- 3 years ago
- Wedding: February 2010
This isn’t about me or my guy but it’s about a friend. The guy is actually my husband’s best friend and our son’s godfather. I do care about this guy because he has always been there for my husband. The problem is this kid is very irresponsible when it comes to women and money. He goes thru girls like underwear. He still lives with his parents and is 27 years old. He did have a pretty decent job and was dating this one girl with kids who is very “outgoing” with other guys. So of course that relationship went sour. He is a drinker and gets very mean when he is drinking. When he and this last girl broke up he took FMLA off of work due to “depression” and that was a year ago. He still goes to the bars, the gym and acts normal. I don’t see how he can have so much FMLA when it’s only 12 weeks but whatever. So fast forward to now. He is seeing this new girl who is very sweet. She is 22 and has a great job. He dates her for a little while and they break up. He goes back to the “outgoing” girl. That goes sour. Back to the nice one. Mind you he is still off work and not getting paid. This nice girl pays for everything. His alcohol, cigs, gas for his car, food you name it. He treats her nice most of the time but won’t say they are in a relationship. He still goes to the “outgoing” girls house to see her and her kids even though they aren’t his and they only dated a short time. When he and nice girl get into fights he is very mean to her but she keeps going back. Now she is asking me for advice. She says she loves him but I don’t see what there is to love. I see him only using her for money and sex. She is so sweet and heartbroken about this. His parents are wanting him out of the house, he hasn’t made his car payments in months. He has said before he was going into the Marines and never did, same with the National Guard. Now he says he is moving to Florida.
What kind of advice can I offer?