(Closed) Does the Bride/Groom Pay for Wedding Party Hotel Rooms?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

No you don’t need to pay for rooms for bridal party if you can’t afford it.  It would be a nice gesture if you did, but not necessary.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’ve never been paid for, no. If you’ve got the money and are willing to do that, it would be much appreciated I’m sure!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Absolutely not, unless you guys are big money and can afford it.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

90% of my bridal party is coming in from out of town and I am not paying for their rooms with 2 exceptions: 1 is my maid of honor who works very hard for little money, and has no family to help her with the expense. We are paying for her room as she would never ask us to do so, but can genuinely not afford it. The second is for one of the best men. Both of his daughters are our flower girls, so we are paying for the family to travel up for the wedding and stay for a week as their yearly “family vacation” – this is a situation where they will be spending so much money on us (and themselves) to be a part of the wedding that we knew money was going to be tight come the hotel bill. The rest of the bridal party is paying for their own rooms.  To make up for not paying for my girls travel arrangements/accomodations, I am paying for their hair and make-up to be professionally done on the day of my wedding (in addition to a bridal gift).

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Thanks! The cost of hair and makeup comes to less that what one night at my hotel (a Marriott) is costing. Given that my entire party (with one exception, my cousin) is from out of town (I have 7 girls total) – I thought this would be a nice gesture to let them know that I appreciate everything they are doing to be there for my wedding. Not to mention the fact that they won’t know where to go in the area to get it done if I was not providing. Plus, I get the added bonus of having us all be together getting ready the morning of the wedding!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i’ve never heard that you have to pay for the hotel. if you can afford it and you want to gift it to them, that would be awesome, but not necessary. we are paying for a room for the girls for the night before, but that’s for purely selfish reasons! i want them with me to keep me sane! they will either be going home or to a relative’s house the night of.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You are not responsible for this cost.

PSA to ladies negotiating rates – I negotiated a rate of $150 at a brand new Four Seasons that has been featured in Platinum Weddings and my wedding isn’t even going to be held there.

Hotels are REALLY dropping their prices for wedding blocks right now.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would either pay for it all (if you have the money) or not at all. Your wedding isn’t until October, which gives your party plenty of time to save. If you are concerned about certain people being able to afford the hotel, then perhaps reach out to them directly to see what you can do to help. I would certainly let your party know about the hotel and rate as soon as possible though – just in case they need to start saving. $119 is a great rate – and much less than many other hotels.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I have heard and known of varying practices regarding paying for the bridal party’s hotel and transportation. It’s comforting to hear people say there’s no expectation that either will be paid for. All of our wedding party is either local or our siblings so I think they’ll take care of themselves. Hair and makeup though, definitely that should be paid for by whomever is paying for the wedding! Most people would not get professional makeup or hairstyling done for someone else’s wedding, so it is expected that if a bride wants her bridesmaids to be professionally done, then it will be paid for. Of course it’s a fun thing to do together on the day of the wedding! Now personally, I’m debating whether to pay for mani/pedicures for my three ladies, or just ask them to slap on some polish. 🙂

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I also negotiated an extreme discount for my hotel (a Marriott) – the rate for a king size room (with breakfast) is $79 per night (from $179+) and the rate for a double room (with breakfast) is $89 per night (from $189+). There are some great deals to be found!

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