- 7 years ago
Darling Husband had a civil ceremony at our wedding 6 months ago, and we are currently planning a much smaller Catholic convalidation (basically parents, witnesses, and us at a church and going out to dinner after). Our wedding was beautiful except for one thing – Future Mother-In-Law was unhappy with some elements of the ceremony and spent the entire reception pouting and ignoring both of us. We mostly didn’t let it bother us, but at one point Darling Husband broke down crying and it was just a lot of unnecessary negativity on an otherwise perfect day.
After the wedding, she admitted her behavior was wrong and apologized. She has a history of inappropriate behavior towards us (and specifically towards me), and this time I really didn’t want to forgive her. Acting bitchy towards us is one thing, but not to be able to put that aside on your only child’s wedding day is just ridiculous In My Humble Opinion. It shouldn’t be that hard to realize it’s not all about you and be nice for one evening! But we forgave her and moved on with our lives.
Now that our religious ceremony is looming, I see potential for more drama. Darling Husband is Jewish so she’s not at all happy that we’re doing a Catholic ceremony in the first place. She is questioning our decision, demanding that we choose a day around her schedule, etc. I am really worried that she’s going to ruin the day – with 100 people at our wedding, her attitude was a minor annoyance, but at this much smaller event, it could really make things awkward and unpleasant for my parents and us.
Darling Husband said that it’s very important for him that she attend because this Catholic ceremony is difficult for him emotionally and he would like her there (I completely understand). He agreed to talk to her and ask her to play nice. But I know from experience (our wedding, our rehearsal dinner, and others) that she can go into situation prepared to act nice but then easily get upset by something and start pouting.
Is there anything we can do besides inviting her and hoping for the best?