Post # 1
I was curious if it matters if the bride’s or groom’s name goes first on wedding items. I thought, “ladies first” and put my name first on the napkins, also for the guest pages I made, and plan to for the wedding program. I wanted to as well for everything else, but when I ordered my favor tags and wedding cake serving set online, they came to me in the mail with the groom’s name first. I didn’t know it would turn out that way, I just filled in the section where it asked for Bride then for Groom. I am reading different things on the internet, some saying the man’s name always goes first, some saying the woman’s name always goes first, and then there are people saying it should be the woman’s before the wedding and the man’s after the wedding, so napkins, etc, at the reception should be in the man’s name first. I just wanted things simple and to just put my name first on everything because I figured “ladies first”. Now I will have a mix because most things have my name first, and then some will have his first. I honestly don’t care very much, although I would have preferred everything to be the same. I know for one that pretty much every catalogue or website I have seen has the woman’s name first in the description pictures, so that is another reason why I assumed my name would go first. Any thoughts? Will it look funny to have my future husband’s name first on the favor tags or cake serving set? Thank you! :o)
Post # 3
No, it won’t look funny. I always understood that after you are married the husband’s name goes first. At least that is how I always do it because I took my husbands’s last name.
Post # 4
I wanted everything with my hubby’s name first. I might just be old fashioned though:)
Post # 5
Usually the man’s name is first, but I don’t think it really matters. Just do what you guys want to do.
Post # 6
I don’t think it matters. I personally cared more about consistency than what’s technically “right.” Although I’d always heard it bride’s name first on all pre-wedding things, and groom’s first on all things post-wedding (meaning, once you’re married, like you will be at the reception!).
Post # 7
I don’t think it matters one bit! I think you should do whichever way sounds better. My name ends in -a and I don’t like the sound of “___a and” so I put his name first on everything. But if his name ended in -a, I would have done the opposite!
Post # 8
I don’t think there’s any rule.. I just put mine first.. whenver we’re talked about as a couple it’s always “Jenn and Joe,” so saying “Joe and Jenn” just sounded odd to me. He did ask “Why is your name first on everything?” My reply was “Because I’m doing all the work.”
Post # 9
We’ve been choosing whose name goes first based solely on how it looks from the graphic design angle. Our save the dates read with “my first name (7 leters) &” on the top line and “his first name (9 letters)” on the bottom. It had nothing to do with etiquette and everything to do with how it looked. On our embosser his name is on top and mine is on the bottom for the similar reasons.
We’re pretty laid back on this traditional gender roles thing, though, and I won’t be taking his last name, so that plays into our decisions as well.
Post # 10
I put my name first. It happend to be alpabetical that way.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I think traditionally the bride’s name goes first? But these days it doesn’t really matter. I’m just switching it up and doing half and half.
Post # 12
Thank you all very much! It is interesting to see how everyone is so different regarding this matter. I also like consistency, so I would have preferred my name be first one everything since that is what I did from the start, but I will not re-order my favor tags and cake serving set, that is just extra cost and hassle. It might look funny that there is a mix of both my name being first and his name being first, but oh well. I am happy to hear from anyone else and whose name they put first. My fiance doesn’t care. I just would have liked all items to be the same but I guess it really doesn’t matter in the end!
Post # 13
@lolot: interesting! mine is unintentionally going to be half and half, hehe
Post # 14
@August2013Bride: I put my name first on everything lol I guess I’m just selfish but fiance doesnt care either way
Post # 15
My name went first on our monogram/stationary, but I didn’t look into etiquette, at all.
Post # 16
@sweetchiquita12: my fiance doesn’t care either, he is very laid back about all of the wedding stuff. It will just end up being a mix since the places I ordered stuff from all do it differently.