Does being married "feel" different to you?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Stace126:   We lived together for a year and a half so nothing has really changed for me except a stronger bond and stronger feeling of security.. other than that not really.  Its actually the one con of living together in my opinion, after you get married there is not really a “new beginnng” feeling, its kind of same old same old, lol.  But I couldnt be happier!

Post # 4
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7179 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@Stace126:  no – it didn’t feel different, but has felt different as time has progressed.  Kinda like we poured the cement over our relationship (when we got married) and now that time has passed, it’s dry and rock solid 🙂

Post # 5
Hostess
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@Stace126:  Not really, no. When we got married we had already been living together for about six years, together for seven. In other words there wasn’t anything new at that point.

The only difference really was that our priorities and plans changed. We went from the after college and being in debt status to making more money enjoying the benefits of a heftier income to finally arriving at looking to buy a house and having children. Otherwise the day to day things didn’t change at all.

Post # 6
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277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My husband and I were married shortly before our eight year anniversary. We had been living together since we were a year and a half in. The day to day isn’t different, but I’d say it feels more warm and fuzzy. That’s the only way I can describe it. 🙂

Post # 7
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1491 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Married life does feel utterly different to me.  We moved in together after we got married, but aside from that, we just have a deeper connection that is different than from when we were dating.  

Post # 8
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1878 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

We dated for 4 years before being proposed, and didn’t move in together (or have sex) until after we were married. And honestly that’s the only thing that felt different for me. I mostly felt like I was in a dream for the longest time. I definitely LOVE being married, and I love living together (and…you know).

Post # 9
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329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Stace126:  I just had this conversation with someone yesterday! He was insisting that since we got married that our lives must have changed. That we must have different priorities, goals, something, anything MUST have changed.

NOTHING has changed. 

We’ve lived together since 4 months of knowing each other, bought a house together, and have two dogs. If our priorities didnt align we probably wouldnt have gotten married. I was flabbergasted with this persons insistance that something had to have changed! 

 

Post # 10
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9529 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Nope!!! Part way throuhg planning I got worried because I was hearing all the girls talking about how excited they were to be married and they couldn’t wait to have a husband and be committed forever. And while I was excited for the weddings and honeymoon, I really didn’t think about the marriage oart that much. And then I realized why I didn’t think about it that much…because in my brain we were already marreid and committedd forever. So yeah, no big relationship changes. Except me trying to fuel baby fever and thinking about when we want to start TTC. He would have been happy to start TTC before the wedding but I refused to be pregnant at the wedding or honeymoon!

Post # 11
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468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Stace126:  Since so many people these days live and sleep together before marriage, the marriage itself doesn’t seem to feel different for them. That’s just my take.

Even though I was in the same boat, I did feel different after getting married. I felt a deeper sense of love for my husband that he chose me to spend the rest of his life with. I felt that I finally belonged to someone as well.

I guess what I’m saying is it just deepened my awareness of love and dedication and deepened my sense of worth as a woman.

Post # 12
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920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@Treejewel19:  can’t wait until I can say the same. this whole debt filled fresh outta college phase is getting old quick lol. 

Post # 13
Member
8905 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I’d quantify it at about 5% different, 95% the same.  We were together for over a decade before we got married, own a home together, are very much integrated into each other’s families and lives in every way – so obviously things couldn’t change THAT much.

On the other hand, even though we have long considered this a partnership for life – there’s something just a little bit more comfortably permanent about being married.  I like it!

Post # 14
Hostess
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@highschoolhoneys:  You’ll get there, I promise. Make a plan and a strict budget and just focus on finding a career. It will get easier!

Post # 15
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1952 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

The only thing that feels different is my last name. Apart from that, nothing has changed. We’d been living together for about four years when we got married so it’s really all the same.

Post # 16
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160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Not at all.  Just a lot more baby questions from our families.

Like a lot of the bees that have replied, we dated for a long time before getting married: 10+ years and lived together for 2.5.  

It’s funny after you get married  everyone asks “how’s married life?” and all I can respond is “just like unmarried life” : )

 

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