Post # 1
So on Feburary 5th my husband and I found out that we were going to be parents, we were beyond excited that we had to tell my parents right away since we all live together and of course they were excited for us. We didn’t tell anyone else cause it was so early. Last Saturday marked my 7th week pregnant and again I couldn’t feel more happy and excited to be a mom. Well all of those feelings came crush down Monday night. At around 8pm Monday I started getting painful cramps, not normal cramps.. at 10pm I had a miscarriage.
Now my question to you all i, if you ever experienced a miscarriage does the pain ever go away? how did you and your partner cope with it?
Post # 2
I’m so sorry bee – I had an mmc at 10 weeks. It really sucks. It eases though and for me finding out how common mcs are in general made me feel better to some degree. Someone on these boards posted that a miscarriage is just your body deciding it can give a baby a better start and so it tries again. I went on the have a perfect little boy and – I know this is just me probably – but I feel like it’s the same baby just in a better body, a better start. This is kind of a spiritual perspective and I know that not everyone will agree but it helped me a lot. Hugs to to you!!!
Post # 3
I’m so sorry for your loss. I have been through it twice, 9 weeks and 11 weeks. It gets better with time, but allow yourself to grieve the loss of your pregnancy. Give your body time to heal if you want to try again sometime. I coped with it each time by thinking of my baby waiting to meet me one day, in heaven. It might sound silly but I believe in that and it did help me. I cried a lot. It hurts, it’s a death, it takes time to heal, in more ways than one.
Post # 4
A miscarriage is a death which requires grieving. The grieving processes normally takes a year. I can say from experience (miscarriage at 6 weeks). It took months. Even at the one year mark I grieved. All the major milestones, due date, etc. you will find yourself grieving. You grieve not for the memories made but for the memories you will not be able to make with your baby. What helped me was knowing that the first time they opened their little eyes they saw Jesus, and what a beautiful gift that would be. Don’t let yourself feel bad for grieving and don’t let yourself feel bad for the moments you aren’t grieving.
Post # 5
I had a mc last year around Mother’s Day. It is HARD (I bawled my eyes out on Mother’s Day) but it does get better with time. Be kind to yourself and let yourself feel whatever it is you are feeling. We planted tulips in memory of our lost little one and that helped for me. i am now 24 weeks pregnant with our rainbow baby so keep the faith my friend. Very sorry you are going through this.