Does receiving gifts or donations awkwardize you?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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4601 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@CarolF:  I’m the same way, even if no one spent money on me. FSIL gave me a cookbook with all of her mother’s recipes as a gift. It’s tradition in FH’s family for all the girls to get her best and favorite recipes when they get married, and since FMIL passed away, FSIL took it upon herself to make one for me. My biggest problem is that I never know what to say. In most cases, a thank you will suffice, but when receiving gifts like this, I never feel like anything I say is enough. I also don’t like people staring at me while I open gifts because I feel like I’ll give some kind of look and it will be misconstrued as me not being appreciative or something. I’m a really horrible gift receiver…

 

Post # 5
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17 posts
Newbee

@CarolF:  

@SouthernGirl:  

YES to all of this! I get REALLY nervous at Christmas – opening gifts with so many people staring at me, waiting for my reaction!

Post # 6
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4601 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@CarolF:  FH’s family is the same way. FH and I starting dating in November and I was invited over for Christmas. His family got me gifts. I was blown away. 

@tiredanonabee2:  I don’t mind it so much with my family. Everybody waits to open their stuff until everyone has had their gifts handed to them so no one is focusing only on one person. FH’s family just hands one person all of their gifts and everyone watches them open it. I’ve always felt awkward. 

Post # 7
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1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@CarolF:  Oh man, that’s me too.

I always say something like, “Oh no, you didn’t have to, really, I wasn’t expecting anything,” and that’s offended some people in the past 🙁

I’m actually grateful that my mom’s drilled it into me to write thank you cards to gift givers. This allows me to never have to verbally say thank you once I give someone a thank you card.

Post # 9
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1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I feared my bridal shower, having everyone watch me open gifts and wait for my reaction! I was grateful for the gifts I received, but some of them I had to remebmer to smile, while silently remembering I could return it. I don’t want to let someone down after they think they’ve gotten me a wonderful gift that I should be thrilled about!

Compliments I usually just smile and say thank you, and get out of the situation as fast as I can. Low self esteem, what can I say?

Post # 10
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1771 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@CarolF: I am exactly the same way. I am actually really happy that I’m not having a bridal shower for this exact reason.

Holidays and birthdays are the worst. Everyone watches you open stuff and it just feels sooooo awkward.

Post # 12
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1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@CarolF:  Lol. Imagine if that slipped out accidentally:

“Seriously…cut it out.”

“Uhhhhh, you’re welcome?”

Post # 13
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1226 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m OK at receiving them but I HATE talking about them beforehand. People have started to ask us what we want for the wedding, and won’t take “no presents/money necessary, just turn up” as an answer! Like, it’s sweet of people to want to give gifts, but I feel so awkward saying “Oh, cool, we need x, y and z”. Plus, we don’t really NEED anything so I can’t think of anything to recommend.

Post # 14
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1226 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@tiredanonabee2:  I remember one Christmas where I was not exactly on good terms with my parents. To cut a long story short, I’d been having panic attacks on our family holiday, they didn’t know what panic attacks were and my anxiety disorder hadn’t been diagnosed, so they thought I was just doing it for attention and being a brat. They gave me the same number of presents as my sister, but she got an iPod and other cool stuff, and I got something like playing cards and a new towel. I should have won an Academy Award for not reacting when everyone was watching me open those gifts!

(On a side note, yes, this was how my parents chose to deal with suspected mental illness. No I would not recommend it!)

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