Post # 1
im kinda embarassed to say this and i dont want anyone to think anything bad of me..i will start saying that i really love my husband, soo sooo much, and i cant imagine my life without him, BUT i kinda always had a tiny crush on this man/attorney at my office since i started working here…. i see it more as a fantasy… nothing happened and nothing will ever happened (he is happily married with 2 kids, LOL) but i just think he is really HOT… and once i even dreamed about him…ewww gross i know…
am i a horrible person? do you consider this as cheating? i dont want to be like this, i dont even know why i am thinking and writing about it…ugh!!! cause maybe i feel GUILTY??? i dont really care about HIM, i dont have butterflies around him, i dont blush, i dont get nervous or stuff like that, actually sometimes i am annoyed when he is around and asks for stuff… i just think he is a very good looking man…
i just hope it will go away
Post # 3
My opinion is that you are married not dead! I think all humans think that another person is funny or attractive from time to time. To me, it’s no big deal as long as you never think about wanting to be with him or have an affair with him.
Post # 4
You are fine. It would be absolutely crazy if married individuals were never supposed to find another human being besides their spouse attractive. Do not feel guilty.
Post # 5
Once you get married, that doesn’t mean you will never be attracted to anyone else in your life but it’s the maturity from making it go further that matters. So as long as it’s not past “Oh he’s cute”, I think you are pretty normal.
Post # 6
I think it’s ok 🙂 Just don’t act on those feelings. And if you have an exciting dream, wake up your husband!
Post # 7
I love what jalii9 said. You didn’t lose you eye sight or your sexuality because you got married. I think it’s completely normal and you are not a bad person at all!
Post # 8
pftt! i feel better! 🙂 i was really upset with myself because of it and i was considerating this as cheating… but i really cant help it! i will always think he is hot! lol
Post # 9
You are going to be attracted to a lot of men throughout your life but as long as you don’t act on it you are fine!
Your husband gets attracted to other women as well!
There is a big difference between having a little crush and cheating!
Post # 10
Yeah, I think you’re definitely okay. There’s a guy at my work who is totally hot and I drool over him all the time, but he’s married, I’m married, and nothing’s going to happen and I know there. He’s just a hotty. 😛
Post # 11
You are going to find other people ‘pretty or handsome or hott” Just don’t thinka bout it too much.
Post # 12
I know all about this. I used to have this HUGE crush on my professor. Occupy your time with positive thoughts and let the moment pass. And it will.