Post # 1
My bachelorette party is next weekend. It is going to be low key. We are going to my parents’ lake cabin, eating, drinking, and going boating. (BTW my shower is the same day 5 minutes away.) My Maid/Matron of Honor is throwing it. I planned on getting her a gift, but do I get something for the other girls? Their only expense is to show up and bring hard liquor if they don’t like what is provided. I’m very thankful to have these girls here but favors are not common where I am from. The 2 bachelorette parties I have been to cups were bought at the dollar store to use that night.
Any ideas? I wanted to buy tumblers but didn’t want to spend more than a couple dollars per person. Do I need to do a gift? What did you do?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
Do you WANT to buy gifts?
The idea of the bachelorette party being a large, elaborate shindig is really, really new. There is no established etiquette about what’s required one way or the other except, perhaps, “The bridesmaids pay for the bride’s drinks/dinner.” Everything else, just make it up as you go along and be sensitive to budgets. If you want to buy them tumblers, do so, but don’t do it because you think it’s expected of you.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I didn’t buy any sort of thank you gift specifically for the bachelorette party. I just gave everyone nice thank you gifts before the wedding that were meant as a thank you for everything they did to help with the wedding including the parties before.
Post # 5
You should get gifts if you want to, not because you think it’s required. I had 6 girls total for my bachelorette party, and only 3 of them were bridesmaids. So I took everyone out to a nice dinner when we got back from our trip as a thank you, and my bridesmaids of course got their gifts before the wedding.
Post # 6
Swebs14: I didnt buy anything for the B-party. Just gifts later for my BMs. It would have been fun to have something to remember the night by. i just think i was pretty wrapped up in the wedding and the night was eventful and unforgetable enough.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago
Swebs14: My bachelorette party is at Lake Geneva WI, all the attendees are from IL. Since travel is involved and it’s a full weekened event…I am getting nice gifts for the two girls throwing the party. I bought $35 L’Occitane sample cosmetic bags for them and I’m getting these cute muslin bags that say bachelorette party hangover kit and putting in band-aids, advil, mints, chapstick and attaching to water bottles for all the girls attending, they will end up costing around $5-10 each and I think it’s a nice small gesture to thank everyone for traveling to be at my party.
Having said that I don’t think you need to get gifts. I decided to because I wanted to say thanks to everyone for making my day special 🙂