Post # 1
I was out at a dinner event with my sister and a ton of people I have never met and was having some lovely conversations with all kinds of people. I just got engaged less than a week before and it came up a couple of times, and this one guy totally tore my sweet love story apart!! I was almost in tears because I’ve never had someone so negative about my relationship before.
Here’s why, according to him: I’m 23, FI is 25. Been together for 5 years. I’ve never been with another man physically, nor do I have any desire to be. I’ve had other boyfriends before but wasn’t going to give it up unless I was in love. I understand that divorce is a reality and while I hope to never go through one myself, I am not disillusioned enough to think it may never happen to me. I try to be a realist, but I’m in love, I’m excited to get married, and confident in our relationship.
Now this random guy was like ‘it won’t work, I promise you’ ‘I’ll come to your second wedding in 5 years’ ‘I would never get engaged at 23, that’s way too young’.
I was so shocked and angry. I get that people have these opinions and that marriage doesn’t work in many cases, but HOW RUDE. WHO SAYS THAT TO A NEWLY ENGAGED PERSON? I almost cried in a bar over this because I couldn’t believe my ears.
Just had to let that out!
Post # 3
Wow what a dick!! Sorry that happened to you some people are clueless.
Post # 5
You are a better woman that I am, that fella would have gotten a drink thrown in his face and then gotten to savor the flavor of my hand across his cheek! Who the hell does he think he is? I adhere to the rule that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but for Christ sake keep it to yourself…don’t listen to him or the haters! Sure we all hear the statistics, we know…that doesn’t stop us! I’d risk everything I had, every time on the chance that I was with the one person who sincerely loves me….and who cares what some mealey mouthed know it all thinks anyway? I assume that catch of a man was at this party unescorted? SHOCKER!
Post # 4
Yeah, what a jerk. He is probably jealous of your happiness.
Post # 6
Well, he’s an ass-hat.
Don’t let him get you down.
He probably goes home to a goldfish every night.
That died a week ago.
So don’t fret your pretty head.
Post # 7
That was a serious dick move.
My brother’s high school best friend (female) got married at 21 and so far they seem to be blissfully happy (coming up on 4 years so far, I think).
Post # 8
Clearly he’s bitter from his own experiences. Rather than hate him, pity him!
Post # 9
What a dick!! Like seriously, that’s just outrageously inappropriate and I bet everyone else there thought the same thing. Don’t let it get to you. Some people are just seriously jaded and bitter. Feel sorry for him that his perception of life is so bitter and negative.
Post # 10
Meh, his opinion is worth nothing.
I would suspect he has a crush on you, and was trying to sway you away from marriage so he could get a look in.
There are always motives, you know!
Post # 11
He sounds very bitter. Don’t listen to a word he says 🙂
Post # 12
Some people are just so lonely and depressed they have to drag other people down with them. So sorry you had to deal with that just remember hes miserable and will live a long miserable lonely life because he thinks like that. When you know hes the one you know thats all there is to it! COngrats on the engagement dear!
Post # 13
Thanks for saying that.. it really cheered me up. I just feel bad for his poor girlfriend who is hoping for an engagement soon. How can people be so bitter about love?
I kept trying to say that every person’s relationship is different and they can’t be pigeonholed or judged instantly.
There are relationships out there that are the real deal!! We’re all here to testify to that, right?
Post # 14
He is just bitter because nobody loves him that way, perhaps he recently had his heart broken, that tends to make people sour about other peoples relationships. Very uncalled for though and no excuse, I am in the same boat as you, I am also 23 and have never been with another man physically, and like you I have no desire to ever be.
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Well with an attitude like that, I’d guess he’s writing some self fulfilling prophacies about his own life.
Don’t let his negativity get to you– he sounds like a very unpleasant and unhappy man.
I married my husband at 23 after 5 1/2 years together, and he’s still the love of MY life! True love does exist, but only for those who want to find it.
Post # 16
I say don’t let jerks get you so riled up. I notice reaction to me being engaged is mixed and have had a total stranger I bumped into in a bar make nasty statements about me and ring. People are so rude these days. I now just ignore the negative statements after all these people are strangers and their thoughts don’t matter to me and have zero effect on my relationship, although I hope you told him where to stick his opinions.