(Closed) Does she expect me to invite her kid?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do you think she expects her kid to be invited?
    Yes : (28 votes)
    65 %
    No : (1 votes)
    2 %
    I don't know, but you're putting too much thought into this : (14 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 3
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    She’s seems to be expecting it but that doesn’t mean you have to!

    Post # 4
    690 posts
    Busy bee

    Could she just have copied and pasted it from her address book or something, where she had it listed like that?

    Post # 5
    5891 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    haha yeah i think it does.  stick to your guns!!

    Post # 6
    120 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    man, i wish i lived in fakey mcfakerson.  that sounds awesome 😉

    i’m not going to speculate on what she’s expecting.  if you’re not having kids, you’re not having kids.  done.

    Post # 7
    2538 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Maybe she doesn’t know about the no kids part?

    Post # 8
    208 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think she does, but that doesn’t mean you have to oblige.

    Post # 9
    652 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    yes i think she definitely thinks that her child is invited to the wedding. does she know you are not having kids at the wedding?

    Post # 10
    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Maybe she was just giving you her daughter’s name in case you decided to allow kids? That way it wouldn’t be Mr. and Mrs. Fakerson and Offspring Fakerson?

    I think you can at least operate under this assumption and not invite the kid :).

    Post # 11
    937 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Did she know you were asking for her address for the STD’s? Because if she knew that’s why you needed it, then I would say yes, she expects her child to be invited.

    We avoided the whole “no children” issue by addressing our STD’s the same as we addressed our wedding invites: “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith.” We did not put “and Family” or the kids’ names. We also put “Adult reception to follow” at the bottom of our wedding invitations. Our guests understood what that meant and I haven’t had one awkward convo with anyone about bringing their kids.  

    Post # 12
    553 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    She may have just assumed but be fine that you aren’t inviting the child. I would send it without the child’s name and maybe have a family member or friend mention something about no kids at the wedding.

    Post # 13
    1872 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Maybe, although whenever you ask her for an address, my Future Mother-In-Law gives you practically everything about the person–their middle names and the names of their kids. It’s just her way. I wouldn’t assume that this woman is demanding for you to invite her kid, maybe she just thought “Oh, well they might invite Junior so we better let her know what Junior’s name is.” It’s neither here nor there as far as you’re concerned, just address the invite to the parents only if you don’t want the kid at your wedding and leave it at that.

    Post # 14
    1020 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    oh she totally does! we had someone do that too..and i just addressed the save the date to her and her husband. she hasnt said anything yet, so i guess we will see what happens when the invitations go out! 🙂

    Post # 16
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Unless you’ve ever actually told her that the wedding will be kid free, she probably has no idea. Since she doesn’t know whether or not you’re inviting the kid, she just wanted to give you his/her name because it’s 50/50 you are inviting him/her.

    Just don’t put the name on the invite if you don’t want to invite the kid.

    Problem solved!

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