Post # 1
My fiance is the greatest–he let me design my own engagement ring 🙂 I poured over blogs and pictures and even this forum trying to decide what exactly I wanted. I decided I didn’t want him to spend 10k on a diamond because 1) I’d rather we use the money to buy a house soon, and 2) I was convinced that a forever brilliant moissanite would look just as beautiful.
I had a platinum, hand-engraved setting designed and requested a 7mm Forever Brilliant moissanite cushion cut for my center stone, plus two 3mm trillion cut side stones. I really like the hand engraved setting, and the weight of the platinum makes it feel really nice, but I can’t help but feel the stones make the whole thing look cheap 🙁 I was just in my supervisor’s office staring at her real diamond engagement ring and I felt like comparatively I was wearing something from Wal Mart :/ I just feel like the stones look glassy and lack the depth of a diamond, plus there’s that hint of green color especially in certain lighting.
Am I being overly sensitive? Should I have expected this by choosing moissanite?
I’ve posted some of the more unflattering photos below, but here is a video as well:
Post # 2
jreal: Well, yes you should have expected your stone to look like a moissy and not a diamond, first off, because it isn’t a diamond. I bet your boss has a lovely diamond ring. Can she live in her ring? Nope, that’s why you are buying a house instead.
At first glance, no it doesn’t look like a diamond. But that doesn’t make it any less beautiful! I have a sapphire, and I’m not running around trying to pass it off as a blue diamond! If you really want to feel better, it was only until the 1900’s that diamonds were even used universally for engagements. Before it was opals, sapphires, emeralds, amathyst, rubies, yes diamonds too. People also used pearls and crystal!
Post # 3
Your ring is lovely. Also, diamonds come in anwe tire spectrum of variations, which people seem to forget as soon as they get a non-diamond ring. If your boss had a D/IF ideal cut diamond and you held a K/I2 good cut diamond next to it you would probably be in here asking us the same question because of how VASTLY different they look.
Do you like your ring? When he put it on your finger did you love it before you started comparing it and letting self-doubt about your choices get in your way?
If you did then have the courage of your convictions and move on.
Post # 4
I really can’t tell it’s not a real diamond. In real life, I don’t think people will be able to pick up the subtleties between the two.
Post # 5
jreal: before I looked at the pictures, I expected to see a tacky ring from Wal-Mart and it’s anything but! It’s beautiful. I can see what you might have second thoughts…it’s not a diamond, and you know it’s not a diamond. Does that take a way from the beauty of the ring? I don’t think so. Really, it’s gorgeous and enjoy your new life with your fiance and future home!
Post # 6
Um, your ring is an engagement ring… looks pretty real to me!
I would not compare what you have to what others have, that’s never going to end well.
You said so yourself, you designed the ring to exactly what you wanted. FWIW, I think it’s beautiful, I love the engraving and you can never go wrong with platinum.
PS: Moissanite won’t look like a diamond, it’s got a different chemical composition. Apples and oranges…
Post # 7
Of course it doesn’t look like a diamond–because it isn’t. You should have picked moissanite because you actually liked their unique qualities and not for any other reason. I think your ring is beautiful but ultimately you have to be happy with it.
Post # 8
First, I think your ring is lovely. You put thought, and effort, and it came out great. Second, what do you mean by fake? You said it’s not a diamond, and that’s fine. I think that makes it “fake”, unless you meant it doesn’t look like a gemstone at all, in which case, no. It looks real. IMO.
And nothing wrong with a Wal-Mart ring 😉
Post # 9
jreal: I think it looks gorgeous! I’ll say this though……I have been researching moissanite myself, and the lack of “depth” in the forever brilliant is a complaint I’ve come across more than once. Maybe try a different stone if it really bothers you?
Post # 10
I think your biggest problem is that you wanted a diamond, but you got a moissanite hoping it would look like one for cheaper.
Your ring is beautiful. Although a diamond isn’t in your budget right now, remember you can always replace it with a diamond when you have the money for it.
Post # 11
Gorgeous ring. Love cushion cut! You are being over sensitive. How could a high quality ring (regardless of chosen stone) look cheap?
Most people (regardless of what they may say) cannot tell the difference between well cut glass and diamonds in a ring someone else is wearing. Only people you actually show the ring will get a really good close look at the stone. Everyone else will just see white shiny stones. People assume white shiny stones equals diamonds. Assumptions about whether the stone is real will depend on their opinions about what they think you can afford, what they know about the price of diamonds and the quality of the setting (& yours is a high quality setting).
Post # 12
I think it’s not the diamond or moissy, it just a woman nature that we compare/compete with other women. I love my e-ring to bit but I still secretly compare mine with FI’s BFF fiance e-ring. Mine is consider high quality diamond but compares to her, hers spark so much even in the dark and I cannot stop looking at her each time I see her.
But then I ask myself, would I choose her ring over mine. Nope, if I have to choose again, i will still choose my own setting over hers. and I love my FI so much that we are the best for each other. That’s all matter and in a month from now, I’m marrying this wonderful man. so who cares 🙂
Post # 13
Listen–I totally realize I’m being ridiculous. Yes, I LOVED it when he first gave it to me and I thought it was amazing and gorgeous. And for the record–I actually didn’t really want a diamond for both ethical and financial reasons–and yes, I realize that it makes no sense then that I want other people to think I have a giant diamond on my hand. It’s strange, I know, but I guess part of it is that I’m originally from the South where many people judge the value of a man by the size of the diamond he’s able to put on a woman’s finger (judged by your family anyway) and I want them to think he’s just as amazing as I think he is. I also am an attorney and have gotten caught up in what is “expected”.
I’m being dumb, and I thank you bees for telling me like it is 🙂
Post # 14
- Wedding: January 2015 - chruch
Looks good to me. I honestly cannot tell the difference. Your ring is lovely. Also, my ring is from walmart 🙂 And I love it. Im the one who picked it out. I could have picked from anywhere but I didnt because I love my ring and I dont care where it came from. Besides, to me (at least) im marrying the person not the ring! 🙂
Post # 15
Does it look like a diamond? Not really-it looks like my cz that I got for $30 for my honeymoon & completely lacks depth. But if you’re asking if others will know-maybe not-most people don’t know about moissonite, and probably would expect you to spend more than $30 on your ring.
If you wanted a diamond, you should’ve gotten one-or at least expected that a non-diamond isn’t going to be the same thing.
ETA:it’s specifically the side view that does it for me-top down you can’t tell from pics.