(Closed) Does being pregnant/being a mom come from a romanticized idea?

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

We have a biological imperative to procreate. Beyond that I think babies/kids are cute when they’re not screaming their heads off lol.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I get what you are saying…for the most part. Yes, there are some women that love being pregnant and having children. I have a baby myself but I do not consider myself “superior” to anyone else. No other mother I know of thinks that way either. I just love my baby is all, that love is what I can best describe as being primal and instinctual. That said, do we look at people that are childfree by choice with a bit of envy sometimes? Sure….it goes both ways.

 

 

 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I believe it comes from realizing that you and your DH/FI/SO (general you) help create this being that grows inside of you for 9 months.  It is an awe inspiring feeling, the first time you hear the heartbeat to the first time you feel the baby move inside you.  It is hard to describe unless you actually go through it.  I honestly hated being pregnant until felt movement (never had any morning sickness)  just the general tiredness to not being able to do stuff used to do when get the round belly. 

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it depends on the person. I have some friends who seem to only identify with being a mother and while I can see that that can sometimes come off as “superior” they’re just completely enamored with being a mom and thats a pretty cool thing. One day I’ll be able to share in that, but I can see how it comes off as superior. I’ve gotten that vibe as well being currently childless.

 

That being said, I know friends of mine who do not identify with just being a mother and see themselves more as “just another gal” who happened to have kids. And if I’m being completely honest (and please understand I’m not bashing or putting down anyone in anyway) I tend to find these people more self-aware and self-fullfilled. That is not to say that women who just love being moms are NOT self-aware and self-fullfilled, that just been my experience with friends who have gone through parenthood; if they are able to detangle themselves with “just” being a mom or even “just” being anything (married/career/dog owner….whatever) they rarely if every come off as “superior” or as if they have nothing else to talk about than what they’ve chosen to identify themselves with. Just an observation.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

Feeling superior to someone who hasn’t has kids? Absolutely not and if there are women who feel that way, well that’s just foolish.

HOWEVER, yes, you should be able to ‘do more’ when not having kids because you simply have much  more free time on your hands.  I have a 3 and 5 year old and trust me when I say, it’s an all consuming job.  I typically could care less but yeah, I do expect my girlfriends who don’t have kids to have the ability to do more on a daily basis.

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