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Perhaps it's just me but I find it both jarring and disappointing when bees resort to the use of profanities in their posts. I know that lots of people use these words in their everyday language, but I cringe when I read them in posts on this site.
Do we really need to read " rushed to buy that shit" or "WTF" in posts? I always think it reflects poorly on the user.
Let me know your opinion.
@julies1949: I think its just about level of expression and emotionality. Sometimes I might use WTF or something along those lines but I defintely dont look down upon bees that might use profanities. I dont really care. I dont care in everyday life either though so maybe thats why.
I can definitely see where you are coming from. Language doesn't upset me in certain contexts but I agree that it isn't appropriate or necessary at all on the boards.
WTF is fine by me, when used in the correct circumstances. But I don't appreciate the actual, spelled out profanities.
I feel your pain. I'm not one for profanity & was raised that a "lady" doesn't use such language. I've come to learn that there are millions of women in the world, but very few ladies anymore.
I'd attribute some of it to the current state of society and the fact that profanity is used quite nonchalantly on television, in movies, songs, etc. I think many younger people are simply desensitized to it since they have grown up with it. I'm 40 and therefore old enough to remember when the worst word you heard on t.v. was "damn" and it was only used after 9:00— LOL!
It doesn't really bother me. I think if every other word is a cuss word, I start to get annoyed and at that point, it starts to reflect negatively on the person saying it. But a cuss word here or there doesn't bother me. The way I look at it is that there are so many things in life that are so much worse than foul language to even focus on it.
Anyway, when I see WTF, I think "What The Eff"-- sometimes I even say it like that too. :)
WTF doesn't bother me... but there is a certain word that starts with a c and ends with a t that is used to describe a not so nice woman that makes me want to jump through the screen and choke them.
I had a guy on my FB use that word today.. umm can you say instant delete?
In 'real life', I have a rather notorious potty mouth. However, I also know when to check my language and WeddingBee is one of those places for me. On occasion something will slip through without me really thinking too hard about what I'm saying, but overall I do try to be respectful. I paid attention to the audience here before I posted and that made a big difference.
I can see what you're saying. I grew up in a household that did not tolerate any "foul language" and I still don't use that type of language. My husband uses profanities sometimes as it bothers me. He's agreed stop using those words when we have kids.
Personally, I think that it is a rather unimaginative way to express your thoughts.
@tootie, I was raised similarly (and am not quite your age but almost) and wasn't even allowed to say the mild versions of "damn", etc. I agree with you that the media of current society has a strong influence on what folks today are exposed to, and thus jaded by to the point that it doesn't make them blink under any circumstances.
It doesn't bother me in the slightest. It does bother me when people write S*** or F*ck. It took you just as much time to type that as it would the actual word and everyone knows what your saying so either use the word or don't. Don't be scared of a swear word.
It bothers me! But it bothers me in real life too. I don't curse. I chastise my FI and friends when they curse. I should add that I'm a really religious person, and only hold those who I know share my views on profanity to that standard. My non religious friends don't curse around me either though, because they know it bothers me.
It doesn't bother me at all. I'm annoyed when people use profanity in front of kids, but I'm assuming no children are reading Weddingbee :)
It can. Used sparingly when upset? Sure. Whatever. But throwing around your potty language because you have no, ahem, sh*t filter between your brain and the keyboard? Obnoxious.
I've always personally been a little sensitive about language. But to each her own. :)
Meh. I am probably guilty of this... I type like I talk and... well I do use profanity in my everyday language. We're all adults here right?! I guess because I've always talked like that, I didn't realize that I would be offending others. It's an online forum though so people are going to say all sorts of things... I don't see why it's such a big deal.
OK, I'm going to disagree - but I am going to do it politely and without curse words. :)
I LOOOOVE profanity. I have a massive, massive potty mouth - sometimes I don't even notice the stuff (there - checked myself) that comes out of my mouth. I also have a really off color sense of humor. I think people who know me well sometimes think that I am trying to shock people and seem edgy but that's not really it. I just like cursing. I like coming up with new curses. I like vile language. It always feels very contrived to me when people are obviously upset or obviously discussing cruder things and don't use those words from them.
As far as being a lady - I consider that kind of a judgemental comment but at the same time am not offended because that's totally not how I see myself nor how I want other people to see me. I'd much rather be seen as someone who's much more at home in a locker room than a society function (I also don't want people to see me as female or feminine before they see me as me.) But that's a whole different issue than dirty language.
I do know how to tone it down when I'm paying attention, though. Like at work or even on weddingbee - I can tell that people here don't curse that much and it's not really apporpriate to the medium. So that's cool. I don't want to upset people I just like to swear a lot.
"wtf" and "wth" don't bother me at all. i feel like they're just pretty common online-speak. But if someone typed it out i'd think it was maybe stronger than necessary.
Nope doesn't bother me at all!! I am also guilty of being a potty mouth. I just don't take it so seriously. They are just words..
it doesnt bother me, but i prefer to do without it. i feel its unnecessary, but some ppl use profanity as exclamation marks...
I don't like to hear it in real life, but I guess I haven't noticed it here.
I pretty much disagree completely. Someone linked to one of the bee blogger's posts from 2005 or 2006, before the site became so popular, and her post (on the actual blog) was peppered with casual curse words, like the kind my friends and I use in conversation every day. I loved it; it felt so real and natural and funny. It bothers me when I feel like people on the blogs and the boards are self-censoring their conversation, like we're talking to each other on a preschool playground.
for the most part no...especially "wtf" i just read it as w.t.f. and I use those letters on a daily basis...so nope.
Doesn't bother me in the least! I don't intentionally omit swear words when I'm posting to the bee, but I'm usually not passionate enough to be using them here. In real life, I curse often, as do most people who I work with. When I see curse words I feel like it's someone actually speaking rather than writing. It's like those people are really free being themselves, and I like that.
Doesnt bother me at all as long as it is not derogatory in any way...because thats rude.
With that being said, I am a ptty mouth! But Im also a firm believer in that its not what you say but how you say it(and you mean by it) For instance if i replaced a "foul" word with a common word but i still MEANT the same thing then whats the point in saying something different?
With that being said, i personally dont think it is NECESSARY to use "foul" language...however who am i too tell/suggest what other bees should do?
It was certainly a little shocking for me when I started to notice more than the occasional slip in a blog post or two. But, it's really started to grow on me and I think is part of what makes the bee so great. Each of the bloggers hs a very different voice. There are bloggers that write in a way that I have a hard time reading, while there are others that write in a way that I TOTALLY identify with. Like I said, I really think it's what makes the bee great.
It doesn't bother me one bit. But I use profanity fairly regularly in everyday life. While I think it reflects poorly on a person when it is used in place of vocabulary - you know, when every other word is profane - but if it's being used moderately and in its place, I don't see the problem.
I love the f word, so useful. What does bother me is when people misuse your/you're. Curse all you want but please watch your grammar.
Doesn't bother me...and I rarely curse in real life!LOL Now if people started with MFs and stuff...that'd bother me. I guess it's the "hardcore cursing" that gets to me.lol
i couldn't care less, but i have a for real potty mouth so maybe that's why! :)
@LGenz: Ha! It's my fav too! LOL!
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