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Does Silverware Really Matter??

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    Stace126    September 28, 2013   Pittsburgh, PA

    WARNING: Stupid, obsessive question ahead:

    In looking at different caterers within mine and my parents' budget, I'm finding that no one really includes silverware in the affordable prices. It's, like, $1 or $2 extra PER PERSON for some real silverware.

    At first I thought silverware was a must have because I didn't want to look tacky, but then I really started thinking about it, and realized that I seriously don't remember the silverware (or plastic ware) at ANY wedding I've ever been to.

    So, I mean, really ... is it THAT important?

    I'm thinking not.

     
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    MarryMeTiffany    November 30, 2011   Illinois

    @Stace126:I would say NO it's not. Are you having a buffet? I also don't think personalized napkins are important I don't remember anyones napkins from any wedding I have ever attended.

     
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    MsPanda    August 17, 2013   Oregon

    I think if you are having a Formal wedding real silverware would be a good idea but I know with my casual wedding the free plastic siverware will be just fine!

     
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    pinkshoes    July 2011   MA

    Do you mean legit silverware, or just non plastic utensils (stainless steel)?

     
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    lefeymw    April 16, 2011   CT

    What kind of venue and reception? Seated? Buffet? What kind of food? I would not want to be eating steak with a plastic knife. Or seated at a formal sitted dinner on a Sat evening eating surf and turf with plastic. 

    But if you are serving pasta and salad buffet at a less fancy venue, then it could work. I would just opt for nicer plasticware and not the plain white ones.

     
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    ORella2012    June 1, 2012  

    i think anything you dont remember from someone elses wedding is not a big deal. so iim only worried about the food. the music. and the overall expeirience...and my dress!

     if youire really worried about it  thereis some real looking plastic stuff out there

     
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    secondchances    August 2012   Western MD

    It matters to me only because of a bad experience at a wedding. I was eating chicken parmesan that was extremely tough with a plastic knife and fork. The fork tines broke and I somehow ended up with chicken parm & spaghetti all over my new lt. blue dress. Ugh talk about embarrasing! Now I secretly carry silverware in my purse Embarassed

     
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    Rachael432    July 13, 2012   Chicago, IL

    No, I don't think so...I've never paid attention to what I was using to eat.

     
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    msfahrenheit    August 28, 2011   Blacksburg VA

    I'm not too sure if this is flatware (steel) vs silverwave (silver) or metal vs plastic.

    If it's a choice between plastic and metal, I would go for the metal. It depends on the feel of your wedding, but I think metal would be much more classy and easier to eat with.

    If it's just about getting actual "silver" silverware, I would skip it.

     
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    Peony007    May 4, 2012  

    It depends on the formality of your wedding. If its a sit down dinner, then metal is best. If its a more informal, buffet, then you're fine with plastic.

    I also think theme can be a factor here too. Whimsical or eco friendly weddings could probably do colorful or bamboo utensils.

     
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    Ember78    December 15, 2012  

    No one will care or even notice.

    Unless you are serving just cake and coffee, go for real silverware since plastic does not hold up to most foods.

     
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    2dBride    October 6, 2009   Washington, DC.

    We also had concerns about plastic silverware breaking during use.  We bought stainless steel flatware for our wedding, and resold it after the wedding.  This ended up being less expensive than using disposables.  Here are some links:

     
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    escada    November 17, 2012  

    nope

     
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    andielovesj    August 13, 2011  

    I would definitely notice if I was eating dinner in my fine dress with a plastic fork. 

    I am very opposed to excess waste and hate the use of disposables.

     
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    CholeLeAnn    July 28, 2012   Chico, CA, Wedding in Hampton Roads, VA

    We are having a bbq recpetion.  I orginially looked at bamboo utensils, but we finally decided to go with stainless steel flatware from instawares.com.  Its an extremely affordable option.  After the wedding, I will probably just take it all into my office for our breakroom.  Although, I am sure you could always sell it on Craigslist.

     
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    goldendreams    August 12, 2012   Healdsburg, CA

    Depends on your whole shindig.  Mine will be smallish and not super formal-just vintage, fun, and laid back with some elegance and I decided that we are going to get nice looking heavy-duty disposable plates and cups and basic metal flatware.  We will be throwing it all away when done!  I am not hiring a serving caterer and will have heavy appetizers and hors d'oevres and I don't want my mom in the kitchen cleaning things.  I literally just want to throw it all away when done.  Considering that it is all my family and close friends, I feel I don't need to put on a front like we are in the kings palace.  It is about the marriage, having a great time and building memories with those people-not about the plates or flatware.  (p.s. I was originally going with plastic "silver"ware but found a good deal on the metal stuff which is probably more user friendly).  

     
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    SoonToBeMrsMoose    August 18, 2012  

    Volunteers of America sells flatware for $.10 per piece near my house. That's REALLY affordable. See if you can do that!

     

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