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I've never attended or been in a wedding and not gotten the couple a gift. In regards to what the best man's dad said - well, technically, no one ever *needs* to give a gift to anyone. But I've certainly never heard of it being a tradition for the wedding party to not give a gift. To my knowledge, it's common for the wedding party to all chip in and get something for the couple that none of them could have afforded on their own.
I agree with reherring. That's certainly no tradition I've ever heard of followed. Gifts are never "required" but I certainly don't think the best man's dad was correct.
In fact, I just checked a few online wedding etiquette sources, and they even remind the best man to budget for a gift for the couple as part of his duties!
The only time I was in a wedding was for my sisters. I did not get her a gift. But my reason was that I was a broke college student, had to pay for my dress, my shoes, my flight, my FIs (BF at time) flight since he was also broke, and I had just quit my job (for health reason, I knew I would be broke).
i've always given gifts when in weddings, and my wedding party gave us gifts. personally, i feel like they're your nearest and dearest, so while the gifts don't need to be expensive (because they're already spending a lot for your wedding) it's nice to show you care.
as a bride, im not expecting a gift from my wedding party - partially because its a semi destination wedding and they are paying for dresess, rooms, bachelorette, shower, etc.
if they do get me something i sure hope its NOT expensive. but i am guessing if they do get me anything it will be like a keep sake type thing - or something that reminds us of our relationship. meaningful gift....
all of the weddings i have been in (up to 13 now!) i have usually gotten the couple SOMETHING - depending on how much i already had to spend on the wedding. for instance, one wedding i was spending upwards of 2K already with the destination bachelorette, expensive dress etc... they got a frame from me to put in one of their wedding pics. however another wedding where everything was local and totally cheap i got $300 sheets for their bed. its all relative.
I've always gotten a gift when in the bridal party, but its usually something smaller and more meaningful. I generally can't afford an expensive gift after all the money I've already spent, but I always want to give something.
The last wedding I was in, I actually didn't give a gift to the bride and groom. I got them a really nice shower gift, bachelorette party gift, made all of their programs...and the wedding was three hours away. And I was the only bridesmaid that made multiple trips up for it. By the time we got to the wedding I looked at their registries and they were wiped out and I felt weird giving cash. I kind of feel bad I didn't give something, especially since now I know a lot more about weddings.
But she didn't seem to mind...and when they were opening their gifts I don't recall any presents from any of the other wedding party members.
I've been in 5 weddings and gotten shower, bachelorette and wedding gifts for all of them...
I guess I just wanted to help them start their life together. I never counted my bridal party attendance as my gift. Although since I was in 3 last year alone, had a certain amount I was going to spend on each girl's wedding for gifts, travel, attire, hotel etc so I divided what was left after the dress and shoes and spent that on their gifts.
I'm a gift giver though... I love giving gifts! I'd feel horrible not giving my closest friends a wedding gift!
I always have! I usually give more (never buy something, always give money) because if I am in the wedding I am obviously a close friend/family member. Only one time I didn't was bc it was a destination wedding and she told us not too since it cost a couple thousand to be there. But I did get her something nice at the bridal shower
There is one wedding in which I did not buy the couple a wedding gift, and I was the maid of honor. However, I spent upwards of $2,000 on the wedding once you count my plane ticket, hotel room, the 2 bachelorette parties that I threw, setting up the honeymoon suite, and all the gifts we gave the bride at her b-parties. I simply could not afford to add a wedding gift to that, and the bride understood. I'm going to give her something nice for their 1-year anniversary.
I think as a general rule though, bridal parties do give gifts to the couple.
Ive been in 3 weddings and have always gotten a gift. Everyone in our wedding party got us a gift as well except for one person but he came from across the country and is low on finances and to be honest we really didnt care. Its definitely not mandatory to get a gift but I would always give a gift even if I was part of the wedding. That doesnt mean it has to be the most expensive thing and I wouldnt expect it to be but something is always nice.
i always give gifts when in a wedding party. sometimes not an expensive gift if i already spent a ton to be in a wedding party, but usually still a gift worth at least $50.
I think it will depend on each person's financial situation. If the best man is poor and already spent a lot to be in the party then he probably doesn't have to get you a gift.
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Now, I've only been in one wedding which was my sister's but always thought the wedding party usually gets a gift for the couple. The other day we were hanging out with the best man and his dad when my FI jokingly said he can get us an IPod Touch for our gift. The best man's dad told his son (the best man) that anyone in the wedding party doesn't need to give us a gift. That was the first time I ever heard that and I know my girls have already mentioned that they got us a gift. Now I'm not trying to be a greedy bride but I was a little insulted the best man's dad. I'm guessing a few guests will not bring a gift but has anyone ever heard of the wedding party not giving a gift?