him and she cut off all contact immediately