Post # 1
So hive, I know that everyone who receives a save the date needs to get an invite, but my question is: does everyone who is getting an invite need a save the date? Right now we are in the middle of a “who from work” gets invited as well as a couple of other friends who might be on the “cusp” – mostly because we are trying to have a smaller wedding – so if we hear back from ALL of the family that needs to be invited (who will be getting std’s and invites) that they can make it – there’s no room to add these other people – if we hear back that some can’t (or we win the mass millions and can invite everyone, haha!) we will add on to the invite list (not really a ‘b-list’ though there might be that as well, just that they wouldn’t have gotten a save the date) I don’t think that most people would mind knowing that they are on the “cusp” since everyone knows we have big families and want a smallish wedding – I just feel so bad about it! So, what do you think, if you got an invite, but hadn’t received a save the date – would you be mad? Or would you maybe think its okay? OY! (sorry if this was confusing!)
Post # 3
Most of our family is coming from Portugal, the States and Montreal so we’re sending them Save the Dates since they have to make plans. For the rest of them who are near us, we are sending them invites only, plus we talk to them quite often and they already know the date. That’s what we’re doing.
Post # 4
@MissKabers:I wouldn’t even notice.
I made my invitations and my save the dates. I ordered all the paper (100 of each) and then realized I needed more like 120 to cover everyone. So I bought more paper for the invites, but like hell I was buying more for a save the date.
Family and friends traveling got save the dates. In town friends and coworkers did not. Nobody will care about this. I promise. (And I didn’t give coworkers save the dates because I’m still undecided on inviting them. If I get a lot of family “no” responses, they’re in. Otherwise…sorry.)
Post # 5
Thanks ladies!! I really appreciate the feedback 🙂 I think that people understand that weddings are really expensive, so not many co-workers and not-super tight friends would even expect an invite, so i’m guessing that they will just be happily (or unhappily, haha!) surprised if they receive one! Great – I am so excited, now I get to order my save the dates! Let the crafting begin!
Post # 6
@qwerty1: We did the same.
Ordered 100 STDs but needed more. We did not send them to our co-workers(some might be fired by than, who knows) and when I needed more STDs for family we reassigned some from FI’s and mine bachelor friends who honestly don’t need them cause they are guys and don’t care about that. Except one guy who would whine because everyone got one but he didn’t. But def cut out whole circles so there is no complaint.
Post # 7
@MissKabers: We didn’t send ANY Save the Dates. Mainly because we got engaged in April and we’re getting married in September. IMO, it would be a waste of our money and bombarding people’s mailboxes!
I understand certain instances in sending Save The Dates — travelling guests, out of the country, etc. etc. But us — we didn’t see spending any money in it. We have a website that we direct everyone too and speak with most everyone personally, in one way or another. We have 110 people we are inviting.
Post # 8
Wedding is in France so we are only sending Save the Date to those who live abroad and will have to make to travel internationally,especially since we are including the address of our wedding website which includes all the travel information. I think it is kind of a waste of money for those who won’t have to make such extensive plans, especially since most of them already know the date and the area.
Post # 9
I sent STD only to A listers (which is nobody from work). After we send out invites for A listers then we will start inviting the guests on the B list. they dont need to know ahead! lol
Post # 10
I only sent them to people who would have to travel to come to the wedding, that way they can start making their arrangments. I did not send them to any coworkers because like other posters, I am unsure if I will be able to invite them yet.
Post # 11
I don’t think they are necessary. You would have to notify people that need to travel so they can make travel arrangements but an email or phone call works just as well.