Does everyone have to watch the bride and grom cut the cake?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
42157 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@beetobee255:  I think wedding guests generally expect that the cake cutting will be announced. Is this a problem for you?

Post # 4
1344 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

What sort of alternative did you have in mind? What are you picturing instead?

Post # 5
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I do think that it is expected for the guests to watch you cut the cake. I am interested in what alternative you have in mind, if any?

Post # 6
1506 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014



I can’t speak for the OP, but for me, I know I don’t need an ‘alternative.’ I know I don’t like to be the center of attention… and to have all eyes on me just to cut a mere piece of cake? No thank you. I’d just like to cut it when no one is paying attention and pass it out. 

Post # 7
2896 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

it might be a let down for some of your guests. a lot of people enjoy seeing the couple cut the cake and feed each other, but you’re not going to get arrested by the wedding police or anything, haha. 

Post # 8
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@leonardlady im not exactly thrilled about being in the center of attention all day, but i think i can handle it for one day!

Post # 9
5432 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

We’re having a backyard afternoon reception and we’re not announcing the cake cutting. We don’t like being the centre of attention and want to enjoy the cake cutting without being stressed. We will play a specific song during the cutting though and get pictures so that it still feels special (: We’re doing it right after our first dance and the father/daughter dance so people will already be a little focused on us and will probably notice when we make our way to the cake.

Post # 10
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014


                   Most of the weddings I have been to, people have announced it but not everyone gets up and goes over to watch. If you perfer to have no one watch you or even do it, than just skip it. Everyone always says “its your wedding its your day”. People have skipped other traditional things in the past such as bouquet/garter toss etc so I would just do whatever you want. If you want a picture, maybe you can talk to your photographer, say you don’t wanna make a big deal about but want a picture for later, they should be able to work with you!

Post # 11
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@beetobee255:  I think it’d be hard to avoid everyone watching if it’s during the reception. If you want to do it privately, I suggest cutting it before the reception. i.e. while everyone’s outside (for cocktail hour or whatever) you two go inside and get photographed cutting it.

Or don’t cut it at all: at some stage in the reception it’s taken away and cut in the kitchen. (Or not cut at all if you’re not giving any to your guests).

Most people won’t care, or notice until afterwards.

Post # 12
10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I don’t plan to announce it either. We’ll just do it after dinner and right before dancing.

Post # 13
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’ve been to many weddings over the years and I have never seen the bride and groom cut the cake. They usually do it around the time the dancing starts or before the sweet table opens and it’s usually just the bride and groom with the photographer for the pictures.

Post # 14
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@beetobee255:  Just go cut the cake without fanfare and an “announcement.” It will be fine. A few people will watch, most won’t notice what’s happening.

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