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Not for me, lol. I already knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, vows didn't change that.
I will say finding out we're pregnant intensified our closeness though. Like, no matter what we will always be connected. And I can only imagine that will be even stronger feeling once the baby is born.
Honestly, it doesn't feel especially different, because we made the commitment to eachother BEFORE we were married. Sure, the ceremony was nice, and something we'll always remember, but I think the engagement was what really solidified the relationship because that event confirmed that we were serious about our lives together. The actual wedding just reaffirmed that in front of our close friends and family, if that makes sense.
We will continue to become closer with each passing event like a PP said.
No, not really haha! You sort of go through the exciting phase of saying "My HUSBAND" *squeeeeeeeee* and then it just becomes your way of life.
Hmmm not really. But we lived together first, so it wasn't like this huge momentous shift in our lives you know? I always joke around and say that the only difference is that now if I wanted to get rid of him it would cost me a lot of money, lol!!!
Seriously though, I think the biggest thing that changed for me is that I feel more protective. Like if I feel that someone has "wronged" DH, I get really upset on his behalf. A "don't eff with my family" instinct I guess.
And I agree with Navy_Wife, we had a bit of a 'moment' when AF was a few days late and I was having a lot of symptoms of having a bun in the oven (I don't, I just apparently have a weird body that likes to have a lot of heartburn and nausea randomly apparently, lol!!!), and DH and I talked a lot about the baby, and he talked to "the baby". It was very cute, and I did feel super close to him during that and since then. I'm really looking forward to pregnancy when it does happen for us! I would say that week felt more different for us than being newlyweds.
I have been married before, and I have known my now husband of a week for 17 years. And surpisingly so, I feel more in love. I can feel more compassion and more wanting to be there for him. I see it with him too, although I am his first wife. He touches his wedding ring continuously and pretends he is out in public announcing and pointing to a fake person standing next to him, which would be me, "this is my WIFE". Granted, he is 47 and not 22. I feel giddy, writing Mrs. Alpha on return address for thank you cards is super amazing. You fall in and out of love many times over the course of your relationship, we are most definitely at a point we have never been before, and I LOVE EVERY MINUTE OF IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
...adding to that though, there's a part of me that still can't believe I got married 3 weeks ago. Like it almost hasn't sunk in. Like you, I wondered if anything actually "changes", and I see it doesn't. That's a relief, but in a small way, almost underwhelming. I dont' know necessarily that "back to normal" was what I was expecting, but I'm glad we're back to a routine, and actually have time to ourselves now that we're not planning like crazy. The wedding was fun, and the reception was amazing, but I'm glad we have no obligations, no venues, and no vendors to deal with any longer.
I'm wondering that too.
There will be a major shift in our lives after the wedding as we are leaving our apartment of 3 years and moving to another country.
I don't have work and will have to find a new job in a new country and we will be starting over again from the beginning with making a network as a married couple rather than as individuals.
We've been together 7 1/2 years, so I'm hoping the new country/new life will help solidify the "newness" of being married.
It felt different for me! I felt more confident and secure, and that has not faded. But I am a little insecure, and I don't know many single people- everyone is married! We did feel a little extra special afterward, the excitement of it all. It was nice that we had that wedding feeling, it was a big deal.
Stronger love for eachother, just a tad. But it really didn't feel much different. Also, more committment to eachother.
Most definitely feel more secure. I always knew I had someone to fall back on, but now I KNOW.
We lived together for almost 2 years before our wedding, owned a house, always knew we'd be spending together forever, etc. and it really does feel different to both of us.
We have always been extremely committed but the connection really is intensified now for us. We feel even closer than before and it just feels like a whole new level of happy :)
The first couple days felt... sexier. That's the best way I can describe it. I was in this euphoric state of: you are my husband, i am your wife, this is sooooo wonderful.
But - in the big picture, no - things really didn't change.
I think I expected them to in some way - but it hasn't. Our relationship has a similar feel to it as it did prior - with us just sharing ownership of a lot more of each others stuff. ;)
THE UNEXECPTED CHANGE, however - was how other people treat us. I feel like we stayed the same and everyone else changed. It was really strange and unexpected - wonderful in some ways and really difficult in others.
Nothing that is super noticeable. I got to change my last name on my email signature at work...that was exciting, haha.
I have only gotten to refer to him as my husband once, so I think I'll get to revel in that a little longer than most :)
Oh, and seeing that ring on his finger...it's just...ahhhh :)
I do think that we're more respectful toward each other, though. It's not that we weren't before, but we make an effort at making everything a joint decision. Small and big things. For example, DH is job hunting, and he and I decided which police departments he should apply for. This is so we make sure we are both happy if he ends up getting a job in any of these locations. But also for the small things..like what to have for dinner. It used to just be where I would start making something, and he'd eat it. We've decided together, every night since the wedding, what we would both be happy with.
So overall, nothing noticeable to anyone else, but to us I think the 'joint decisions' have become more important to us.
ETA: the sex is better too. I can't even describe the change...TMI? Sorry :)
I think it does. There is a security now that I can't really explain. You know that no matter what the two of you have an extreme bond and are a team to tackle any challenges life throws at you. Also, you are taken much more seriously in other people's eyes. Dating and/or living together sometimes people don't take you seriously but you add that word husband or wife and it's like people automatically act differently. Our everydays lifes haven't changed but there is much more or a sense or calm and serenity in our house and relationship.
We didn't change that much. But I found that we hold each other up to higher standards. I find him saying things like, "You're my wife... why did you just do that?!" Or I'll say the same types of things. The biggest thing that changed is that we are accountable for our finances together. So we had to learn to make decisions together, even about the small stuff (ok maybe not small but semi-medium decision maybe). The coolest thing is that we can look at each other and say "husband/wife" and get really excited and happy about the decision we made! Besides that, things are pretty much the same.
YES! There is a sense of security and pride in being married. Nothing changed for us, (we already were commited, shared everything, were living together) except we feel more secure and take it... more seriously? It feel great! He tells everyone he has a beautiful wife, I think he is really proud of me.
For me it felt different because we got married and then moved in together, we were much closer than before.
I think that my reply is a combination of @MrsMaine: and @Running Elley:. We had already lived together and knew we were committed. We knew we had each other to fall back on -- after all, we'd already decided to get married. And yet, it does feel different. I really feel like a family unit now. And honestly, we lived together and even his family called me their own even before the wedding, so it's not even that all of a sudden I became accepted somehow. But it's sort of like @bakerella:'s description of protectiveness now. Especially with regards to extended family, they are not just these people I hang out with. Others, outsiders, view us as a unit now. Now there are outsiders, and I'm not one of them. I also felt similarly to @oracle: in that way. People do sort of act differently when you say "my husband" instead of "my boyfriend/fiance." I feel like we're taken more seriously. We were apartment hunting in a college town, and soon as I said "my husband and I are looking..." the tones softened and landlords became more welcoming. Yes, I realize that particular example has more to do with the realization that we're not partying undergrads, but it's just an example of the feeling. But even that, the landlady we did end up choosing commented when I was signing our lease papers and chit-chatting about how we just got married and jobs and school, "Oh, you two really are just starting out." And that's sort of it, too -- we are now on this shared journey together. Before, we both had paths that happened to walk next to each other; now, we're walking on the same path, if I may be allowed to use a cheesy metaphor. :)
ETA: I like cbee's description of security and pride, too.
@KatNYC2011: We just did this.. well not to another country.. but days after getting engaged we up and moved to an island, where I have no friends and it was hard to find a job. He is happy with his.. I'm not with mine. We also, already have a joint account
@KristenGotMarried: I don't think it's a stupid question! I was wondering the same thing.. although it feels like we are married now, so i think it wont feel any different 
oo yes and no...there is definitely a sense of security there that makes things 100 times better. I felt giddy at first being a wife and having a husband! i felt so grown up and so proud but as far as our relationship the feeling hasn't changed much we were very much in love before the wedding and my love for him grows everyday. Its a wonderful feeling having someone to lean on always and to know you will always have that person.
Nope, not at all. We already lived together for a year in the house we bought together, so nothing has really changed in day to day life. The commitment is still the same as it was before, its just on paper with the state now to me, so maybe it's more real... but it doesnt make it any more serious than it was with out it.. if that makes any sense.
We lived together and I really didn't think anything would change. Something did every so slightly. I think that declaring our love and saying those vows publicly made me love him even more.
"the connection really is intensified now for us. We feel even closer than before and it just feels like a whole new level of happy"
@Running Elley: Spot on statement.
I wouldn't say our relationship massively changed but our relationship has seemed to intensify and we do feel closer than ever. There also seems to be an even greater feeling of intimacy and partnership between us now, not that there wasn't before, but it's different now. We weren't really too fussed about the actual wedding (we couldn't wait for it to be over in all honesty) but we were so excited to start our marriage. It's hard to describe, but being married has now brought this whole new level of commitment, love, and happiness. Best feeling in the world.
While we weren't living together and whatnot, iin all it doesn't feel that much different. We had a grin and went "yay we're married" but that's the extent of the differentness really for us.
Technially, nothing's really changed, but sometimes... there's just a moment of different and you feel like you might explode into glitter.
It doesn't feel too different and we are now past our second anniversary! I felt comfortable in our relationship before we got married, and we lived together before so there wasn't a lot that was different.
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STUPID QUESTION ALERT!
I was just wondering if it feels different once you marry your S/O? Like, do you look at them through new eyes? Love them more? Take them more seriously? I'm looking at a friend's recent wedding pictures and I can almost feel the weight of what they just went through just from the pictures, in a good way. I feel like I'm looking at a very private moment between them.
I'm curious if on May 20th I'll look at my then-husband and feel stronger or differently about him after we go through our wedding events.
Any thoughts/comments/feedback?