Does it matter if the Bridesmaids gift isn't typically wedding-y?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

I honestly really prefer non-wedding-y bridesmaids gifts. The robes/bracelets/t-shirts/hangers that say “BRIDESMAID” or “KELLI’S BACHELORETTE” end up in the Goodwill box in my house, I must admit. I’d rather have a nicely framed picture of me and the bride … or, better yet, jewelry. Or perfume. Candles. High quality bath salts. Gift certificate to Starbucks. Soemthing I’ll use.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

I think something individual will be more appreciated. Even getting them all the same thing, but in their favorite color or scent/flavor would be better than getting the exact same thing. Most of the bridesmaid gifts I have gotten have been in the “typical” range, but luckily none had my name or bridesmaid stamped on them. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

The less ‘wedding-y’ the better! 

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I agree that you should go with non-traditional gift. I’m getting my bridesmaids a mimosa kit. Get your girls something they will like and use.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Miss_E_xx:  I think non-weddingy is better. I still paid for my bm’s shoes, make up, hair, manis and pedis, lipstick, jewellery etc. and then just got them a gift each that was suited to their likes. One got a designer pair of pajyamas which I know she likes and the other got a new bag that I knew she needed.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I decided to shop for each girl as if it were a birthday gift. I think most of my girls will get a giftcard to a nice restaurant or hotel to enjoy with their SO and then a nice letter & photo in a frame. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Just treat each gift as if you are buying it for their birthday. I typically prefer my gifts to be less wedding-y and less like it was purchased in bulk through Oriental Trading or something. I also must say that I am not a fan of “bridesmaid survival kits,” any jewelry that will be worn in the wedding, monogrammed totes or totes with my name on it, anything with the word “bridesmaid” on it in general. I know, I sound like an ungrateful hag, but I’ve been bridesmaid enough that I have been given most of the same type of stuff time and time again.

One thing I appreciated, that I’m thinking of possibly doing for my girls, is when the bride paid for my hair, make-up, or both. It was nice to not have to worry about it the morning of and just enjoy getting pampered. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I agree with PPs that you should shop for each girl individually as though it were her birthday present. I tend to donate any bridesmaids gift I receive and feel bad that a friend spent money on a robe that’s embroidered with “Julia’s Bridesmaid!” as though I would ever wear that again.

Post # 11
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Newbee

I made gift bags for my girls with small things – pashmina’s, necklace, flip flops, clutch purses. Things that were good to be used at the wedding, but they could also use afterwards. They don’t say bridesmaid but now they don’t have to worry about any wedding accessories! 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I plan on doing something that’s non-wedding for their gifts.

I was just in a wedding last weekend as a PA, and the bride gave me some earrings (that happened to match by dress perfectly), oil perfume that she loves, and lip gloss. It was simple, but I still loved getting it!

I am not sure if she bought everyone the same thing, or not. She had 5 BMs and 3 PAs, so a lot of people to buy for. I only have 2 BMs.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Kacie209:  Hey, I am also getting married at the Ramada and I have 2 bridesmaids, yay!!!

I am thinking that I will give them a giftcard (each different of course) and maybe a purse or something that they will use. I am also paying for their makeup and hair! I don’t want to give them anything cheesy or wedding related.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I prefer non-weddingy presents! My bridesmaids/guys got a book, bottle of bourbon, a t-shirt and a framed star print!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

What I have done is that I bought the bridesmaids their dresses. So they avoid a major expense and its a nice gift that I hope they can re-use.

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