Post # 1
I question wether it matters in a marrige. Im talking if you are christian, but your spouse is athiest/ non religious. I believe that religion is private. What could go wrong with marrying a non christian? Someone please help me i just dont understand
Post # 3
That depends on the person and their beliefs. For me, I wanted someone that was equally yoked and I found one.
(sorry, hit submit when I was trying to shrink the screen)
For me it goes to values, culture, and lifestyles. I wanted someone who understood where I stand in my beliefs, respects them, and I can discuss them with. Our kids were raised for the most part, before we married, so that wasn’t an issue for us. I’ve dated guys before that I was not equally yoked with and during discussions the differences were apparently and most of the issues discussed were deal breakers.
I think people who are not equally yoked can be perfectly happy, for some people those issues that will present themselves will not be a big deal. It is more about knowing yourself and what you can work around and what you can’t.
Post # 4
Raising kids. That’s the biggest one that comes to mind. Are they going to be raises Christian or atheist?
Post # 5
I would have a hard time marrying someone who had was different relegious view than me, but that’s just me. I am a non religious, non-beleiver ( I guess that makes me an athiest, right?) I just don’t see how it would work. That said, I think if you’re dating someone who has very different beleifs than you, you need to seriously talk about things and decide if it matters. everyone one is different so you have to find out what is going to work for you.
Post # 6
@Moonbear17: Same. I’m Agnostic and I probably wouldn’t be able to marry someone who was super religious.
Post # 7
@Moonbear17: my parents are the only concern. Ironically his parents are christian but hes athiest
Post # 8
I’m a laid back Christian and I could never be with someone who was super religious, regardless of the actual religion. It’s just not who I am.
Post # 9
@discodance: i’m the same. Im laid back. I figure im not going to “hell” for marrying a non christian
Post # 10
I’m Catholic and so is my FI. I was my family to be the same religion and have it be the basis for our family. So it would not work for me to marry an atheist. I’m very spiritual and it’s important to me to have a husband who has a strong faith life, too. I have found a deep cynicism and condescending attitude in a lot of atheists that I REALLY don’t like, so that is the main reason I don’t think it would work.
However, I do not consider us super religious! We’re not fanatical by any means! I could not deal with someone like that, either!
Post # 11
I found this thread to be interesting on this topic:
Help Me! (I May Cry)
As an Atheist, I don’t care, but in many religions it is very important.
Post # 12
@dicapriosimaginarywife: I think it matters quite a lot actually. Some people have a very apathetic attitude toward their religion and that’s cool, I think they wouldn’t have a problem marrying someone of another religion. But as an atheist, I would almost definitely butt heads to a dealbreaking degree with a religious person.
If I were on the dating market and met someone who was otherwise perfect but belived in a god, that would be fine… as long as they were politically progressive, didn’t go to church, didn’t give money to religious organiations, didn’t vote based on religious morals, didn’t evangelize, didn’t expect me to pray with them, didn’t try to teach it to children, and didn’t ever want to speak to me about it at all.
If they went against even one of those things, (as nearly anyone who calls themselves religious would) I don’t think we could get along enough to have happy married life. I like that saying… “Your religion is like your private part. It’s fine to have it, it’s fine to be proud of it, but please stop showing it to people who didn’t ask, and certainly keep it away from children.”
Fortunately I have FH, who is an even more vehement atheist than I am. 🙂
Post # 13
@dicapriosimaginarywife: I agree with @tksjewelry:. This definitely depends on the individual and his or her definition of being a Christian and on what basis he or she makes his or her decisions.
Because I personally take seriously what God’s Word says in 2 Corinthians 6:14 about Christians not being unequally yoked together with non-believers, I absolutely could not have married a man who did not share my faith.
Post # 14
@dicapriosimaginarywife: My mother married an athiest, and theyre perfectaly fine in the religouse department. My dad goes with her to church with her on big holidays and thats about as much as they get into it. They raised us christian and i chose to leave the church. oddy enough Im marrying a religouse man and it doesnt matter to us at all. I think so long as it doesnt bug you it’ll be fine. I think i does cause some problems with the church though. I only think that because when my parents tried to baptize my sister they wouldnt because they didnt recognize my parents marriage because 1) my dad wasnt baptized and 2) they did not marry in a christian church.
Post # 15
@dicapriosimaginarywife: Because it could affect your life goals too much. For instance, we give away some of our money to Christian missions (and some non Christian charities), deliberately avoid big spending, send our kids to a Christian school, bring our kids to church, pray together etc. A lot of this would be very difficult with a non Christian husband who didn’t share the same ideals as me.
Post # 16
@paula1248: I felt like it didnt matter. I never went to a christian school. I went to a church almost every sunday. some of the people have scarred me, like the “christian friends” i had who bulllied me into depression. some christians are hypocrytical and uneccepting. Not all, some. Being with my non christian friends, i felt much more loved and less judged i felt like i didnt need to walk on eggshells. Its quite sad.