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She's seems to be expecting it but that doesn't mean you have to!
Could she just have copied and pasted it from her address book or something, where she had it listed like that?
man, i wish i lived in fakey mcfakerson. that sounds awesome ;)
i'm not going to speculate on what she's expecting. if you're not having kids, you're not having kids. done.
yes i think she definitely thinks that her child is invited to the wedding. does she know you are not having kids at the wedding?
Maybe she was just giving you her daughter's name in case you decided to allow kids? That way it wouldn't be Mr. and Mrs. Fakerson and Offspring Fakerson?
I think you can at least operate under this assumption and not invite the kid :).
Did she know you were asking for her address for the STD's? Because if she knew that's why you needed it, then I would say yes, she expects her child to be invited.
We avoided the whole "no children" issue by addressing our STD's the same as we addressed our wedding invites: "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith." We did not put "and Family" or the kids' names. We also put "Adult reception to follow" at the bottom of our wedding invitations. Our guests understood what that meant and I haven't had one awkward convo with anyone about bringing their kids.
She may have just assumed but be fine that you aren't inviting the child. I would send it without the child's name and maybe have a family member or friend mention something about no kids at the wedding.
Maybe, although whenever you ask her for an address, my FMIL gives you practically everything about the person--their middle names and the names of their kids. It's just her way. I wouldn't assume that this woman is demanding for you to invite her kid, maybe she just thought "Oh, well they might invite Junior so we better let her know what Junior's name is." It's neither here nor there as far as you're concerned, just address the invite to the parents only if you don't want the kid at your wedding and leave it at that.
oh she totally does! we had someone do that too..and i just addressed the save the date to her and her husband. she hasnt said anything yet, so i guess we will see what happens when the invitations go out! :)
Oh, believe me, I'm not inviting her kid. I was just hoping that we wouldn't have any uncomfortable kid-related situations and now we might have one. I'm still not inviting the kid, though. I'm sticking to my guns!
Also, our save the date has our website on it, and our website has a little blurb about it being an adults-only reception
(And the sad thing is, I looooove their kid. But if I invite theirs, I have to invite everyone's)
Unless you've ever actually told her that the wedding will be kid free, she probably has no idea. Since she doesn't know whether or not you're inviting the kid, she just wanted to give you his/her name because it's 50/50 you are inviting him/her.
Just don't put the name on the invite if you don't want to invite the kid.
Problem solved!
@JennyW1, exactly what I was just going to say! The friend could just be the type to provide as much information as possible.
Either way, I wouldn't worry about it--it's completely fine to just invite the parents.
She thinks her kids being invited. You should let her know or remind her that children are not invited.
She may not realize no kids are invited. Just be clear on the invites!
shes probably assuming/expecting it but doesnt mean you have to!!! :)
I know a lot of parents who write their addresses that way - hell, I even have a couple who leave their non-phone age children's names on the answering machine message. I don't think you can guess whether or not she assumes anything. Just respond politely and stick to your guns.
If you haven't sent invites out yet, she doesn't know that you're not having kids. She probably just included the daughter's name in case you wanted to invite her.
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I'm gathering addresses for our save the dates, so I emailed a family friend of ours and said that I needed her address. When she emailed back, she'd written out their info like this (personal info removed):
[Husband], [Wife] and [Daughter] [Last Name]
123 Fake Street
Fakey McFakerson, FK 00000
Does this mean that she's expecting us to invite her daughter? We're not having any kids at our wedding.
If you wrote your address out like that would you expect your kid to be invited?