Post # 1
Our wedding is supposed to start at 3, though I noticed on the DJ timeline he has it starting at 3:30. I’m guessing this is a strategic move, considering people probably aren’t going to show up right on time.
So, does it make sense to have it really start at 3:30? I’m only concerned because we have to be out of the room we’re getting ready in by 2, so there’s going to be about 1 1/2 hours of waiting in between, and trying to be strategic about avoiding each other.
Anywho…does anyone have any thoughts or sharing of how their experiences were? Thanks! 🙂
Post # 3
If the invites say 3:00, then start at 3.
Post # 4
Call your DJ and tell him your wedding is scheduled to start at 3 and it will start at 3! This may have been a mistake that you need to correct, or if he did it on purpose you need to let him know it’s certainly not his place to change the start time of your ceremony!
Also, please start at the time listed on the invitation. I am always early or at least on time to events and it makes me really mad when people build in time for others to be late and then I end up having to sit around for a half an hour bored and uncomfortable.
Post # 5
@judithsr: We are having our invitations say 7PM but we probably won’t start until 7:15. Just for the inevitable stragglers and to wait for official sundown.
Post # 6
If you have to be out of the room by 2, that’s a lot of time to be waiting around for the ceremony to start. All of the weddings I have been to have started 15+ minutes late, I think they figure they will give their guests just a little more time to get there.
30 minutes is not that much of a difference if it starts late.
Post # 7
Please start on time, I should not be punished for other people’s rudeness. I can see 10 minutes but any longer than that and I am going to get antsy.
Post # 8
Back in the day, the time on the invite meant the time the bride was walking down the aisle. But very few people are aware of this any more, so if YOU actually walked down the aisle at 3:00, a lot of people would end up being late!
A much more common practice now is to consider the time on the invite (in this case 3:00) the ‘start of the ceremony’… usually the seating of the Grandmothers/Mothers.
I wouldn’t wait until 3:30 to actually start the ceremony… that would be frustrating for the guests that were on time.
Post # 9
It should start at 3 or as close to it. I can see it starting 10 minutes late, 15 at the most. But that’s it.
As a guest, I think it’s rude to say the ceremony starts at one time and have it start 30 minutes later. If I was attending a 3 p.m. ceremony, I’d get there by 2:30. And I’d be kind of mad if I had to wait an hour for it to start.
Post # 10
Talk to your DJ, if you are scheduled to start at 3pm then they should be there and ready to go at 3pm NOT 3:30pm.
Our invitation had the ceremony starting at 5pm, and we started at 5pm. There are some guest photos where I can see some stragglers coming in just as the ceremony started.
Post # 11
You should start at 3. Call your DJ and see what’s up. It could just be a mistake/misunderstanding.
Our DJ is doing music for our 3:30 ceremony and he assured us that we would be there setting up by 2 – 2:30 so that everything would be ready to start playing prelude music for the guests’ arrival, starting half an hour before the ceremony.
Post # 12
our starts at 5 according to the invite but we aren’t really starting till 5:15
Post # 13
We will be starting 15-20 minutes after the start time on the invitation. The venue is kind of off the beaten path and I think a lot of people will underestimate how long it will take to get there. We will be supplying some beverages to guests before the ceremony to keep them from getting antsy.
Post # 14
Start at the time it says on the invite. Like some PPs, I try to arrive 15 minutes early, and I would not want to sit around waiting for 45 minutes for the ceremony. Sure, people can chat, but sitting down in possible uncomfortable seats just waiting is NOT fun. Your ushers can direct stragglers to the back row of seats so it’s less noticeable if that’s an issue- but I personally would not want to start more than 5 minutes late, unless something major happened.
Post # 15
We put it at one and we started at one. I always show up early thinking that it will start one time, so I get a little annoyed if it doesn’t.
Post # 16
We’ll give people about 5-10 minutes. Things happen, traffic, people never having been to the venue before, etc. After that, they can get seated after we begin. Whatever. 🙂
As a side note… I went to a wedding once that did not start on time. I thought I might have time for a bathroom break and the usher directed me to one in a back room of the church (I don’t remember what the area is called… the room behind the altar where priests get ready, etc). And they assured me I had a ton of time.
I moved quick, and even so, as I washed my hands and made to get back to my seat, I heard the music start!! I didn’t want to ruin my friend’s pictures, and I didn’t want to huddle in the back of the church for the full catholic mass… so I had to wander through this old building, trying doors until I found one that led out into the rainy street, back around the front of the church, and into my seat.
The moral of the story? Direct people to better bathrooms. Oh, and have an agreed upon start time. 😉