Does saying "I Do" really change things?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Did getting married really change your relationship?
    Yes! For the better! : (49 votes)
    25 %
    Yes but not drastically : (54 votes)
    27 %
    Yes, but not in a positive way. : (6 votes)
    3 %
    Not at all. Things stayed just as great! : (86 votes)
    43 %
    Other, explain please. : (5 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    8707 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    It didn’t change anything for us. My husband and I made a committment to each other long before we got married. Getting married just made things easier legally… We get military benefits, if anything happens to one another we get a say/get to see them. That sort of stuff. Marriage didn’t affect our relationship in the slightest.

    Post # 5
    Member
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    The best way I can describe it is nothing changes but everything changes. Nothing in our day to day life has changed since we already lived together but there is this bigger thing holding us together now that makes it much more difficult to just walk away. We definitely seem to work together even better since getting married and even though we always viewed our life as ours versus his and mine, this just seems even stronger now. You will see! 

    Post # 7
    Member
    8707 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @Marper:  My husband is Navy, so we’re in the relatively same boat!

    Post # 8
    Member
    55 posts
    Worker bee

    @MrsWBS:  I totally agree with this. My husband and I are both in the military and got married in July. Nothing changed in our regular lifef but everything changed in the big picture. We have this huge amazing bond that commits us for life now. It’s an amazing feeling. And I don’t know about the other ladies here but being able to say “my husband” is such a good feeling and I can’t get enough of it 

    Post # 9
    Member
    1305 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Our relationship didn’t change at all. We’d been together 6 years, living together for most of that time and have a child together.
    But it does still give me tingles calling him my husband. It just sounds so right. Calling him my boyfriend/fiance before the wedding just seemed so strange for a man who I share my whole life with.

    Post # 10
    Member
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I feel like I’m in a club of married women. Older women suddenly talk to me about cooking, cleaning, and babies!

    Same with pregnancy: I don’t really feel different (aside from nauseous and tired at 11+3), but every Mom ever wants to talk to me about pregnancy and delivery and breastfeeding!

    Post # 12
    Member
    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    I agree with a PP. Nothing about our everyday life changed. We went right back home the day after the wedding and things went as usual. But on an emotional level, things got even better. We’ve always been a tight, warm, loving couple. Being married has only strengthened our bond. Everything just got a little better. We rarely disagreed before the wedding, and after the wedding even those little disagreements became easier to deal with. We have made a formal commitment to be in it for the long haul, and that, for us, takes the edge off of everything. And at the same time, the good stuff is even sweeter. Yeah… I love being married to Mr. LK. 🙂

    Post # 14
    Member
    1549 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Yea it changed a little. Its not really so much that we feel closer to each other, its feeling like you are “one”. Its a feeling of “completeness”. A sense of security in knowing that no matter what, we’re in this together. I still smile every time someone calls me “Mrs.” or to hear DH refer to me as his “wife” is pretty dang cool.

    Post # 16
    Member
    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Didn’t change a thing for us, which is a good thing 🙂

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