Does it ever seem weird?

posted 3 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You are assuming being married means you can’t party, sounds like.  I’m married, but I wouldn’t say I’ve settled down just yet. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

It really depends on the person. My SO and I are getting engaged soon (like it could be within the next month!), we still have fun and go out together. Being married doesn’t mean you have to be boring! It does mean however that you should have enough money to support yourself without your parents and that you are SURE this is the person you want to be with forever. I don’t think there is a right or wrong age for marriage per say. It all depends on the person.

Post # 4
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878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I’m 23! I also playing the waiting game and will probably be engaged in the summer! Will be 25 when we marry! I have single friends and married friends and everywhere in between so it seems more normal to me. However, I’m not gonna stop going out with my friends when we get married. Yes, I expext my life to change slowly as we age together, but there isn’t gonna be this big clash of thunder saying that all my fun is over!! We have so much fun together! 

Post # 6
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613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I completly understand! I got engaged at age 19 and will be married in 2 months at the age of 22. I only have one other friend who is engaged but doesn’t plan to get married for another 5+ years.

It is kind of weird to think about getting married when none of my friends are even close to that stage in their life (besides the engaged friend no one else is in a relationship), but at the same time FH and I are “old souls” so getting married, looking at homes and planning for kids was just a natural progression for our relationship.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

MissPoutine:  Just want to point out that having a relationship sooner than your friends does not make you wiser or more mature than them. They just haven’t met the right person yet. You got lucky and met yours young, not everyone is so lucky. And maybe they don’t want a relationship that’s not a crime either!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’m also in my early 20s, and getting married this year. Only a couple of my friends are in relationships, all of which are under 1 year. So I definitely feel sometimes that I am young to be married, but I don’t care. I never really was the partying type so I don’t really feel like I’m “settling down”.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

MissPoutine:  Well I’m glad you feel that way! The way you said you’re ready to be a grown up made me feel that you were saying your friends were not ready to be grown up because they weren’t getting married.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Caswell Beach- Oak Island, NC

I never thought it was weird to be engaged at 22 and then married at 23. My mom was married at 19 and had me before she was 21. Obviously times are different, but comparing myself to her, she was married and had 2 kids by the time she was my age now (24).

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - Lacuna Artist Lofts

I totally get it. I’m 22 (I’ll be 23 just before the wedding) and he is 28 so once I knew where our relationship was likely headed it threw me a little bit because I always thought I would marry late. Although I had to grow up fast so I am much more like my 28 year old FI than the 22 year olds I just graduated college with.

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