DOES THE MAID OF HONOUR PAY FOR THE WHOLE BACHELORETTE PARTY??

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It depends where you are from. In my area all the guests split the cost evenly (except the bride).

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@stressedMOH:  Absolutely not! Costs are split between all girls attending (whether or not they’re in the bridal party), except the bride. Sometimes the MOH or bridal party might pick up a little extra. But the MOH certainly doesn’t pay for the whole thing!

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Where I’m from, the cost was split evenly. My maid of honor did pay for the decorations and a cake for the group, but the hotel was split evenly.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@stressedMOH: ugh. That’s obnoxious. I’ve always done it that the bachlorette party costs are equally split among ALL attendees and everyone is responsible for her own travel.

so no, you don’t have to pay for everything. If they expect you to pay for it all, then you can plan something more in line with your budget. Sorry you have to deal with that.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

Whomever is hosting pays. If I am invited to an event, I don’t assume I’m paying unless I have been a part of the decision making process.  Hosting a bachelorette party is completely voluntary, including for a MOH or bridal party.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

No, and don’t feel pressured to host some elaborate bachelorette either. If someone wants an elaborate party, let them pay for it. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@stressedMOH:  It should be split between all attendees apart from the bride. At least that’s how it works where I’m from..

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@stressedMOH:  In Canada, certainly not.  It’s normal here for each guest to pay their own way and usually the bridesmaids will equally split the cost of the bride’s share and the extras.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

No way! Costs are split evenly between attendees (except the bride).

Post # 12
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Busy bee

@stressedMOH:  Absolutely not, everyone attending splits the cost. Whatever you do, don’t let them pressure you into spending more than your fair share/whatever you’re comfortable with. Scale back the plans if necessary.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I am not from the UK, but we always have each girl pay for themselves and the BMs pick up the brides expenses and some general group costs like decorations, a cake, pre party booze and such.

I would message the BMs back and ask what their budget was for the Hen party. Take those numbers, add in what you are willing to spend and that’s your max budget. If they say they aren’t able to contribute, then the party must be less elaborate. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

At the bachelorette parties I’ve attended, the costs have been split among everyone attending.  At one, the Maid of Honor hosted a casual dinner at her home before we all went out.  But after the dinner, we all paid our own way.  You shouldn’t have to pay for the entire party!  That’s completely unreasonable!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@stressedMOH:  Where I am from, all of the guests (minus the bride) split the costs. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

The bachelorette party I went to we all payed for ourself and split the bride evenly between all of us! 

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