Post # 1
After reading a post I got to thinking about this question. I feel like you hear this all the time, or at least I do. Oh marriage changes everything yadda yadda. Maybe its just because FI and I are so non traditional but I dont see our lives changing all that much. We have lived together for a few years now, We have a son together, and our finances have been combined since we got our place. What is really going to change besides my name?? Now I realize not everyone does things as ass backwards as FI and I, but hey it works for us 🙂
What do you bees think? What changed most for you after you got married?
Or if you arent married yet what do you think will be the biggest change in your lives?
Post # 3
After the marriage, our relationship is even better and more romantic. We get a huge kick out of calling each other husband and wife. I love the way it feels to be married, to have that uniting us, I dont know how it is for other people, but for us its been wonderful and has improved our relationship.
Post # 4
I can’t relate when people say it changed things so much. We were together 7 years, lived together for 6 of those years and had combined finances for 4 years. So for us nothing really chaned at all. I have asked DH and he laughs when I ask him so for him definitly nothing has changed. For me I guess I have a little bit more sense of security, if that makes sense. But thats all.
Post # 5
@Annabelle86: This is what I cant wait for. I am excited to hear the first time he calls me his wife lol
@pinkb: It does make sense to feel more secure!
Post # 6
@pinkb: agreed. I think it is different for people who don’t live together before marriage, don’t have sex before marriage, or don’t combine finances before marriage but do afterwards.
After 8 years together, there is really no difference between pre-marriage and post=marriage for us.
Post # 7
I really hope not.
I think my situation is a little bit more traditional. We won’t live together before marriage, but we did combine our finances after we got engaged so FI could get used to being head of the household.
I’m interested in hearing some Bees from traditional relationships. I think the living together is a change, but how we feel towards each other and treat each other shouldn’t change. Maybe get sweeter like AnnaBelle said since we’ll love calling each other hubby and wifey.
Post # 8
No, not really. I aked my husband if he feels anything different now that we’re married. He replied that he enjoys getting some whenever he wants as his favorite perk of marriage.
Anyways, we lived togethere for 4 years before getting hitched so I knew exactly how he brushes his teeth, dosnt put the dishes in the dishwasher etc.. No surprises.
Just the title chage is fun, and I fet a kick out of him wearing his ring.
Post # 9
@Luckygir15: I do get a kick out of him wearing his ring too! He never wears jewlery so I love to see that ring on his finger everyday 🙂
Post # 10
We’ve both commented on how different it feels to actually be married. There’s the wonderful “honeymoon phase” and I don’t mean the actual honeymoon. For several weeks, we were both on cloud nine. And now that life is back to normal, we’re still more aware of our status, so to speak. I think that facing the nerves of the day and saying those vows aloud does impact your daily lives. We lived together for several years, had a home and child, so I didn’t think it would change anything.
DH just said he feels different, too, and he feels closer. That with the whole run-up to the wedding, all the planning and stress, getting to the vows is something that we accomplished together… there’s a finality to it all (not sure exatly what he means by that finality, but he’s done talking and Star Trek is on… lol).
So, I’d say that if the relationship is strong, it will feel stronger after the vows.
Post # 11
Not a lot has changed. We still love each other and still have our days where we feel annoyed by each other. 😉 I do find that others treat us a bit differently.
In a sense, we feel more secure. We have set down and have come up with a great financial plan for ourselves. It feels great to know he is my husband.
Post # 12
The biggest change for us will just be able to call each other husband and wife. I’m looking forward to changing my name too 🙂 And him wearing a ring. I think it’ll just make me feel more secure in our relationship. It’s a little different. We live together now, and aren’t going to be combining all of our finances, so that won’t change. It’ll just feel more official and feel like our relationship is more recognized.
Post # 13
I’ve heard that saying, and I can see how for some people it does change everything and for others maybe not so much.
I think the character of the people and their intentions going into a marriage is huge!
Post # 14
As someone who has been married twice before, I would say DEFINITELY. Both times, it didn’t change at first and the change was sutle. There is much more in terms of expectations. It is hard to describe really.
Post # 15
not really. everything is just as wonderful as it was before 🙂
*we lived together before we got married so not much changed. it is so nice to be able to say husband instead of SO, BF, or FI…its sounds so temporary!
Post # 16
For couples who have yet to live together, it can be the best year of your marriage or the worst. Think about all the habbits you have no clue about, like what brand of toothpaste he uses…or the fact that you can’t stand that he never puts the dishes in the washer, or forgets to put clothes in the dryer. These are the LITTLE things, that can cause big or little fights. Dating outside of living together is SO different. You’re always putting your best self at each date most of the time. Living together, you see the good with the bad. Sometimes couples FORGET that it took effort and time to start a great relationship, and you have to do the same in a marriage. That’s why you have date night once a week…and pre-marital classes are great. They talk about topics that you maybe have yet to bring up to your FH. That helps to come up with a game plan, to prevent some arguments from kicking you in the butt.