(Closed) does my mother even care i am getting married?!

posted 6 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
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2086 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

Is this a personality shift or has she been like this for most of your life?

 

I’ve said it many times before, but society seems to make us think that our mothers will change or our relationships with them will change because of wedding planning.  That isn’t always the case. 

Are you expecting your mother to be someone who she isn’t?  I know I did when I started planning.

This might help… http://www.weddingbee.com/2012/01/30/including-mother-weddding-planning/

Post # 4
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296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My Mom and I don’t have the best relationship either.  She’s very critical and often hypocritical.  If your relationship with your Mom is a struggle to begin with and sharing wedding details with her isn’t bringing you closer, I’d just stop sharing details and start distancing myself altogether.  Don’t bring it up.  And if she’s carrying this sort of behavior over to your child rearing, I’d start with a simple, “Mom, your criticisms aren’t helpful or supportive.  If you can’t learn to curb it, I’m going to have to curb how much access you have to me and the baby.  You being around is a hinderance instead of a help, and until that changes I’m too stressed out and busy to deal with it.  If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”

Good luck, and have a wonderful wedding!

 

Post # 7
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102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My mother just says “oh that’s pretty. Or that’s fine” my fiancé is also a trucker and she doesn’t support the lifestyle. Doesn’t care howfinancially stable we aRe. Let her come to you. Don’t force yourself onto her. Do what is going to make you happy and hopefully one day she realizes that she hurt you by not giving her input whenyou wanted it the most. 

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