- 3 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
I don’t want a ceremony?
I’d much rather spend the time, and money into planning an amazing honeymoon.
There are several reasons why I don’t want a ceremony, and I’m slightly worried that our families will be disappointed.
FI is in the Military so planning anything is almost always a nightmare. And I’m worried that the stress of planning not just one but two major events would almost be enough to cause me a mental breakdown, not to mention his family is spread out, Colorado, Texas (Some family 2 hours away and more of his family 2 hours away in the opposite direction) and Pennsylvania. My family is in Nebraska and Georgia. We live in Texas.
I dislike how focused on the bride weddings have become and it seems to me that the groom just kinda gets lost in the chaos and I want it to be about both of us, not just me, the wedding dress, bridesmaids dresses, flowers or cake.
I have terrible stage fright and almost crippling social anxiety. Both FI and I have PTSD and large groups of people make us both very uncomfortable.
I just can’t wrap my head around spending months stressing and spending thousands of dollars on one day, and on clothes that we will only ever wear once. When all of that money could be put into an epic honeymoon.
Neither FI or I are religious at all. And we wouldn’t want anything with any religious symbolism behind it, no churches, no preachers or preist or chaplins, no prayers or anything related to religion.
I don’t like the idea of my father “Giving me away” because even after I’m married I’ll still be his daughter, that makes no sense to me.
And everything we would want if we have a ceremony we could incorporate into a reception.
I do worry slightly about how our families are going to take it when they find out that we don’t want a ceremony. Also not really a reason I don’t want a ceremony but just kind of an added bonus is that both of our ex spouses live in this town and if there is no wedding ceremony there is no way our exs could crash it, (his ex wife hates me and is more than a little crazy and has been harassing me for the past year) I’m just worried I’ll sound like I’ve lost my mind when I explain it to people.