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So I just got engaged on Dec 26th (well actually we proposed to each other - hence the pic of 2 rings!) however, when I got back to work and showed off my new ring (which is a 3ct Emerald and 2 pink sapphires - which was custom made) the reaction from a couple of people was a little hurtful... one even asked me if it was a 'cocktail' ring I was using until the 'real' one arrived!!!!!! I joke not 
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I'm originally from the UK and my roots are Celtic, which is why we chose the Emerald as it had much more meaning and colored gemstones are common for Engagement rings there. and truth be told it cost way more than most Diamond rings because of the size/quality and cut of the Emerald, but will others really just think this is a 'Cocktail' ring??
People can be idiots. Just ignore their closed-minded ignorance. You rings are gorgeous and it sounds like they have a very special meaning! They make perfect engagement rings. :)
i think its beautiful! and if you love it who cares what they think? there are soooo many styles out there. its great you custom made them together... that much more personal and special :)
It's completely gorgeous! You're wearing it on your left hand so to me that's an engagement ring.
Who cares what other people say or think. Do they have to wear the ring on their finger? No. If you like it and are happy with it THAT IS ALL THAT MATTERS!
P.S. I think it's a beautiful ring!
I am so sorry you are going through this. I think this day in age most people think only a solitaire DIAMOND can be an engagement ring! Which is NOT true at all! Many ladies on here have gemstone rings (myself included) & though I did have a diamond solitaire & wedding band (lost them sadly) I do look to see people give my new ring funny looks. But I don't mind! My husband bought it for me to replace my old one & I picked it out myself! We could have gotten a diamond or other clear stone (asha moissy, ect) but I really wanted a gemstone ring! So oh well.
& To answer your question it looks like an engagement ring to me, you are wearing it on your ring finger, your fiance gave it to you, so not only does it LOOK like one it IS an engagement ring & a lovely one at that!
Well, honestly, no, it does not look like the typical engagement ring that most people picture when you say "e-ring". But who cares what other people think.
How gorgeous!! I wouldn't say it's a "common looking" engagement ring, but that is a great thing. It has meaning to you and it is beautiful!!
Congratulations on your engagement!!!
I wouldn't necessarily think it was an engagement ring (if I just saw it sitting out) - but the fact that it's on your ring finger would make me think it was!
Because it's untraditional, you WILL likely need to explain it to more people than if it were a diamond ring - but that doesn't make it any less special or any less an engagement ring!!!!
Here is a lovely thread with lots of different styled e-rings with lots of different gems:
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/non-diamond-engagement-rings
That's a gorgeous emerald; I love that you both have erings! People are idiots - I think giving them the explanation about being Celtic and colored gemstones being more common in the UK would be a nice way of gently educating them. Hopefully they'll have sense enough to be embarrassed for their rudeness and ignorance.
Very Pretty! Just brush it off, more people need to have better sensors!
I think it's gorgeous. IMO if I see a ring on someone's ring finger, I assume it's an engagement/wedding ring unless told otherwise. Everyone has different taste, and you're the one who's going to be wearing the ring day in, day out, so why is it any of their concern?
I think we should put out a PSA saying If someone shows you their engagement ring, the correct response is "Ooh", "Ahh", or "How pretty!" Responses that will get you smacked include "Is that really it?", "But it's not a diamond!" and "How cute!"
BTW, I love yours extra hard because it reminds me of mine ;)
Congratulations. It's lovely. Gemstones are very common in the UK. Diamonds only became the stone of choice for erings in north america over the past century. It was all the marketing.
Disregard any negative comments. Makes me wonder why some people even open their mouths.
I had a marquise shaped ruby for my first marriage. I liked that it was not a diamond.
Enjoy it!!
@oracle: Agreed, I was just about to say this.
Until I joined WB I wasn't too familiar with gemstone e-rings so I would have at one time questioned (to myself of course) whether it was an e-ring or just something pretty to wear.
That being said it is a gorgeous ring regardless of what people think it is or stands for.
II would wouldn't look at that ring and think engagement/wedding ring but if you told me that's what it is then THATS WHAT IT. I'm not sure why so many people are ready to call people "idiots" because they thought it was a cocktail ring ( which doesnt have a negative connotation to me). Any time you go the nontraditional route people will not recognize the meaning of something. This is a great teachable moment. The more non traditional rings people see, the more people may start accepting that engagement ring doesn't always equal diamond solitaire of a certain size.
Ugh. People can be so dense and insensitive! It's beautiful, and it means a lot to you. That's all that matters.
Also, what oracle said.
@Angkinah: Your ring is gorgeous! You should be proud of it! Even tho that lady gave a negative connotation to "cocktail ring" there shouldn't be one.
When my mother said my ring looked like a cocktail ring, she meant it as major compliment. She was saying it was fun, different and more elegant than a solitaire. She also meant that when I get dressed up for something formal, I already have a fine piece of jewelry on my finger.
Size and cost have no bearing on the definition of a cocktail ring. Also the fact that you are wearing it on your left ring finger defines it as an engagement ring.
As a fellow gemstone ring owner, I know people are totally weird about gemstone rings. It's starting to become more popular but lots of people expect the standard diamond. I for one think it's rude for people to say anything untoward after you've told them it's your engagement ring, but not everyone is well-behaved. :P
I think your ring is gorgeous, and I think it's neat that you two have matching rings already!
I don't think that it looks like a "typical" engagement ring, but that's not necessarily a bad thing! I wouldn't have thought it was engagement ring (except for it being on the ring finger, obviously) if I saw it in passing, but that was not cool for your co-workers to down your ring. I think it's beautiful and unique and that's what is important, not what others have to negatively say.
Aww, I feel ya sister :/ People can be so rude without even knowing it (or maybe they do know, idk)
I have a ruby that I love! And even though it's surrounded by diamonds, the fact that the center stone is a ruby means the reaction I almost always get is "oh, cute." I just learned to let it go. I know that my ruby means more to me than a big diamond would. Don't worry too much about it, it's gorgeous and you love it. 'Nuff said :)
Wow, that's a beautiful ring! I have an emerald e-ring myself. Good choice. ;)
I've had this conversation planned out in my head for that day when someone asks me if my e-ring is, in fact, an e-ring.
Them: So is that an engagement ring?
Me: Why do you ask?
Them: Well, because it's on your left ring finger...and it's not a diamond.
Me: Why does an engagement ring have to be a diamond?
Them: *blank, flabbergasted stare* Uh. Because it's tradition?
Me: Why is it tradition?
Them: Oh. Well. Um.(Insert head scratching & DeBeers marketing white noise here)
I figure I'll leave them hanging there and let them figure it out for themselves.
People are ignorant. It's one thing to ask if you don't know the person (regardless of what the ring looks like or what the stone is), but another thing entirely to be that dumb about it if someone just announced an engagement!
If it's on your ring finger, I always assume it's an engagement ring! :-)
@Minutiae: LOL this so made me chuckle - and I am so going to borrow this the next time someone asks me about it as they seem to do!!!!
No, it obviously doesn't look like your typical or traditional engagement ring but UM who's to say what an ering has to be!!? I love emeralds!! Be proud and know that you have a wonderful man who wants to spend the rest of his life with you :-)
My engagement ring is an emerald too. It was what I'd dreamed of having ever since I was a little girl. Occasionally someone will be oblivious or ask why not a diamond, but for the most part people think it's a neat idea. If they mention diamonds, just say Kate Middleton has a sapphire, you have an emerald, not everyone wants a diamond.
is not the typical ring and that is why is beautiful so listen to no one who is telling you otherwise. The opposite happened to me. I have a pretty traditional ring and someone told me "are you engaged?.. oh I like your ring but everyone has a diamond ring... look at my pearl is more original and beautiful" .... I was like seriously? how rude so the same thing goes to the person who asked you that. How rude. A better question would be like are you engaged or when are you getting married etc. But don't even worry about that your ring is beautiful.
@Minutiae: LOL yeah if someone wants to play the "tradition card", they need to check their history. Until De Beers came along, coloured gems, especially sapphires, were the tradition.
Thank you everyone for weighing in on this topic... I guess coming from the UK where this type of reaction to a 'non-diamond' engagement ring rarely happens I was not really prepared for it living here in the US. But truth be told I don't care what the ring would have looked like or had cost - the fact that he gave it to me is what really matters to me. 
However, I LOVE my ring, and you ladies have helped me to smile about it again like I did when he placed it on my finger.
@Angkinah: BTW do you have any side pics of your ring? I'm dying to see another shot of the side designs.
@linguo42: I totally agree (:
ETA: I'd love to see more pictures of your ring, it's gorgeous!
Its not an "average" engagement ring... but who wants to be average? :)
Some people just have a hard time thinking out of the box. I love the way the two rings go together!
No it doesn't look like an engagement ring. But there is nothing wrong with that! I'm sure you knew when you picked it no one would know it was an e-ring at first glance. If you love it then rock it, explain for people who won't get it right off the bat and just smile at people who dismiss it. Diamond, ruby, sapphire or ring pop- an e-ring is an e-ring. CONGRATS! :)
No, it doesn't look like a traditional E-ring, you can't honestly think that it does. But it is an E-ring.
It has an Angel wing on one side (he calls me his Angel) and the other side is a Celtic Trquetra (symbol of unity)
@blingbling: I shouldn't have been so harsh about it, but when I said "idiots" I was referring to the rudeness of people, not them thinking it's a cocktail ring. It was the attitude I was referring to, not the misconception.
@Angkinah: You've got the right attitude about it. 
The details are gorgeous! Really awesome rings you guys chose!
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