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There is a difference.

With roomates you don't have to worry about keeping a relationship beyond making sure rent and bills are paid on time. When they are bothering you, you can lock yourself in your room and wait it out. You still have your own space. And while it would be nice to be super close friends with your roomates it isn't always necessary.

But you can't do those same things when you are living with your FI/husband. You have to maintain two relationships: being roomates and being eachothers SO. His space is your space and vica versa. 

I don't know, there is a lot more to it but it is hard to explain without being in the two situations. Hope my semi-advice helped a little!

AGH roommates were the worst. I ended up hating almost every one I ever had! But I still like my FI  

I think living with my parents and siblings all my life has prepared me better than rooming would. They're my family, so no matter what their quirks are, they're still going to be there through everything, and we'll have to deal with our problems at the end of the day. My parents set a great example for what it takes to keep a family together. Roommates, on the other hand, are people you don't have to deal with forever so the commitment and compromising skills are lacking.

I'm also waiting until marriage to live with my man, when we can start our life together on the right foot; as a family emotionally, spiritually, and legally. We're very much alike so I'm not worried about the transition being all that difficult. It may be the same way for you. :)

I only had roommates in college, and I found living with my husband was so much easier. Of course, I always had really bad roommate experiences.

One, I always felt weird about being honest with roommates. I hate confrontation if I have to see the person every day. Saying "please turn your music down" was hard for me. With my husband (or BF/FI at the time), it was always easy because there was already an established form of respect between us. It was never a big deal to speak up.

Two, With roommates, I hated the feeling of "small talk." I never had much in common with my roommies, and the awkward pressure of "how was class today?" was awful. Not with my husband, of course! No pressure for small talk, or, it comes naturally.

Three, you don't have to worry about walking around naked or anything :)

But yeah, it's seriously very different. I found it much easier to live with a SO than a roommate. Of course, it's always an adjustment at first, but you eventually find a much more comfortable groove with your SO than with a roomie.

For me and for Ms. Chapstick's reasons, it was way different (and better)! 

I found it to be different. All my roommates were always other women, and if was really nice to have that female companionship. It was hard to adjust to not having other women around. I miss that super-close connection I had with my friends. I always loved getting ready to go out with my roommates, we would blast our music and try on all our outfits for each other. Now when I get ready to go out it is much more boring :(

it's incredibly different! but, i found living with roomates to be really helpful in terms of preparing for specific things--like, splitting chores, and communicating/negotiating about your needs and space. there are certain weird things we both do that we wouldn't know how to articulate if we'd only lived with our families--like, my fi is NUTS about wrinkles/folding his clothes immediately after they come out of the dryer, and he knows that he's pickier about it than "normal," and therefore that's one of his chores. he's had issues in the past with roomates and laundry, so he's learned from that experinece, but if he'd only ever lived at home, where his mom always would do the folding immediately, he maybe wouldn't be so willing to compromise. but yeah, we have to work at maintaining our relationship in a different, more proactive way so we don't end up as "just" roommates, so that's very different. plus, it's just so much more fun!!

Must chime in and agree with the others that its TOTALLY DIFFERENT. I’ve lived with random roomies, friends, best friends, etc. and had both good and bad experiences, and none of them are like living with FH. It’s a completely different relationship than friends or other living situations.

I’m biased in my belief that before getting married, you should live together, as I find living with FH to be a different experience than dating him (even when we spent 6 out of 7 nights a week together). It’s just different.

I also think it’s important to live on your own (by yourself), and live with roommates before getting married. I think it teaches you a lot about yourself, and how to be a good housemate, but again, that’s just my biased opinion.

I agree it is way different!  Especially since we are in my house.  Before my roomie lived upstairs and had the gameroom and her own bathroom to herself.  I had the whole downstairs area we shared the kitchen of course.  Now the FI and I share the same room, closest space and bathroom sink area. And he prefers to watch tv downstairs instead of upstairs like my roomie did. So there is some adjusting going on for us.  Oh yea and now I don't have the garage for my cars only now he has a car in there. So I park outside.  So it is different but at the same time it is nice because we cook together and watch tv together.  Before it was like I lived alone even though I had a rommie.