(Closed) Does being newlywed make you feel any different??

posted 5 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t really feel different, though I do sometimes feel like I now belong to some exclusive “club” that I wasn’t a part of before, though I think that’s just in my head πŸ˜›

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My husband and I were together for 5 1/2 years when we got married last weekend and the first thing all my friends ask is “do you feel different?” And… I kind of do. I think for me it’s looking at the ring on my husband’s finger.  I’ve been wearing my e-ring for awhile but to see one on him makes it seem just more real?  It’s like you’re engaged and there’s all this expectation and planning and everyone’s involved. And then you’re married and it’s just the two of you again.  But deeper and more intimate. like a little bliss bubble.  And FYI being married makes me want a baby even MORE!  We’re not waiting at all πŸ˜‰

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Not in any important way.  “Husband” still takes some getting used to, as well as the new name.  So it’s kind of like a little “aww” every now and then, but nothing hugely different. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think bakergirl described it well… “ And then you’re married and it’s just the two of you again.  But deeper and more intimate. like a little bliss bubble.” yes exactly!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

People ask me all the time if I feel different. The answer is always the same, no. DH and I were together for 10 years before getting married so besides having a new last name it really did not feel different. If you want to TTC right after the wedding, go for it! You guys will already “know” each other by that point. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

It’s a little different, but the difference is not enough to delay TTC if you’ve already been living together. IMO, that’s the hard part about moving your relationship to the next level, and I would definitely urge people who’ve just started living under one roof to wait a little while before trying. That move in together makes things tough, and adjusting to living in each other’s space would go more smoothly when you’re not going through TTC and being pregnant!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree entirely with bakergirl too! “ And then you’re married and it’s just the two of you again.  But deeper and more intimate. like a little bliss bubble.” It’s so right.

DH and I had been together for 4 and a half years before getting married. I didn’t really expect to get a different feeling after the wedding, in a way, but during the ceremony I swear something happened.

I haven’t been married too long, yet, but in the time since the wedding, we’ve grown so much closer.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I think if you’ve lived together for two years, then it won’t matter if you don’t wait too long after the wedding to start TTC because you have had your time together to just be together and enjoy it. If having a baby right away is what matters to you, then do it….but if you still have things that you really want to do and not put off indefinitely, I’d put it off for that year to get it done! Most of the time, there is always more time for kids later, once they come there is no turning back and you might not have the health or financial security that you may have now. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It’s not too different especially if you are living together already. But since we’ve been married (which is only a week now) there is a sense of security and comfort. Like this is it this is us forever. It’s definitely nice though along with getting used to the new titles and last name πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Honestly, I don’t feel any different at all.  Maybe the first week or two after the wedding we were extra giddy and affectionate.  Now, we are back into our normal, comfortable routine.  

Like you, we lived together for 2 years before we got married.  We decided not to wait to TTC.  

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Things did not feel much different between the two of us, but we were viewed differently by other people.  Husband/wife sends a different message from boyfriend/girlfriend, or even fiance/fiancee.  So, that really changed the way things felt in general.

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