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Nope. I am so beyond tired of people inviting themselves.
Since when is it okay to ask for an invite to anything???
No, if you invited anyone that asked and non-jokingly/jokingly said that they better be invited you would go way over and not be happy with your guest list.
Just say that due to budget your guest list is restricted/ reception constraints/ intimate wedding. Whatever applies, or you don't have to explain yourself if you do not feel it is necessary.
I say no, simply because she's not a "must have" guest since you are doing a DIY wedding...if we invited ever person who asked us if they could come we would have well over 250 guests and we are having a DIY wedding aswell. Personally I think asking for an invite is really rude but that's just me. It's totally up to you but I know myself that I would say no.
Hope that helps! :)
I know this situation oh too well. FI and I are having 75 guests. That means I can only invite 1/2 of those ppl bc FI has to have room to invite the other 1/2. Needless to say, I have to turn alot of people down when they "invite themselves".
Nope, I really can't believe she even asked. How rude. That is the worst when people invite themselves.
No. You definitely don't need to send an invite.
I would probably end up inviting her though.
Thanks! I know I probably won't invite her, but this leaves me with another question for you all...should I talk to my bridesmaid about this? I'm guessing she might eventually wonder if I am inviting her mom. I seriously can't believe how forward she was in asking either! And get this (it made me laugh) she suggested I sit her with the parents of another bridesmaid (who are like my second parents) since her husband knows the other husband. haHA! I hate to be one of those "they didn't invite me, so I'm not inviting them" kind of brides, but it just adds to the reason why she should not make it onto the guestlist right??
I would just not say anything and just not invite them. If your bridesmaid or the mother bring it up again, just say that the guestlist is already set with close friends and family.
Its a very funny situation but I have to agree with the majority and say I wouldnt invite her either... in my opinion its rather annoying how people hear the word wedding and automatically assume they should be invited and then there are those that have the nerve to ask to be invited. I feel like if you have to ask to be invited then obviously you shouldnt be invited... I could just be a meanie LOL
No. Very simple. A PC reply would be, "our guest list is small and limited. I am so happy your daughter will be at my side representing your family well." So ppl just like to have somewhere to go, something to do to serve as an outing or a date. Tell her to take her hubby on a date and have a toast in your honor!
You didn't leave her off out of spite, so don't even feel bad for this. Rude people (or even nice people who 'slip up' every once in a while) do not deserve something just because they ask/invite themselves. The standard 'sorry...budget/space/small guest list/etc' answer should suffice, and like another PP said, just say how thrilled you are to have her daughter in the service. Do not feel obligated to invite her (or seat her next to her requested friends, lol...wth?).
I wouldn't invite her. I hate being ambushed by these people who invite themselves. I'v been telling people my guest list is maxed out and sorry for your luck. I didn't invite a lot of family because they have not invited me to anything so I don't feel bad at all.
No she's rude for even asking. Don't feel bad because SHE can't follow proper etiquette. People should never ever ASK for an invitation.
Ughh, yet another person who feels it's ok to invite themselves. As Stephanie from Full House would say, "how Rude!"
Unless you feel like not inviting her would damager the relationship with your bridesmaid, then I would absolutely not invite her.
LoL she invites herself and makes her own seating chart? Classy.
It is a hard situation because you don't want it to be awkward if you see her again, but you say you haven't seen her in years so you can probably avoid seeing her for years to come.
I think you should wait a few days before writing her back, then send an apologetic email explaining that you have decided to have a small wedding due to budgetary and space restrictions and unfortunately your hands are tied with the guest list. Thank her for thinking of you and mention you are flattered they wanted to come. Also say you hope the two of you can spend some time together in the near future to catch up (since obviously you aren't close anymore, hence the no invitaiton thing).
But honestly how rude squared! I mean first she has the gall to contact you directly to invite herself, THEN she goes and tells you where she wants to sit?? Two major no-no's and just annoying to the bride on top of that.
No. As harsh as this may sound...life is harsh at times and like that one song from back in the day says " you cant always get what you want".
IMO that woman has a lot of nerve asking you and its a bit passive aggressive when someone does this. I have been asked by people or they just assumed I was inviting them to my wedding. You have to make them aware you are only inviting a limited number of guests and based on y our budget only specific people can come.
Ugh, I have the same problem. A friend sent an FB message that she's getting married in July. I haven't mentioned anything about my own wedding in FB bc I'm not inviting everyone. But when I congratlated her, she responded how my wedding planning is going and now a few mutual friends are emailing me if they are invited....ahhhh!
In other words, I'm in the same boat, I don't know what to do...so I'm just going to ignore it for now. :D
Dont invite her mom.. since they didnt invite your mom, and you dont really know her that well anyway. Just tell her that your budget doesnt allow for anymore people.
@Ms. Sparkles You bring up a great point with the facebook thing. It is so tempting to keep updating my status with fun wedding-planning stuff, but then, yeah, EVERYONE sees it!
I do not believe that asking for an invite, automatically means you should get one *lol* This is an extreme example, but I'm British...if I call up old Queen Liz and ask for an invite to the upcoming Royal wedding, does that mean I would get to go?
Do not feel guilted into inviting the Bridesmaids mother. If you wanted her there, you would have invited her. End of.
Wait a sec...does anyone have the number to Buckingham Palace? I guess I could try... ;)
No way. The FH's aunt told his mom "Remind them to invite me"...ha nope, don't think so! No one in the fam cares for her anyway. So she just made it easier to not include her.
I would say no. The original guest list was made and invites were sent to those invited. I have had so many people ask to come to our wedding that weren't invited. If we said yes to everyone our guest list and budget would be winding out of control.
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I recently got an email from one of my bridesmaid's mothers, asking that she and her husband be invited to my wedding. I have known her daughter since high school, but have not seen her parents for quite a while. This bridesmaid has been over to my house many times over the years, and knows my family. I was in this bridesmaids' wedding last year, and felt a bit slighted when she did not invite my mom to her wedding. Now her mom wants to be invited to my wedding, and although we are planning a do-it-yourself kind of wedding, we still need to keep our guest list under control.
Do I invite her now that she has asked? It's not like she is a stranger, but she did not come to mind when I was making the guest list, particularly because my mom was left off of her daughter's guest list. Obviously she knows how much extra guests cost. But I feel like maybe I should just be the bigger person and invite them. What would you do? My bridesmaid, by the way, has not mentioned this to me, so I don't know if she is aware of her mom's request.