Does my timeline look realistic and should I change my open bar?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Timeline seems fine to me however I would add a bowl of trail mix or pretzels for guests during the cash bar time after the ceremony and have a lot of water/iced tea available since it won’t be open until 630 people might be thirsty and don’t want to pay.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Wait, the wedding party is getting better hospitality than the rest of the guests?  That’s pretty awful.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Waitingbee57:  Sorry, I thought you were asking generally about the open bar.  I shouldn’t have used the word awful, and I apologize for that.  I would not feel comfortable drinking a gin and tonic in front of my guests and not offering them the same options that I have.  Obviously you feel differently.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would close the bar during dinner and take that extra hour and add half an hour to the beginning (so the bar will be open right when the guests get to the reception) and half an hour to the end. Most weddings that I’ve been to with an open bar have the bar closed during dinner and it’s not a problem because the guests are busy eating. Right now, they’re sitting there for an hour with nothing to drink unless they buy it themselves. I’d also recommend doing your speeches during dinner. Our venue had the speeches while the guests were eating their salad. People really pay more attention that way — guests often get bored sitting through speeches otherwise. The guests will already be sitting through three dances afterwards, so I’d try to shorten the amount of time that they’re sitting there with nothing to do.

Also, please don’t offer a full open bar to the bridal party and then only beer and wine for the rest of the guests. Just offering beer and wine is fine — treat all of your guests equally. Having some guests with special privileges makes the other guests feel like second-class citizens.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

@Waitingbee57: Do you have any guest traveling for this wedding? Chances are they could be spending hundreds of dollars to attend as well as buying a gift. As someone planning a wedding also (sweet, minty jeezus, in Chicago no less) I get wanting to keep costs down while being thoughtful of your wedding party. As guest, especially if I traveled, I’d be annoyed. Have you concidered pricing out how much it would be to do beer/wine/soda for the wedding party also instead of the full alcohol package? Maybe that would be enough savings to add another hour or making adding another hour less costly.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Let’s not turn this into an etiquette question. It’s a timeline/logistics question. I was wondering would it cost less/more to add a signature cocktail to your beer/wine/soda option?

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Waitingbee57:  I’d see about having the bar open from 5:30-6:30, then closed from 6:30-7:30 for dinner, and open back up at 7:30 when dinner is done?

I’ve been to a cocktail hour with no bar, and it was pretty awful!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Waitingbee57:  as a guest, I would rather have the free alcohol available to me as I wait for the reception to begin vs. towards the tail end of the wedding. The earlier they can loosen up, the better and people will be more quick/tolerant/willing to pay for their own drinks once they’re already a little tipsy, I would think. Sort of like how a lot of people do like the first hour open bar, followed by a cash bar. That sort of thing. That is all that immediately stuck out to me. : ) 

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