Post # 1
Hey guys, so we are printing our own invites and we are doing the pocket invitions by Wilton! They are such a great deal. So here is my mock up of the wording for the invitations.
My parents are divorced so I think they are not supposed to be on the same line. And with the time, we decided not to do “Half past Five” because it sounded wayyyy to stuffy for our circle. No one here talks that way so I just kept it “Five thirty”.
Otherwise, should I change anything? Move anything around?
Post # 4
@Soon-to-be Mrs. Baranick: The “Mr. and Mrs. Kelly and Sandy B — ” is odd – usually with the honorifics “Mr. and Mrs.” it is followed by the husband’s first name then their last name.
edited to add – I just googled wedding invitation etiquette and the way you have it is a variation – so forget what I wrote above! 🙂
Post # 5
@Astra: lol Ok! Haha I was about to change it, but if that way is a variation, I guess I’ll keep it the way it is! Thanks!
Post # 6
Does your mom not mind being called “Mrs.”? I am married and I still prefer “Ms.”
Post # 7
@Kimberley25: She remarried but to stop it from being wordy, we just put my mom and biological father. Also, She likes being called Mrs. I guess lol
Post # 8
@Soon-to-be Mrs. Baranick: Ah, then, as long as she is okay with it, all is well! I think your invitation is quite lovely!
Post # 9
“Request the honour of your presence” is used for weddings held in the public worship space of a church or other reigious community, to indicate that — since it is a public space where the deity wecomes everyone, not just invited guests — what you are receiving is technically an announcement rather than an invitation. Weddings held in private social spaces, such as home weddings or at a rented venue that is closed to the public during the wedding, properly use the phrase “request the pleasure of your company”.
Since “Kelly” and “Sandy” are both androgynous names, guests from your side may wonder which is the he and which the she. I prefer the form “Mr Kelly Baranick and Mrs Sandy Baranick”, but that is preference not propriety — and the only preference that matters is that of the couple being named.
There are several nit-picky points of tradition and refinement that you may want to consider and then choose for yourself whether to follow them:
- Your joint monogram should not be used before you are married, so it properly goes on thank-you notes sent after your wedding but not on your invitation or notes sent before the wedding
- The most stuffily proper invitations are issued by just one lady and her husband, rather than by a committee of parents
- The year and the phrase “in the afternoon” are unnecessary, unless you move in circles that have weddings at 5:30 in the morning and send invitations fourteen months in advance. Technically, so is the phrase “reception immediately to follow” since that is to be expected.
- Numbers and abbreviations are supposed to be written out in full, so: “four thousand eight hundred and fifty, Victoria Street North”
- A “write-in” line for the names of the guests (worded “request the pleasure of the company of/<blank line>/at the marriage of ….) is considered more elegant by some, and is grammatically more consistent with the formal third-person wording; but if you are choosing not to use a write-in line then you need to use inner envelopes so there is somewhere to specify the guests’ names.
Post # 10
@Soon-to-be Mrs. Baranick: I think it looks good! We also did Mr. and Mrs. Dad and Mom LastName. I liked to have my mother’s name on the invitation.
I don’t agree with the bee that it is expected for a reception to follow. I think that needs to be on there and, as you did, indicate when (i.e. is there an hour gap).
@aspasia475: I don’t understand the write-in thing…do you mean each invitation should name the guest it is sent to? I don’t think I’ve ever seen that.
Post # 11
Your dad’s name should go first.
“In the celebration” sounds odd. You can completely remove the introdicyory phrase before you get to thenparent names.
Mr. Kelly and Mrs. Sandy Brooks.
Post # 12
@aspasia475: Thanks, I will definitely change the “request the honor of your presence”. Also most people that are invited know that Kelly is the father and Sandy is the mother, so i don’t think I need to really explaint that.
For the monogram, Can I just then put our first initails? I have seen examples of invites that have that so I thought it was normal.
We decided to put both sets of parents names up because they are all splitting the cost for the wedding.
I will definitely write out the number and have no abbreviations in the address.
Haha writing out a line to write out names would be nice but tedious. I think I’ll pass on that.
Thank you so much for this info!
@CurlyCue: I actually saw different examples with that phrase in it and I really liked it! With the names, I though when it came to divorced parents, the mothers name came first, then the fathers. I though I read that somewhere. Who knows! Thank you! I will research that an change it!
Post # 13
On my invites I just wrote “Reception to Follow” and skipped the immediatley – because hey, who knows? It could be delayed (it better not be because I should be able to SMELL BACON when I’m good and married)
I would change the top to say “In celebration of their love…” or skip it entirely, because right after you say that you jump into parents…. like, who’s love asre we talking about here? (I know – “duh” but gramatically it’s a bit wonky)
I think your father’s name should go first, if your surname is the same as his – I don’t know your surname so it was a bit difficult for me to tell which one (I mean, I assumed dad’s but still, confusing)
Why not write the parents names the same way? Then you don’t have to deal with the awkward Mr. and Mrs. FirstName FirstName LastName thing
Mr. Darwin Munro
Mrs. Joylin Huggins
Mr. Kelly Baranick
Mrs. Sandy Baranick
Post # 14
@CakeyP: I really like the “celebration” thing, so I’ll change it to “In the celebration of their love”. Thanks! Hahaha, what you’re saying makes sense, I’ll take out “immediately.”
I think I will just write the parents names the same way (It does make it less awkward) and my last name is my fathers and everyone invited knows that. Also I just reread that with divorced parents, the mothers name goes first.
Post # 15
@Soon-to-be Mrs. Baranick: I have divorced parents too – I am surprised there is an ettiquite “rule” out there for that.
In my experience divorce = ettiquite, manners, and rules out the window LOL
(I didn’t put my parents names on the invite at all, but FI and I are hosting our own shindig – my invite post is somewhere in my past posts if you wanna see them and steal anything from them, haha!)
Post # 16
@CakeyP: Hahaha I know! If it were up to me I would throw them out too, but my mom is an ettiquette snob so before I show her my mock up I wanted to get it right! Hahaha
Oh I will definitely snoop to find yours! haha Thanks!