Post # 1
My mom and I have very different opinions on this matter and I don’t know if this is a a battle worth fighting or giving in to.
I’m having five girls stand on my side, in JCrew silk taffeta dresses. Each gal picked our her own dress in the same color and within this line. However the girls vary in height and weight. I have a friend who’s about 5’3″ and another who’s about 5’11”. And everyone else falls between these two heights!
I think my shorter friend will look great in the dress if it comes abover her knees, and wears heels. However my taller friend put her request in early for a dress that “covers her knees because she hates them” and always wears kitten heels.
I want them to hem the dresses as they see fit and wear shoes of their choice in the same color family but not necessarily the same shoe. My mom on the other hand continues to remind me that having all the dresses the same length and with the same shoe is a much “cleaner, more uniformed” look. She even tivo’d Oprah for me and paused it to show me the bridesmaid dresses since they defended her side.
I’d love to hear what you guys think about this and what you’ve done and seen! Of all the weddings I’ve been to, I honestly can’t remember what the length of the dresses looked like. But two of the weddings I’ve been in, the length and shoe was the same.
Post # 3
My bridesmaids and I discussed this since my girls were 5’0, 5’1, 5’2 and 5’10. We ended up not hemming because they just got sick of paying for alternations, and I never really thought it was obvious that they fell differently.
Post # 4
My first thought is yes, it does matter; however, I have seen many pictures where the dresses are different lengths and the girls are beautiful. The lengths of the dresses are going to vary anyway because of the different heights of your girls. I think you should go with whatever you think will look best. I don’t really think it matters either way because no matter what you decide they will still be beautiful.
Post # 5
My bridesmaid range from 5’3 to 5’11 so I understand! I’m letting the each choose their own style of dress and hem it whatever way they would like, I don’t think it would matter too much to me.
Post # 6
Like noritake22, at first I thouht yes, then I googled an image and it looks nice with different lengths. Here is a picture.
Post # 7
The simple answer is no, it doesn’t matter.
Post # 8
I don’t think it matters, they are all different heights so the length will be different on different people.
Post # 9
Its so subtle, that I wouldn’t mess with asking my BM to pay additional money to get it hemmed. If anything maybe one girl will perfer it slightly longer or shorter, so I would leave the option up to them.
Post # 10
No it doesn’t matter at all. Why do people (not you personally just in general) get so caught up in this matchy matchy business? Catholic School uniform-fine everyone has to match. 1985 wedding-okay bridesmaids used to look like clones of each other and had no identity. Today, I just think the whole EVERYONE MUST MATCH business just looks so unfashionable and dated. Give your girls a little identity! =) Mine wore all different dresses from all different designers from above the knee to floor length. Everyone loved how it looked!
Post # 11
I don’t think it matters – I have a friend who is 4’11, and compared to my 5’8 sister, if they were the same length one of them would be in a mini skirt while the other would be wearing an old granny dress!
Okay, I exagerrate, but I honestly think the most important thing is that they are comfortable.
Post # 12
I have worn tea length dresses for many of the weddings I’ve been a bridesmaid in. It always drove me crazy when we would have to have them all hemmed the same length (it was especially annoying the time when it turned out we would be standing on STAIRS the entire ceremony and no one would EVER know our dresses weren’t the same length). I say save your girls the money and let them keep them whatever length they want.
My girls are wearing short dresses, a few have asked me about hemming and I told them they can if they think it needs it. But it’s totally up to them. I’m also letting them wear whatever shoes/heel height they feel most comfortable in (just gave them a color range to stay in).
Post # 13
Totally doesn’t matter! Print out LOTS of pics and show your mom. She can take her tivo and shove it! lol
Post # 14
I say no, it doesn’t matter, because each girl is a different height. So even if the dresses were all hemmed to knee-length, then they’d still look like they’re different lengths when all of the girls are lined up. Does that make sense? I think the only thing that would be obviously noticeable is if one girl has a knee-length dress, one has tea length, one has floor length etc, but if they’re all around the same, general length, you’ll be good.
My girls all had short dresses that I recommended they get hemmed to their knees if they wanted. I also told them to wear silver shoes of their choice. My girls had on shoes of varying heights and dresses that were knee-length to slightly longer than knee-length, and they looked great together.
Post # 15
Oh goodness gracious NO. Your bridesmaids will stress less and photograph best in dresses and shoes that make them look and feel beautiful. I’ve been a bridesmaid several times now, and in almost every instance have worn cocktail length dresses, and not once have I been asked to have it hemmed to a specific length. My friends’ pictures are all lovely, even without the matching lengths! As for shoes, I’m only pro-matching if you’re doing a fun color (one bride did red patent leather w/ black dresses for a December wedding). Otherwise, I actually kind of like the look of mismatched shoes all in one shade, and, again, this tends to be a more popular option with bridesmaids since they can set their own price point or use things they already own.
Post # 16
My girls all had different dresses, lengths and materials. And different shoes. They were all the same color, though. I thought it looked great, and they were happy with their choices.