Post # 1
Ok I need to get something off of my chest. I love my FI and I know he loves me and thinks I’m gorgeous. I know that for a fact. I’m not really the jealous kind but at 19 we had our first son and now I’m almost 21 and I dont have the “20 year old body” anymore. I’m not really fat but I now have stretch marks, extra skin and a C section scar. I feel more 35 then 20 and that really makes me feel less sexy. I am very into being fashionable and I am a cosmetologist. So looks are important to me.
Well last night we were going down memory lane and I asked if he found me sexy the first time he saw me and he said he thought I was pretty but he didnt think sexy.(which sounds reasonable right??) well for some reason I took offence to this. And I said “ok but if you see a hot chick on some movie, shes automtically sexy. Then why wasnt I??” And he had nothing to say to that. Well now all day today when he calls from work he says “hey gorgeous” like he has to remind me that I’m pretty. Its not that. Not that at all. And I’m feeling a little more angry that hes doing that.
I’m not sure where this is coming from but I’m seriously tired of being a woman. (not that I would ever become a man LOL!) The other night we were watching a movie and the “sexy girl” in the movie was constantly in bikini. Its like the media just wants every woman to feel so terrible about herself. I cant help that I dont have a personal trainer or that taking care of my son is more important to me then liposuction and being so self absorbed I dont see anyone else around me.
Any other ladies know how much their FI loves them but is seriously getting sick of being reminded that they are not “perfect”??????
Post # 3
Yep! I had my son at 20, and my body is no where near what it used to be. My boobs are bigger, but saggy. I hold weight in places that I never did before. I have stretch marks too, but on my thighs and across my butt. I have gained 10 pounds in the last 6 or so months too, and can’t stop. I hate how perfect everyone in the media is. I know I will never be like that, but is it to much to ask for to be like every other 20 some girl? I want my old body back. Even though I wasn’t completely comfortable then, but it was a whole lot better than now. I get really depressed about it sometimes. LIke the other day I went to find a bustier to wear under my dress. Well, I ended up crying in VS!
Post # 4
I know exactly how you feel. I know FI thinks I’m beautiful and he tells me all the time, but he also has a mad celebrity crush on Eva Mendes. In the teen movie of life where she would play head cheerleader, I’d have played the mathlete. So even though I know he loves me and thinks I’m beautiful, it stings to know that his idea of perfection is something that I could never be.
Post # 5
check out http://current.com/shows/infomania/target-women/ –>comedian who pulls together different ads and such to show how ridiculous the media’s perception of women is
Post # 6
I often feel bad about myself, but not because of the media, because of my friends. I am a GIANT compared to my friends. They all range in height from 5′ to 5’4″ and are all around a size 0 or 2, and I’m 5’9″ and an 8. When I ordered bridesmaid dresses, I had to order two 2’s, a 4, and a 0 petite. My dress was a 10. Bleh. I know I’m not overweight, but I’m totally the fat one of the group.
Post # 7
@finnarro: That link is hilarious! I’m glad someone points how how stupidly we are portrayed on commercials!
Post # 8
@missasb–glad you like it! i love sarah haskins 🙂
Post # 9
ok, so Im a lot older than most of you. I’m 44. I used to be really attractive and thin. When I was 26, I weighed 98 lbs, all muscle (worked out every day). Now I weigh 129. Argh (I’m 5’1″).
I’m still attractive, but not what I used to be. The blessing is that people think I’m quite a bit younger than I am but I know the age is starting to show. It doesn’t usually bother me, but lately, looking at all of the models on the wedding gown sites, I think, “how am I ever going to look good in a gown when I am short, old and built like Sponge Bob?”
Post # 10
Chil- no way are yo ufat.
I’m 5’1″ and an 8
Post # 11
Yes, I think at some point everyone has moments where they dont feel that great about themselves. I actually did extensive research on media and the roles women play in the media as my senior thesis. Researching was really interesting and I learned so much.
On a personal note, my FI likes blondes (paris hilton, hilary duff etc) and I have dark brown hair and dark brown eyes. Its sometimes weird to me that he would fall in love with me, but then you realize that there is so much more than looks. My FI fell in love with me and my soul and when you think about that, you start to realize how insignificant paris hilton is lol.
I am really proud of my looks and heritage (mexican, polish, german ) and I think Im exotic looking 🙂 something hilary duff will never be
Post # 12
i think it’s totally NOT normal if you’re not in some way affected by the media’s portrayal of “beautiful…”
i hate the VS commercials… esp on a night i’ve skipped my workout and i’m piggin out on greasy pizza…
i am no way fat and don’t intend to unhealthily anorexic, but it’s kind of hard to realize this in the midst of computerized, airbrushed, perfect tan bodies floating around on your 55′ led tv. :T