Does my invitation wording seem ok?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Soon-to-be Mrs. Baranick:   The “Mr. and Mrs. Kelly and Sandy B — ”  is odd – usually with the honorifics “Mr. and Mrs.” it is followed by the husband’s first name then their last name.    

edited to add – I just googled wedding invitation etiquette and the way you have it is a variation – so forget what I wrote above!  🙂

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Does your mom not mind being called “Mrs.”?  I am married and I still prefer “Ms.”

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Soon-to-be Mrs. Baranick:  Ah, then, as long as she is okay with it, all is well!  I think your invitation is quite lovely!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

“Request the honour of your presence” is used for weddings held in the public worship space of a church or other reigious community, to indicate that — since it is a public space where the deity wecomes everyone, not just invited guests — what you are receiving is technically an announcement rather than an invitation. Weddings held in private social spaces, such as home weddings or at a rented venue that is closed to the public during the wedding, properly use the phrase “request the pleasure of your company”.

Since “Kelly” and “Sandy” are both androgynous names, guests from your side may wonder which is the he and which the she. I prefer the form “Mr Kelly Baranick and Mrs Sandy Baranick”, but that is preference not propriety — and the only preference that matters is that of the couple being named.

There are several nit-picky points of tradition and refinement that you may want to consider and then choose for yourself whether to follow them:

  • Your joint monogram should not be used before you are married, so it properly goes on thank-you notes sent after your wedding but not on your invitation or notes sent before the wedding
  • The most stuffily proper invitations are issued by just one lady and her husband, rather than by a committee of parents
  • The year and the phrase “in the afternoon” are unnecessary, unless you move in circles that have weddings at 5:30 in the morning and send invitations fourteen months in advance. Technically, so is the phrase “reception immediately to follow” since that is to be expected.
  • Numbers and abbreviations are supposed to be written out in full, so: “four thousand eight hundred and fifty, Victoria Street North”
  • A “write-in” line for the names of the guests (worded “request the pleasure of the company of/<blank line>/at the marriage of ….) is considered more elegant by some, and is grammatically more consistent with the formal third-person wording; but if you are choosing not to use a write-in line then you need to use inner envelopes so there is somewhere to specify the guests’ names.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Soon-to-be Mrs. Baranick:  I think it looks good! We also did Mr. and Mrs. Dad and Mom LastName. I liked to have my mother’s name on the invitation. 

I don’t agree with the bee that it is expected for a reception to follow. I think that needs to be on there and, as you did, indicate when (i.e. is there an hour gap). 

@aspasia475:  I don’t understand the write-in thing…do you mean each invitation should name the guest it is sent to? I don’t think I’ve ever seen that.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Your dad’s name should go first.

“In the celebration” sounds odd. You can completely remove the introdicyory phrase before you get to thenparent names.

Your ILs: 

Mr. Kelly and Mrs. Sandy Brooks. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

On my invites I just wrote “Reception to Follow” and skipped the immediatley – because hey, who knows? It could be delayed (it better not be because I should be able to SMELL BACON when I’m good and married)

I would change the top to say “In celebration of their love…” or skip it entirely, because right after you say that you jump into parents…. like, who’s love asre we talking about here? (I know – “duh” but gramatically it’s a bit wonky)

I think your father’s name should go first, if your surname is the same as his – I don’t know your surname so it was a bit difficult for me to tell which one (I mean, I assumed dad’s but still, confusing)

Why not write the parents names the same way? Then you don’t have to deal with the awkward Mr. and Mrs. FirstName FirstName LastName thing

Mr. Darwin Munro
Mrs. Joylin Huggins
          and
Mr. Kelly Baranick
Mrs. Sandy Baranick

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Soon-to-be Mrs. Baranick:  I have divorced parents too – I am surprised there is an ettiquite “rule” out there for that.
In my experience divorce = ettiquite, manners, and rules out the window LOL

(I didn’t put my parents names on the invite at all, but FI and I are hosting our own shindig – my invite post is somewhere in my past posts if you wanna see them and steal anything from them, haha!)

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