Post # 1
Today I had a moment where I thought, “Maybe this is all too cumbersome and takes up too much of my energy and ELOPING would be easier.”. It’s really quite appealing to me right now 350 some odd days out from my date.
I hate having a budget and the stress it causes. My father kindly gave me/us a lump sum of money and said make it go as far as you can. After that, you have to pick up the tab. It’s a decent amount but it does limit what we can do because I don’t make endless amounts of money. I must insert a caveat: My dad loves me more than anything on the face of this earth and would go above and beyond if I needed money for surgery or something like that. This is a wedding, I am a full-fledged adult with an adult job, as is MC. We can make do. But what I worry about is that my future in-laws will want to have more people than we are likely to be able to afford or that they will think my wedding is lesser than the one they gave their own daughter and be embarrassed of it because my dad is NOT going to let me dictate how much money he will give me. And I completely agree he should not.
All of this seems a little overwhelming. How did all of you handle this…and is the eloping idea one that many of you had at some point? Am I losing my ever-loving mind already?
Post # 3
The thought has crossed my mind once or twice. Usually when I think about the amount of money we are spending. I think we should just elope and then use the money on something else useful…like a second car.
Post # 4
YESSS. Both my fiance and I have that thought alll the time. Just thinking about how much money we will save not to mention saving us from going through all the stress. In the end however we both know we would regret not having a wedding with all our friend and family later in life
Post # 5
oh yes, i have definitely considered (and frequently wished for!) eloping
Post # 6
Yes. About two months ago I was very stressed out and just wanted to high tail it to Vegas or something just so it would all be over with. However, after I really looked at all the money we’ve spent up to this point – that went promptly out the window!
Post # 7
The closer we got to the actual wedding, the more we wanted to elope! We talked about it every day…
BUT, after the fact, we were SOOO glad we didn’t do it! The wedding (all the crazy included) was totally worth it 🙂
Post # 9
Oh yes, I’ve considered it believe me. Mostly because of how much it’s costing and how drama filled my mother has been about it (despite the fact that she’s not contributing any money towards it). However, I AM really excited about it, but it’s a huge thing financially and emotionally and takes a ton of time!
Post # 10
Most definitely has crossed mine….and more because I am ready to be his Mrs.
Post # 11
I thought about it when we started planning and were having difficulty finding a reception facility. There are times when I find all of the decisions are too much but I know I will be happier having a wedding then not. I did think about how all of the money could be put to another use like saving for FI’s grad school. But I think I would have regreted not going this route.
Post # 12
This is so funny! We did after everyone had their own input, we even started booking things… then I realized that I would be sad if I wasn’t married with friends and family.
Our wedding is less than 3 months away and the idea always pops back up!
Post # 13
YES. We totally did, more than once. I fantasized about it all the time!
Post # 14
I’ll have a 14 month engagement by the end of it all – and YES – thought about it on more than one occasion (more like every other week!)
It got really bad when there was some major family drama – but what it did was force FI and I to decide why we wanted a big wedding (and the expense, etc.)
It ended up boiling down to really wanting to make this commitment to each other in front of the people that loved us.
I also am starting to see weddings as this huge, one time affair. They are here and gone so quickly (relatively speaking) and I didn’t want to look back on it and wish I had to the wedding (instead of eloping – had we chosen that route).
HOWEVER – I just said to FI the other day… I wonder if we’ll wake up the day after and wished we just eloped.. .haha!
Post # 15
This thought has crossed my mind many times lately! I am also having a hard time dealing with the stress of staying within budget. Also, I wish I could do wedding stuff all day everyday, haha, but with a 9-5 job, thats not possible. OR, I just wish I could hire a wedding planner:-)
Post # 16
Oh believe me we talked about eloping numerous times! There were SO many times I just wanted to give up or break down and just say screw it we are just getting married and going on an amazing vacation! But I know that is not what I really want – its just that the stress eats you up! Seriously 38 days and all of the drama has surpassed…everybody is just ready for it to be here and to have a good time!